JBI
#86190 - 07/04/04 12:36 PM
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jenX
Reged: 08/11/03
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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Jamie--
i know i just talked to you but then i read your post about why you're still single. you know what, Jamie, i know you're going to do just fine. you're one of the most lovely men i know and i imagine that only gets better when people are actually in the same room with you (as opposed to being online, ya know). i think you're quite handsome, too. so don't get discouraged too much. (which is difficult, i know!) as hokey as it sounds, it's just not "your time" yet and when it is you're going to be the happiest you've ever been! it's going to make all of this waiting seem like nothing.
as for the girl you kinda wish it hadn't ended with- ya never know what time will bring. it may work one day. or it may not. who knows!? but i have 2 of those guys in my past- one very distant past and one quite recent. the guy in my very distant past- well, he's now my best friend. i can't imagine dating him (for which his wife may be glad!), not at all (at all!) but i can't imagine my life without him. he's the best man i know. the other one, the recent one, i kept kicking myself for my part in the breakup. well, i always try to remind myself that there's something better in store- and there almost always is. at least, that's how it's been doing so far in my life. i've always found someone so much better than the last- especially when i thought " but how can the universe top THIS guy??!" the universe always had- just not on my timeline.   
anyway, i just wanted to say you're a really great guy. i hope you meet "her" soon, whomever she is, but in the meantime, there's always Foxy Boxing.
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#86215 - 07/04/04 02:42 PM
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JBI
Reged: 01/25/04
Posts: 579
Loc: BC, Canada
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Chinagrl and Barbie, thanks for the posts.
And Jen,
Thanks for the post. But Alas, Foxy boxing is no more. They outlawed it (rightly so). hehe.
It wasn't my intention to get all this sympathy, however, you guys have once again shown how wonderful you are.
In the grand scheme of things I'm not too worried about meeting someone. I know I'm still pretty young and as you said, it's just not my time right now. I can appreciate this, and in all honesty, I'm not too bothered by being single. I think it's just that overall I've realized that I'm quite unhappy with my life and this @#$%ing town and the fact that there is no opportunity to meet new people just emphasised how much I dislike it. I'm happy that I'm going to be leaving, but now I just have to make it through the next 6 months without being too bitter.
I'm looking forward to trying something new, and if it works out that it ends up being my time to meet Ms. Right, then great, if not, as long as I'm enjoying my life more, I'll be happy.
That being said, it'd sure be nice if her car happens to break down in front of my house this evening and she shows up at my front door 
With regards to the one I regret. I was worse before but now I am pretty much over her. It's too bad that things went the way the did, but that's what happened and nothing can change the past. Plus I know I've done all I can after the fact to make things right, it's all up to her, but I'm not going to be waiting by the phone for her to call. I've gotten on with my life.
Thanks again though,
Jamie
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ahhh the one that got away.. the regret... does everyone have one? Actually mine is NOT a regret, I gave my everything and tried to get in touch.. so I have no regrets, except for the fact that he was too dumb to see a good thing when he had it.
Life minus vinnie was seriously getting so much easier. I still dreamed about him alot, and I still thought about him, but instead I though.. oh well his loss.. oh yay now I get to have experiences with boys a la JenX etc. haha... it sucks, but it definitly is his loss...
Today is a hard day though.. its the three week anniversary of the last time he's acknowledged my existence AND I was supposed to go to his house for the fourth and spend it with him.. so its hard considering its something we always did together..
my parents tried to cheer me up though and we bbq'ed, and saw the fireworks and we went to home depot and I bought paint for my NEW "ALL MINE" APARTMENT!! its pathetic.. you can tell i'm getting older, paint makes me happy. I got a great ash violet for my room... a palm color for the bathroom and yellow for the rest of the house (I move in a a lil more than a month!!).. soooo me! and since its the fourth I got each gallon of behr paint for only 10bucks.. but still.. despite my cool paint its hard having to realize that someone who you thought you knew isn't really you thought they were.. it definitly hurts that he won't even acknowledge me... we could have at least been friends... but obviously he's not that smart.
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#86283 - 07/04/04 08:50 PM
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JBI
Reged: 01/25/04
Posts: 579
Loc: BC, Canada
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Hey Ashley,
Overall I've been pretty lucky and have been able to stay friends or at least friendly with a bunch of my ex's. However, it doesn't happen overnight. I'm really good friends with one in particular, but it was almost two years before things weren't 'weird'.
It sounds like you're doing the right thing and focusing on yourself and things that interest you and not worrying about Vinnie, but I do know that it can be tough, especially when you had made plans that aren't being fulfilled.
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you can tell i'm getting older, paint makes me happy.
Excuse me? I can't let this stand; I have to correct you, my dear. You're not "getting older," you're finally maturing! Paint is a damn important thing to have in your life, and wallpaper, and flooring, and ceramic tile, and .........
Decorating your new condo is going to be one of the most exciting things in your life -- because it's all YOURS. You can do anything to it that you want -- and then invite your friends in to share it with them. It's GREAT fun. It's part of the American dream, Girlfriend!
And I'm SOOOOO glad you're doing well without Mr. V. You've got the right attitude. And you're absolutely right: it IS his loss. One day he'll look back and realize what he had and how he screwed it up. By then you'll have that condo in mint condition, all fabulously furnished, and on the market for sale for $1 million! You'll be engaged to a young man who puts V to shame, and you'll have forgotten who V was.
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its hard having to realize that someone who you thought you knew isn't really you thought they were
Yep, that's happened to all of us. It's a hard lesson to learn, but we all have to learn it. It just cushions us for the next blow, whatever that may be.....
"That which you survive only makes you stronger."
Bev
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Ashley, I totally agree with Bev.
Though, I think the ex might not be smart enough to realize what he had.
You are beautiful, bright, and moving on with your life! I am so proud of you, and so glad we were all here to help you through the first days. I think your new place is going to be absolutely gorgeous, the bedroom sounds so dreamy! Love it!
Keep it up girl !
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Have lots of fun with the painting. Ive just been painting some feature walls and have bought a new lounge. All very nice - if I may say so myself!!
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Thanks Gayla...
I'm glad you guys were hear to help me too through the first few weeks!
and I am really excited about my purple bedroom.. purple makes me so happy.. I wanted to get something more adult though, so my mom and I spent alot of time finding a great color that is not too babyish! I can't wait!
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Hi...
I know I know.. I'm not old.. I just wanted to see if anyone would catch that..
I guess I am maturing.. thats for sure.. a few years ago I would have been like ughhhh paint.. what the h$ll?!?
I'm really excited about my condo too, and I hope that everything you say does come true.. although I doubt that the condo will ever earn one million dollars.. its only 600 square feet, and one bedroom, but you never know, I'm sure it will make some!
Anyways, thanks for the support, I was feeling pretty crappy about it all yesterday for obvious reasons.. how are you doing?!?
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Girl, you have a great mom, she sounds just like me !!!! Except, I am helping my dil, the other dil is so creative you should see her house !!!!!!
For years I have been hooked on Burgundy, soft pinks, tiny bits of plum. We are preparing to do some renovating, you have sparked my creativity. I think I am also going to go for that type of color in my (our) bedroom. That color makes me feel so sweeeeeeeeeeet, content, relaxed......
Yep, I am going for it too!! Have fun honey, keep on movin' on!!!
Tell your mom how much she means to you, and how much you appreciate her all of her love and support,oh, and those great decorating ideas !!!! It will means so much to her, I promise !!!
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The Condo
#86362 - 07/05/04 08:22 AM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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Loc: Northwest Washington State
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Hey Ashley,
600 sq.ft. is a perfect size for you. That's the size of our condo! It's a tough squeeze for 2 people. One little closet just doesn't cut it. And don't get me started on having only one toilet.
But for one person, oh yeah! Do you have a garage or a carport? We have neither. It's tough, especially when you have 2 cars, 2 racing shells, rowing gear, kayaking gear, gardening equipment, tools, and a LOT of junk. We had to rent a storage unit across town.
Do you have a balcony or patio? You'll use it more than any other room -- because there's fresh air out there! Kinda gives you a little more space, ya know?
Do you have a separate kitchen, or is it part of your living room (like ours)?
Does the condo come with drapes and/or curtains? Or will you have to sew some? I can help you with that. What about a shower curtain? Or do you have a glass door?
Are the floors carpeted, or do you have hardwood? Is the unit an upstairs, or downstairs unit? Someone on both sides of you as well?
Gee, this is exciting for you. I'm anxious to see some pix.
When do you get to move in? Probably not 'till September, right? It'll come sooner than you think.
Bev
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thanks gayla.. I'll definitly let her know.. i'm sure she will appreciate it tons and tons..
anyways, I say purple power.. I'm sure your bedroom will look gorgeous as well... and I'm glad i was able to inspire your colors as well. hehe
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Hey girl..
The closing is in the end of july.. and my mom, my sister and I are going to go up then to do a little scubbing and alot of painting, and I will probably move in in the middle of August. In time to start a job so I'll have a little money and get settled and know my way around by september when school starts.
hmm as for your questions, I actually think it will be perfect for me as well.. I couldn't imgaine having two people in there though.. it will be a tight squeeze.. oh yeah.
I don't have a garage, but then again I don't have alot of stuff at all. I do get a deeded parking space, in a fenced in area right outside of my condo which is great considering it is boston.. and parking isn't something in full effect around there...
and I do have a balcony which is really exciting! its pretty small.. definitly can't fit a lounge chair out there, but it can fit some flowers and a regular chair to sit out there and relax.
The kitchen is actually attached to the living room.. well it looks into it, the living room is off of the eat in counter with barstools. the best part is that the kitchen was just redone, so it is in great shape and there are hardwood floors throughout which is nice.
The bathroom however, is a different story.. its 70's mustard yellow, but it will have to work because I can't afford to have in any other way.. However, I found this great shower curtain at target with a tiny bit of mustard yellow, sage green and blue.. and we got sage green paint in attempt to tone down the flaming yellow bathroom.. my mom has years of decorating experience so she thinks it will really work...
As for curtains.. the only bad part is that there are hardly any windows in this place.. well there is one HUGE window in my bedroom, and I already have curtains for it from my old apartment from college.. and then there is only a sliding glass door in the living room, which lets in tons of light however, and I will probably try to make something cute to put on there.. however, there are blinds on it already.. (kinda boring) but will work for now..
And lastly, its a fourth floor unit.. my parents refused to let the agent even show them anything ground level.. haha they were scared about me being in the city alone.. Even though my area is really safe, they didnt' want anyone scaling the walls to get in.. typical parents, and I'm glad too cause I'd probably be scared of that as well. My old roomate and I used to sneak around the house with pots and pans because of every sound we heard.
I am pretty excited and I am looking forward to it.. especially now that I have my paint all picked out and that I can start getting things to make it look pretty.. luckily I already have alot of stuff because I've lived away from home for five years now (aside from a few summers).. but I still need to get some new and cute things..
Anyways, thats the story for now.. sounds good to me..
have you planned out everythign for your house? and the colors etc?
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#86490 - 07/05/04 02:11 PM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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Loc: Northwest Washington State
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Your condo sounds EXACTLY like ours! Same size, same kitchen, same counter with barstools, everything the same except we don't have hardwood floors. Lucky you. Ours is all carpeted except the kitchen area, entry and bathroom -- all vinyl. Ew.
The balcony is a Godsend -- you'll love it (UNLESS you end up with a damn smoker below you -- 'cause the smoke blows up into your balcony and in the window. Gross.)
We have a lot of plants out on our balcony -- it's the only place we have to garden. You'll love playing in the dirt, especially if you have WORMS.
The bathroom sounds bright. Eeek! Your mom sounds SUPER, and I love her ideas. Yeah, the green will tone down that yellow. Gee, I'd love to see pix.
We also have blinds. I really hate them, especially when it comes time to clean them. ARGGGGH! What a mess. However, they do a good job of providing privacy and keeping out the hot sun. If we were to stay here any longer, I'd definitely make curtains and lose the blinds. Curtains are much softer and warmer-looking. I did make drapes for the sliding glass doors going onto the balcony -- it had those plastic vertical blinds over the door, and I really hated it so much, I just couldn't stand it. Drapes are easy to make and look much nicer.
Your parents are right about being higher up. We're on the second floor (there are only 2 floors), and condo owners on the first floor are always complaining that people take ("borrow") their patio furniture, thinking the unit is a rental, and never returning it. I wouldn't want someone to be able to just walk right up onto my patio. (Also, the first floor condos are always getting hit with golf balls.)
I'm so happy for you, Ashley. Hey! You'll be moving in about the same time we will. (I hope.)
When you go to Boston, you'll take your laptop with you, won'tcha? We'll still be in touch, eh?
Bev
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hey....
our condos do sound similar...I think alot alot of one bedrooms are really similar considering they are so small...
Anyways, I'll definitly be bringing and using my laptop in boston! hell yeah... I couldnt' stay away
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