Re: tlc
#10110 - 05/28/03 02:54 AM
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tlc
Reged: 03/06/03
Posts: 207
Loc: Australia
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Hey there,
I know what you mean when you say it's hard for people to understand if they haven't been through it or having the pain yourself. People can try to understand or be sympathetic, but until they have been there and 'walked in our shoes' they can't really comprehend what it does to us. Your Dad does mean well - he just doesn't really know the best way he can be of support for you probably.
I hope you are ok.
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WOW! Everyone gave you tremendous advice Angela!!!
I think your mom has a hard time delaing with her stomach issues--and you are a reminder of them (I know that's how it is with my mom)...so if she can get you to eat "her way" and be okay...she can justify doing it herself.
Your dad really does mean well--he loves you a lot (as my dad does too) but when your kid loses all this weight, especially in our world of anorexia and bulemia (sp?) parents get concerned that you're not eating for other reasons as well.
I think parents have a hard time being open to many things. My mom works for doctors and she thinks she and the doctors know best. Many "old school" doctors don't know beans about IBS, Crohns, Celiac, and many other digestive disorders out there. They know what they were taught years ago...and they stick to it. But new info. comes out all the time! (One of my docs thought I couldn't have IBS because one of my symptoms is constipation--can you believe that one?! He was my gyno though, so not really his area of expertise...).
In any case, I think you're truly special for not judging your parents negatively! It's hard! I feel my mom is in denial and my dad is just clueless. I know they want what's best for me--but as we grow up--we begin to realize that sometimes they know best and sometimes we know best! I think you're doing AMAZING because you're listening to your parents, judging them favorably, taking them into consideration, and DOING WHAT YOU FEEL/THINK IS BEST FOR YOU! Keep it up--you're doing the right thing here in every direction--and things will work out in your favor in the end!
I can't wait for your doc appointment! I hope that will help--let us know how it goes!
(((((((BIG HUGS))))))))
Ruchie
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Formerly known as Ruchie
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