I am jealous!
#315023 - 09/14/07 09:50 AM
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TATYANA
Reged: 07/22/07
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Loc: Washington, Seattle
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Last night (as always), my man suggests we go out to eat because he wants to get out of the house. My IBS isn't stable at the moment so I mention that to him but he wants to get something to eat anyway. We drive over to the barbecue place where he buys take out and we're driving back home. As I'm driving, he's eating barbecued ribs, potato salad, corn bread and pork beans. The smell in the car is overwhelming so I have to crack the window open. The smell of his food makes my mouth water and stomach "talk". I get so angry because I cannot eat it. I say nothing.
Or what about all the other times when he wants to go to Baskin Robins? I sit across him as he eats pralines and cream or butter pecan ice-cream. I have no choice but to sit there and be mad. There's only 1 non-dairy ice-cream in Baskin Robins and it has too much acid/sugar in it.
I keep switching from mad to feeling sorry for myself to being optimistic.
For all of you out there, not being able to eat like everyone else, I give you a bow!!!!!!!
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IBS-C since 2006. No signs of IBS now, it's been 4 yrs. Only dairy allergy now.
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That must be so difficult!
I'm lucky that mu hubby will eat what i eat, so if i'm not allowed something then he wont eat it in front of me or just wont eat it at all.
Maybe you should have a word and ask him too eat all that sort of stuff whn your not together and maybe be a little more considerate of your feelings and needs?
Hope he listens :-)
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Re: clairews6
#315031 - 09/14/07 03:30 PM
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TATYANA
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Loc: Washington, Seattle
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He's diabetic type 2 and he should watch his diet, but he doesn't. He just exercises a lot, eats lots of sweets, especially ice-cream. It makes me mad because he gets away with it without pain, even though his sugar is sky high. He has a mind of his own, you know? He says: Don't worry about it.
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IBS-C since 2006. No signs of IBS now, it's been 4 yrs. Only dairy allergy now.
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I'm the total opposite. My coworkers or friends/family members will eat whatever on a regular basis and as soon as I get a whiff of what they're eating and I say Mmmmmmmm they get embarrassed and try to cover up the food and say, "Oops, I'm sorry!" to which I reply, "Are you kidding?! I'm eating vicariously through you guys so please, indulge. Indulge damn you!"
This coming week is the Feast of San Genaro in Little Italy. You know what that means: zeppoles, sausage and peppers, toblerone candy, etc. I'll take the walk with my coworkers (if the anxiety is not present that is), my olfactory senses will be assasinated by the smells of the above mentioned, but I'll go to win everyone a couple of teddy bears by sinking the balls on the pool tables. At least I can do that!
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Taking it one day at a time...
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OH. You poor thing to have to endure that torture. I completely understand b/c I have taken many a trip to the boardwalk and forgone sausage and peppers, pizza, the scrumptious funnel cakes, and ice cream. It sounds like your guy doesn't completly understand what you're going through b/c if he did he would see how inconsiderate he is being. It is quite impossible to avoid ALL the time, but at least he can try to limit your exposure. I myself am terrible with willpower when something is in front of me so I'm best to not go at all to a tempting place. I hate holiday parties when sometimes there's virtually NOTHING safe (eggplant rolatine, pasta w/ cream sauce, fresh mozzarella, alcohol...the list goes on).
Can you bring a delicious substitue with you when you guys go out? (for example, an IBS chocolate dessert to eat at the ice cream parlor) I know it's not the same, but it's better than watching and salivating as I would do too 
As far as your reactions to it, you're entitled to be "mad" and resentful once in a while, just try to make sure your optimism outweighs those feelings. Hang in there. 
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Originally IBS-D for a million years!
Then IBS-A, Now a transformed slightly C
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My roomie's bf decided to make grilled steak (and chicken) and my roomie tossed in some chopped carrots, zuchini (I forgot how to spell zuchini lol), and brocolli in some foil to grill too. My roomie rarely eats red meat so her and I had the boneless, skinless chicken breasts (which I specified) and my roomie also made mashed potatoes with milk and butter and skin. She'd left the skin on half the potatoes she cooked and peeled the other half. So I had to mention I needed a separate bowl of peeled potatoes. So I just mashed mine up with salt and pepper (I love pepper!), and the chicken was just seasoned with some season salt, pepper and garlic powder and the veggies were plain. So I had a big bowl of mashed potatoes, a chicken breast, and a fairly large helping of veggies. It was really good, but that steak...I had to steal a bite of my bf's steak  even though I shouldn't have.
But he'll buy stuff like Cheese Nips or Cheese-Its and eat REAL cheese on his quesadillas, and he'll buy real ice cream and he'll make real milkshakes...oh and it drives me batty! He'll also eat cookies made with milk and eggs.... Yes, I'm totally hating it, so I really understand where you're coming from.
No, I'm not really stable either, haven't been consistently stable for more than a month at a time.
I found some soy ice cream and ice cream treats that I can eat, but they are not cheap at all. I can usually make a smoothie that's safe for me, but I do miss the real stuff.
I keep telling myself, though, that even if it wasn't for my IBS, I'm still eating more healthy (I hope!) and I count my lucky stars I'm not allergic to gluten, soy, or nuts.
It's expensive to buy some substitutions, but overall it's more economical and cheaper to make stuff homemade, then you know what goes in it. Lean pork seems to be ok for me. Beans are ok for me too. But sometimes I don't always trust restaurant or fast-food types of foods whose ingredients I'm not certain of.
Good luck, you're not alone! *hugs*
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XOXO from lil' ol' me. (IBS-C, mood disorders, etc., etc.)
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