A romantic dinner for 2?.....
#80866 - 06/18/04 02:46 PM
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Nugget
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I am missing the way things were when my hubby and I first met...you know, the conversations that lasted forever, looked forward to seeing each other again, that warm and fuzzy feeling inside (and it wasn't IBS). Don't get me wrong....hubby and I are very much in love....I just feel we are in a bit of a rut. Granted...I haven't felt well lately. We still have lots of great times together and always will. We try to go out on a "date" every week or two....we enjoy each others company tremendously....we cuddle every night in each others arms as we watch TV before going to sleep. We spend a lot of time together.....I'm not sure what I'm looking for here, but I guess I trying to gather suggestions, input, etc. from those of you out there who are married. We have been together for almost 10 years and have been married for 6. We have lived together all but three months of those 10 years. What is your favorite romantic dinner to fix at home that is IBS safe? What are some things you and your hubby do together to keep the romance alive?
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Hi Nugget,
We have been married for 36 years. I think we all go through those feelings you are experiencing now. You just want a little more romance in your marriage. Sometimes after years of marriage the situation changes from romance to your husband being your best friend. We are in that stage and I think it is the best stage of our marriage. We have so much fun and laugh a lot. We write notes to each other and he e-mails me from work and we love joking around. This may sound weird to you, but, when we are out doing yardwork and our dog is with us and we are laughing that is more romantic to me than when we first met and were always gazing into each others eyes and saying all that mushy stuff!!!!
My son leaves notes to his wife on food in the fridge. Also when he is feeling bad she brings home a balloon. I think that is a cute idea.
Our romantic dinner is when I grill chicken for me and steak for him with new potatoes and green beans. Most of the time we eat in front of the TV...romantic, huh.... but it doesn't matter as long as we are together.
I don't know what you are worried about, it sounds like you have a great marriage and a wonderful husband. Cherish it.
Barbie
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WOW Barbie... you sound like Shane & I and we have only been married less then 2 years.... it is a wonderful thing!! Our dinner is totally the same too....(not kidding)!! We go for drives (pick somewhere we have never been...) take a different route...even if only an hour or so from home. We email eachother love notes. We leave eachother cute notes.... I've left them in his car on the seat... in the drawer in the bathroom that I know he will open in the morning, inside the laptop.... cuz I know he will open it. In between some of the "snail mail". I also bring him home a single rose from time to time just because. Or a box of his favorite candy (Red Hots)....
We plan things WAY in advance... and weekend trip and stay in a hotel, a concert....things like that.... 4-6 months away.... gives you something to think about and plan for....you can bounce ideas off of eachother for what to do on the trip etc.
Rent a movie or something... turn off the computer, cell phone (put to voice mail), turn ringer off on home phone. Suggle up and just be TOGETHER......no interuptions.
Take the dog for a walk together...... or take the dog somewhere to play in the water.....???
Ok... I need to get back to work... I could go on for hours!! 
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Sorry no advice - I sure can use the same advice as you. July 6th we will be married for 13 years.
Make his favorite meal and make your favorite IBS friendly meal. Maybe it is alot of work, but you will both be happy. Rent a movie you two use to enjoy together and and make popcorn and snuggle together.
Okay I said I have no advice, so I'm wrong. 
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Nugget, you may not want to hear this..... but what is "romance"? I don't know what that is anymore.
Don and I have been married for 37 years. Romance disappeared a hundred years ago, if it ever existed at all.
Okay, so I don't remember romance. The last romance I had was with my first fiance, who was killed in 1963. I don't believe in it anymore.
Don and I are the best of friends. We always have been and always will be. We spend all our time together and talk about everything together. There's nothing that we can't and don't talk to each other about. To me, that's enough. To me, that's everything. It's a comfortable feeling that we have being together. That's romantic enough for me. Frankly, I think that's what it's all about. You either grow together or grow apart, and we've grown together. I love him more now than I ever did. I know he feels the same.
I just don't do "romance" anymore. I don't want it, I don't miss it, I don't think about it.
What you have described between you and your husband sounds good to me. Keep it up, and you'll both grow together. And then, after 37 years, you'll look back and realize how happy you were after all. Enjoy it now, because those 37 years will fly by. Trust me.
Bev
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As I re-read my original post, it sounded like I was complaining or something. My husband and I do all the things you all mentioned. We go for drives, we take the dogs for walks, we go out to dinner, we go "people watching", we laugh a lot, we leave each other notes, e-mails to each other from work.......just less often than we used to. I don't know what I'm trying to say or how to best explain it....and no, romance doesn't mean sex....there's plenty of that, too (when I feel good).....I guess, I just don't want him to get bored with having a wife who is alway...or usually....not feeling well. Ya know?
We did go on a "date" tonight....to Popeye's Chicken (brand new in our neighborhood). Very good. Then came home and snuggled by the TV....as he tried to stay awake.
I'm not complaining....please don't get me wrong....I have a wonderful marriage and husband.
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You didn't sound at all like you were complaining. It sounded more like you were looking for new ideas to keep the spark in your marriage. There's nothing wrong with that. Although our husbands can be our best friends they DO love having romance in their lives just as much as women do. Shell had some really good answers for you. They are all spontaneous. You could have dinner by candlelight. Go on a picnic! Plan a romantic getaway together if only for one night. I think the planning of it is almost as much fun as the getaway itself. I think you were just looking for some new ideas and that's great!!!
Go for it!!
Pat 
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