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Bevrs, he's a totally real HUNK, a man & a gentleman.
Kate.
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He's a good man whose main concern is my health, and when I'm doubled over with an attack, he's right there to bring me tea in bed. I'm guessing there aren't too many men these days who would do that for their wives.
I'm a lucky gal. Thanks!
Bevvy
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Hi Gracie,
I guess you could say IBS hasn't hurt our relationship at all.....we've been married 39 yrs. Hubby is very good when I say I don't feel like going out cause my tummy is bothering me. He doesn't mind that I'm usually eating something different than he is. He never looks at me strange when I eat the same things over and over cause I know they don't bother me. He never laughs when I have to carry a medicine chest in my purse. (actually, one time he was glad I had some Imodium with me because he needed it).
Lots of different things happen during the course of a long relationship. He had bypass surgery a few years ago and I was there right by his side during the long recovery. When I had my appendix out he was right there bringing me stuff cause I didn't feel like getting up. When I have my panic attacks he tries to be a calming influence.
IBS is nothing compared to the other stuff we have been through. He has been a trouper through it all.
Barbie
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I had IBS before I started dating Mac, I got officially diagnosed the first time about month after breaking off a long term relationship with someone else, but I'd had it for a few years. Mac knew about it sort of before we started dating. His way of asking me out was he came to my dorm room door, and asked me to ask him out on whatever my version of coffee was, since he knew I couldn't drink it! We ended up going for a long walk the next evening.
He's great about making sure I eat, that I have things I can eat, that we go out to places where I can eat something there, he cooks for me, eats what cook no problem, always asks me if he can do anything to make me feel better, helps out around the house with my fibro (in fact will drive me to school when it asks up so much I can barely walk), takes me to the doctor's, and is more worried about me most of the time than I am! He also knows I want to be held when I don't feel well (weird quirk of mine) and oblidges when he can!
In fact, he's making me breakfast in bed this morning since my fibro's acting up (we were out late last night at a holiday party for his lab).
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Friendship is thicker than blood. ~Rent
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Aww that's very sweet!
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Congratulations on being married 39 years. It's great that you found someone understanding of your IBS and doesn't say it's all in your head.
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Funny you should mention this.
The other night, after eating a BOLCO wrap, I became bloated.
What always happens during this time is my stomach will ballon, and my arms shrink.
I always am self conscious of this, and being someone whose body to me is what a classic corvette is to an antique fad, it demoralizes my soul.
I have been told it is all in my head.
Then my gym partner comes up to me, and repeatedly was telling me my arms look much scrawner.
He kept repeating this over and over, in a joking way, but you could tell he really saw a difference.
This made me want to cry and drap myself in a long sleeve sweater.
So yes, when IBS causes a physical appearance change, it hurts my friendships.
It makes me want to lie down and scream "I surrender."
It would be the equivilant of an antique fad seeing his prized Model T Ford getting pegged by children throwing rocks.
I wish for two things, one for this to stop happening to me, two if this does happen to me, that I might aquire some set of skills so this will not cripple me.
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Have you tried giving both your BF and his mother reading material on how IBS can be very different for each person and the different things people with IBS go through?
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You should talk to your doctor, or a GI doctor.
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