I need a hug and am SO upset.....
#169980 - 04/14/05 06:01 PM
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_Willow
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My mother doesn't believe I have IBS. She never takes anything we say seriously, and this isn't one I need her to add to that list. When I was 24, I had appendicitis. She lived 5 mind from the hospital but wudn't come because she doesn't believe me. I'm devastated. We've had a hard time lately, and i am usually not SO emotionally triggered, but I'm so nauseated and crampy right now I can hardly think.
I know some of you have been there, and God am i sorry.
-------------------- Keep on keepin' on...
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awww honey! I'm so sorry. I don't have any advice.. but cheer up.. family can suck sometimes
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I'm in the same boat. My parents "believe" me but do not think it's a serious illness and think that the bloating is just in my head.
Please accept my sympathy and my support - *we* will always be here for you.
-------------------- Elizabeth
all those years it wasn't IBS - it was celiac!
send me an email: liz@dopple.net
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I couldn't possibly have said it better. I'm fortunate that my parents "believe" me and are fairly understanding, but I think they still don't "get" that I'll never be cured of this, and that's hard sometimes.
*We* will definitely always be here for you. Hope you feel better quickly!
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Sorry, I don't have any advice either. But I'm sending big hugs and hoping that one day your parents will understand.
-------------------- Amy
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It's only my mother who's the problem. Everyone else acknowledges it, and most of them get that it's for life.(My dad and stepmom are very supportive) I left a nasty message on the machine at Mom's, and she never did call me back. maybe she's thinking it over. We've had a hard time for the last few years, and she's been known to tell me "call me back if you're for real, I'm watching a show" when I was about to get my appendix removed. even 10 mins before surgery she didn't BELIEVE me.
You can imagine how awful that feels.
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Hi there, I am so sorry that you are not well, hopefully you are feeling better today. It is sad that you and your mum cannot see eye to eye but dont let that bother you as the more you think of it the more you will suffer. These things happen. Not everyone believes in us and some think we have gone a bit crazy. Keep in touch with us and you will realise that others are with you. Love Jenny
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{{{hugs}}}
#170018 - 04/15/05 12:27 AM
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Linz
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Okay, getting her to believe you might be possible, but like the others said, even when people believe you they rarely "get" it! That's partly why the boards are so popular!
Would she read through parts of "IBS: The First Year" for you? That was a great info source for me...Heather explains it so well with so much scientific back-up that it can help to get the idea through.
Good luck...and remember that we're always here for you even if no-one else understands!
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I send hugs from the top of my heart. Some parents just don't understand anything and that's just the way they are. Luckily, both of my parents understand to the best of their capacity to understand and are always supportive. My mother just went on an Immodium run for me. It's one of those out of the blue D-days and I hope it's just a day. I'm just sitting here holding on to my guts between runs to the toilet. But, I send hugs and empathy.
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Big hugs sweetie! My parents understand and are supportive but my inlaws aren't. They don't try to even have a clue. It's really tough when family doesn't support you. Hang in there ok?
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Well,
#170114 - 04/15/05 09:07 AM
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_Willow
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I sent everyone a website that my doctor reccommended, that was written by medical people, and the comment was made after that. So, I doubt it.
My tummy feels better today.
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I'm having a feeling it might be a D day because I've had a good week and a half with C! Something's gotta break!
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Oh, I'm so sorry you're having a hard time right now. Please don't let your mom get to you. The more stressed you get the worse your tummy will feel. No one, not even family is worth making ourselves sick over. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. My husband doesn't believe me either. He thinks it's all in my head & that I get too stressed. He's always telling me to take a Yoga class, like that will magically make it go away. I know a lot of my IBS is stress related & yes, yoga would probably help but if he keeps making comments about the way I eat....well then I'm just gonna remained stressed!!! He just doesn't get it, much like your mom. I've come to the realization, that some people just won't change & there's nothing I can do about it. Let them think/say what they want. I'm NOT going to let it get to me. You should try (I know it's not easy) to take the same attitude. Whenever she gets to you, just come here & vent. We understand & more importantly, we believe you. I hope you feel better soon. ***hugs to you**** Meryl
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My DH didn't believe me at first but now he's going to be my biggest ally. thank God.
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*HUG*
#170311 - 04/16/05 04:38 AM
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khyricat
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some mothers are just not there or understanding.. my grandmother isn't there for my mom because she can't deal with health issues of any kind, never has dealt with them. Mom has Crohns disease.. and when I got sick she kept telling me I had the same thing (hello- different symptoms, and diagnosis) and keeps telling me I am doing the wrong things to take care of myself... whatever. I do what I need to do and have learned to let her BS roll off of me for now.
-------------------- Dietetics Student (anticipating RD exam in Aug 2010)
IBS - A
Dairy Allergic
Fructose and MSG intollerant
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and I still really feel she thinks this is trivial. She went so far as to say she has heartburn too(no kidding, that's not severe GERD!!!) and IBS,(not diagnosed, how hyppoctritical!)
And Khyri, jeepers, I feel for ya. It's irritating, huh?
I'm gonna work on the BS rolling thing. Good plan.
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