It is my 13th Anniversary today.
#86649 - 07/06/04 05:24 AM
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BarbaraS
Reged: 02/12/03
Posts: 1939
Loc: Wisconsin
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I know it should be an exciting day, but we are going through a rough peroid right now.
We also have company today - my husband's sister and her family. It is not a bad thing they are coming today, because they will keep the tension down.
Please remind me the good things about marriage, so I can cheer up today. 
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Happy Anniversary!! I will be going on 14 years in September.You arent alone, things arent so great on my end either.Makes me wonder how all these long lasting marriages survive? Hope you cheer up and he does something nice for you today!! ~~~~Tanya
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Happy Anniversary Barbara.
Ok here it goes:
Carry heavy stuff
take out the trash
walk the dog
fix the car
cook on the grill
fix stuff around the house
play with the kids
do most of the driving on trips
keep ya warm on a cold night
set up the stero, vcr, computer, etc.
can find a bathroom anywhere quickly
take all the family photos and videos
These are some of the things that I try to remember when I am feeling frustrated with my hubby.
Hope you have a good day.
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To Barbara
#86670 - 07/06/04 06:45 AM
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barbie
Reged: 04/22/04
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Loc: Texas
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Hey Barbara,
I am so sorry that you are having a rough time, especially on your anniversary.  Happy Anniversary, anyway. Have you just recently been having problems?
We have been married 37 yrs and there were some rough spots along the way, too. Especially when you are trying to raise children....that just adds to the tension sometimes. And then there's the "mid life crisis" trauma. I think most good marriages go through rough patches at some time or another.
It always helped me to write down how I felt and then get all my ideas together and then we would talk and try to work it out....with some give and take on both our parts.
Anyway, I am so glad I stuck it out because I am happier now than ever....But I still get mad at him like yesterday when we were pressure washing the driveway and it was hot and I was ready to be through and he kept pushing.....let's do a little bit more<<<WAH>>>I got through it, though, and then he took me out for Italian food afterwards and I was better than ever!!! 
Do you have a friend you can talk to? I know I worked with a girl that had lots of husband problems and after she talked it out with me she always felt better. It's not good to keep it all inside.
Good Luck
Barbie
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ok, i'm single so frankly i have no idea what the good parts of marriage are....
i'm sorry you're having troubles. still, 13 is a milestone, no!?
ok. let's see if i can give you some good things...
- you know who to blame when the toilet seat is up
- sometimes, there's someone else to take out the trash, even if you have to mention it a few times before it gets done
- in-house bug-killer
- when married, there's someone else who is responsible for going to stare at the open-hooded malfunctioning car incomprehensively. saves you the time!
- husbands are handy jar openers
- there is ALWAYS someone else to blame when you're married
- no one asks you "so... when are you getting married?" (remember how irritating that was!?)
hmmm... that's my starter list. i'll add more later!
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Hey Girlfriend!
I can tell you why you should remain married. One word: Ferrari! 
(Sorry.) Just can't get my mind off that beauty.....
Okay, here's my pitch, for what it's worth.
Don and I will be celebrating our 37th next week. I think we're lucky; we have a good marriage. More than anything, we're best friends; we have great respect for each other. We've been married to each other longer than we were single; neither of us could imagine life without the other.
It wasn't always that way. We had tough times; we came very close to separating on our 6th anniversary. It was the Women's Movement that caused such a change in our relationship. It was a good thing, believe me, but it was a difficult time, and we almost didn't make it. Thankfully, Don saw the error of his ways!
It really comes down to this: do you love him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? Do you respect each other? Is he your best friend? Can you talk to each other and work things out between you, no matter what's happened? Can you forgive him?
I'm not the same person I was when he married me. But then, neither is he. We were such opposites that none of our friends thought we'd last. While it's been a bumpy road, it's also been an exciting one. Nothing boring about our married life! Well, maybe now -- but not back then!
Damn, am I rambling again?
Honey, if you love the guy, and if you're sure he loves you, whatever the problem, work it out.
Don't forget the Ferrari!
Bev
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..... I can see that my friend Wacky WIW will make an excellent wife!
Well, with one exception: she doesn't realize that the toilet seat is NEVER left up. No, no, no. Bad chee. Number one Fung Sui rule: all your fortune goes right down unless you keep that lid closed!
I look forward to taking on the "more later" .....
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There are things that you know you can't do together. Power washing the driveway. Hanging wallpaper. (Worse fight we ever had was while hanging that damn wallpaper -- the stuff ended up one panel right side up, the next right side down, all around the room! And that's how we left it -- believe it or not! Actually sold the house that way!)
Pick your fights. Is it really that important if he uses your best towel to dry off his car? Let him have the damn towel; go out and buy a better one! Does it really matter that he told the neighbor it was okay to cut down that tree that you loved so much on your property line? Go out and buy a fabulous-looking Japanese maple and plant it there.
Bottom line: would that bed be warmer without him lying next to you?
Smooches.
Bevvy
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toilet seats
#86703 - 07/06/04 08:00 AM
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jenX
Reged: 08/11/03
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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lemme tell ya, in my home the seat better not ever be left up! in fact, the whole thing needs to be closed (so males and females do the same amount of work, so what's the biggie!?) my ex and i used to fight about that when we first started living together. then he realized why i am such a stickler. the first time he sat down in the puddles on the seat from my rambunctious cat who loved to "fish" in the potty, well, he got the point! the seat was never up again!
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