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Thanks for the encouragment Linz. 
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I got IBS too after I married my hubby. I don't think he always understands my stomach(heck I don't) but it doesn't really affect our relationship at all. He's had D before hit him out of the blue and knows what that is like so I think he can relate somewhat but not on a daily basis like me.
Sandy
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I just found out that my reoccuring stomach issues, that started during pregnancy and have worsened since, are caused by IBS. I live with my boyfriend and our 8 month old son now. He definitely doesn't understand what I go through, and I can tell that he thinks I'm being a drama queen a lot. But I know he can't even relate; he has a stomach of steel- nothing upsets it or bothers it ever! He can eat whatever he wants w/out ever having any sort of gas, bloat, pain, or discomfort. And his mom is a very stubborn woman (with a lot of control over him) and she often tells him and I that I overexaggerate my condition because her friend has IBS and she gets along just fine. Her attitude really frustrates me. She doesn't understand that maybe my case of IBS is different from her friends. She doesn't understand the stress I'm under being a full time college student and mother to an 8 month old. She doesn't understand how little sleep I get since my baby doesn't sleep through the night yet. She thinks she undertands IBS but how can she? She has never experienced it. Not only that, but She hates that I can't eat the greasy, fatty food that everyone prepares at her house/holiday parties and rolls her eyes when I apologize for my food sensitivites. I'd say that his mom's attitude towards my IBS hurts our relationship more than my boyfriends! Sometimes though I wish he'd be more understanding when it comes to my lack of sleep and consequent IBS symptoms. When our son wakes up 6 times a night for a few days my stomach gets pretty bad because I'm so exhausted and he just can't relate or grasp that lack of sleep influences my gut- thus, he thinks I'm a drama queen. Seeing as I was just recently diagnosed and I've just now started changing my lifestyle/diet I guess I'll have to hope, see, and pray that my relationship can stand up to my IBS (and his mother!!).
Amber
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Wasn't hers the bar in San Francisco where the marquee was blinking boobies???????????????
Your hubby is a cutie....my goodness what a smile!
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Have a blessed day!...Rachel
stable and sooooooo thankful!
I have IBS but it doesn't have me!
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My IBS didn't arrive until about 7 years ago though I have had bout of it for over 20 years. My husband hasn't been entirely sympathetic but it has more to do with his upbringing than his being a "donkey". His mother had major health issues and used them to make him do stuff and that robbed him of his childhood.
What works for us is that I don't really say much about it unless I am really hurting and then he pretty much leaves me be. I am not one who needs a lot of pampering when I don't feel well, I just want to be left alone. We found the balance that works for us...
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Have a blessed day!...Rachel
stable and sooooooo thankful!
I have IBS but it doesn't have me!
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I hate being pampered when I'm sick. I want to be left entirely alone....my husband respects that. He leaves me alone when I don't feel well. That's why we were "designed for each other". His mother has Lupus and his dad is diabetic. So, he spent his entire childhood caring for his mother while she was bedridden. I guess he is kind of "used" to being around people that have health issues. Nobody really ever gets used to it.....but, he knows how to deal with it. His parents were supposed to come over here for christmas but since they know what I'm going through they called and cancelled their trip because they both know it puts alot of stress on my heath, just to have visitors. And it does.....because I want to be left alone when I'm sick. I have a high respect for what they did for me.
Michelle
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IBS-D. Hiatal Hernia, GERD
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I just started developing IBS when dating my husband. In fact, the second after he proposed I had to run to the bathroom with D. So he was fairly warned. He is really great about it. Once in a while everyone can be annoyed by the effects of IBS but he has been great. I have a lot more trouble with his family and other close friends not understanding how important it is for me to eat right and how much PAIN IBS can cause. I think an understanding spouse is a complete necessity. I couldn't tolerate him being a jerk about it.
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IBS-A for 20 years with terrible bloating and gas. On the diet since April 2004. Remember this from Heather's information pages:
"You absolutely must eat insoluble fiber foods, and as much as safely possible, but within the IBS dietary guidelines. Treat insoluble fiber foods with suitable caution, and you'll be able to enjoy a wide variety of them, in very healthy quantities, without problem." Please eat IF foods!
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