JBI
#86190 - 07/04/04 12:36 PM
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jenX
Reged: 08/11/03
Posts: 3252
Loc: Richmond, VA
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Jamie--
i know i just talked to you but then i read your post about why you're still single. you know what, Jamie, i know you're going to do just fine. you're one of the most lovely men i know and i imagine that only gets better when people are actually in the same room with you (as opposed to being online, ya know). i think you're quite handsome, too. so don't get discouraged too much. (which is difficult, i know!) as hokey as it sounds, it's just not "your time" yet and when it is you're going to be the happiest you've ever been! it's going to make all of this waiting seem like nothing.
as for the girl you kinda wish it hadn't ended with- ya never know what time will bring. it may work one day. or it may not. who knows!? but i have 2 of those guys in my past- one very distant past and one quite recent. the guy in my very distant past- well, he's now my best friend. i can't imagine dating him (for which his wife may be glad!), not at all (at all!) but i can't imagine my life without him. he's the best man i know. the other one, the recent one, i kept kicking myself for my part in the breakup. well, i always try to remind myself that there's something better in store- and there almost always is. at least, that's how it's been doing so far in my life. i've always found someone so much better than the last- especially when i thought " but how can the universe top THIS guy??!" the universe always had- just not on my timeline.   
anyway, i just wanted to say you're a really great guy. i hope you meet "her" soon, whomever she is, but in the meantime, there's always Foxy Boxing.
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#86215 - 07/04/04 02:42 PM
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JBI
Reged: 01/25/04
Posts: 579
Loc: BC, Canada
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Chinagrl and Barbie, thanks for the posts.
And Jen,
Thanks for the post. But Alas, Foxy boxing is no more. They outlawed it (rightly so). hehe.
It wasn't my intention to get all this sympathy, however, you guys have once again shown how wonderful you are.
In the grand scheme of things I'm not too worried about meeting someone. I know I'm still pretty young and as you said, it's just not my time right now. I can appreciate this, and in all honesty, I'm not too bothered by being single. I think it's just that overall I've realized that I'm quite unhappy with my life and this @#$%ing town and the fact that there is no opportunity to meet new people just emphasised how much I dislike it. I'm happy that I'm going to be leaving, but now I just have to make it through the next 6 months without being too bitter.
I'm looking forward to trying something new, and if it works out that it ends up being my time to meet Ms. Right, then great, if not, as long as I'm enjoying my life more, I'll be happy.
That being said, it'd sure be nice if her car happens to break down in front of my house this evening and she shows up at my front door 
With regards to the one I regret. I was worse before but now I am pretty much over her. It's too bad that things went the way the did, but that's what happened and nothing can change the past. Plus I know I've done all I can after the fact to make things right, it's all up to her, but I'm not going to be waiting by the phone for her to call. I've gotten on with my life.
Thanks again though,
Jamie
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ahhh the one that got away.. the regret... does everyone have one? Actually mine is NOT a regret, I gave my everything and tried to get in touch.. so I have no regrets, except for the fact that he was too dumb to see a good thing when he had it.
Life minus vinnie was seriously getting so much easier. I still dreamed about him alot, and I still thought about him, but instead I though.. oh well his loss.. oh yay now I get to have experiences with boys a la JenX etc. haha... it sucks, but it definitly is his loss...
Today is a hard day though.. its the three week anniversary of the last time he's acknowledged my existence AND I was supposed to go to his house for the fourth and spend it with him.. so its hard considering its something we always did together..
my parents tried to cheer me up though and we bbq'ed, and saw the fireworks and we went to home depot and I bought paint for my NEW "ALL MINE" APARTMENT!! its pathetic.. you can tell i'm getting older, paint makes me happy. I got a great ash violet for my room... a palm color for the bathroom and yellow for the rest of the house (I move in a a lil more than a month!!).. soooo me! and since its the fourth I got each gallon of behr paint for only 10bucks.. but still.. despite my cool paint its hard having to realize that someone who you thought you knew isn't really you thought they were.. it definitly hurts that he won't even acknowledge me... we could have at least been friends... but obviously he's not that smart.
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#86283 - 07/04/04 08:50 PM
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JBI
Reged: 01/25/04
Posts: 579
Loc: BC, Canada
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Hey Ashley,
Overall I've been pretty lucky and have been able to stay friends or at least friendly with a bunch of my ex's. However, it doesn't happen overnight. I'm really good friends with one in particular, but it was almost two years before things weren't 'weird'.
It sounds like you're doing the right thing and focusing on yourself and things that interest you and not worrying about Vinnie, but I do know that it can be tough, especially when you had made plans that aren't being fulfilled.
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you can tell i'm getting older, paint makes me happy.
Excuse me? I can't let this stand; I have to correct you, my dear. You're not "getting older," you're finally maturing! Paint is a damn important thing to have in your life, and wallpaper, and flooring, and ceramic tile, and .........
Decorating your new condo is going to be one of the most exciting things in your life -- because it's all YOURS. You can do anything to it that you want -- and then invite your friends in to share it with them. It's GREAT fun. It's part of the American dream, Girlfriend!
And I'm SOOOOO glad you're doing well without Mr. V. You've got the right attitude. And you're absolutely right: it IS his loss. One day he'll look back and realize what he had and how he screwed it up. By then you'll have that condo in mint condition, all fabulously furnished, and on the market for sale for $1 million! You'll be engaged to a young man who puts V to shame, and you'll have forgotten who V was.
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its hard having to realize that someone who you thought you knew isn't really you thought they were
Yep, that's happened to all of us. It's a hard lesson to learn, but we all have to learn it. It just cushions us for the next blow, whatever that may be.....
"That which you survive only makes you stronger."
Bev
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Ashley, I totally agree with Bev.
Though, I think the ex might not be smart enough to realize what he had.
You are beautiful, bright, and moving on with your life! I am so proud of you, and so glad we were all here to help you through the first days. I think your new place is going to be absolutely gorgeous, the bedroom sounds so dreamy! Love it!
Keep it up girl !
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Have lots of fun with the painting. Ive just been painting some feature walls and have bought a new lounge. All very nice - if I may say so myself!!
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Thanks Gayla...
I'm glad you guys were hear to help me too through the first few weeks!
and I am really excited about my purple bedroom.. purple makes me so happy.. I wanted to get something more adult though, so my mom and I spent alot of time finding a great color that is not too babyish! I can't wait!
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Hi...
I know I know.. I'm not old.. I just wanted to see if anyone would catch that..
I guess I am maturing.. thats for sure.. a few years ago I would have been like ughhhh paint.. what the h$ll?!?
I'm really excited about my condo too, and I hope that everything you say does come true.. although I doubt that the condo will ever earn one million dollars.. its only 600 square feet, and one bedroom, but you never know, I'm sure it will make some!
Anyways, thanks for the support, I was feeling pretty crappy about it all yesterday for obvious reasons.. how are you doing?!?
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Girl, you have a great mom, she sounds just like me !!!! Except, I am helping my dil, the other dil is so creative you should see her house !!!!!!
For years I have been hooked on Burgundy, soft pinks, tiny bits of plum. We are preparing to do some renovating, you have sparked my creativity. I think I am also going to go for that type of color in my (our) bedroom. That color makes me feel so sweeeeeeeeeeet, content, relaxed......
Yep, I am going for it too!! Have fun honey, keep on movin' on!!!
Tell your mom how much she means to you, and how much you appreciate her all of her love and support,oh, and those great decorating ideas !!!! It will means so much to her, I promise !!!
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