Sad news...need a shoulder
#80557 - 06/17/04 04:30 PM
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JosephC
Reged: 01/25/04
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Hey all,
I dont venture in here much, but I needed to vent this off to feel better.
Today was a sad day. Today I had to put one of my dogs to sleep. She was about 14 and she was having some bad heart problems. We knew it was time, but it didnt make it any easier. We're going to miss her a lot-she's always been around and now she wont be.
I dont want to bum a lot of people out, but it feels good to just get it out and try to move on.
I'd post a picture of her, but I cant seem to find one...maybe later.
Thank you all for this time.
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I totally understand what you are going through. A long time ago we had a 13 yr old Golden that had stomach cancer and we had to have him put to sleep, too. I still remember that day as if it was yesterday. My sons actually built a coffin out of wood and we put him in there and buried him in our backyard...all the while crying our eyes out. We were all so sad afterwards that we figured the only way to help the pain and move on was to get another dog....so we got a golden retriever puppy. This is our current dog (he is now 12yrs old) and we love him like he is part of the family.
I know it hurts really bad right now and you will feel better but you will never forget.
Barbie
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Gee, Joseph --
#80559 - 06/17/04 04:45 PM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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Loc: Northwest Washington State
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I'm so sorry for your grief. I know how you feel because we had to have our beloved dobbie put down. He was the same age as your dog, and he too had heart problems. It was one of the toughest things I've ever had to do. But please believe that your dog is in a better place now; it's horrible that animals suffer and can't tell you what hurts -- I can't stand it when my dog is in pain.
You'll always remember your beloved dog, even when you get another. And that's my suggestion. We were so grief-stricken that we said, "no more dogs." So we lived through the grief. It was tough.
Don't do what we did. When we finally went out and got ourselves another dog, many years later, it was a Westie, completely different kind from our beloved Dobbie. It was the best thing we could have done. Murphy was SOOOO much fun, and she helped us immensely with all the grief.
We never forgot Max -- and we never will -- he was an exceptional dog. But Murphy was so different, that we loved her too, just as much, but in a kind of different way. Certainly no protection like Max was, that's for sure! But a total lap dog who could hug like Max did not.
We had to get of Murphy, and it broke my heart. We thought she needed company because we were both working at the time, and when we had Max, he was very lonely too; we didn't want Murphy to be lonely like Max was.
So we got another Westie to keep Murphy company. It turned out they hated each other. For 6 years all they did was fight. We couldn't get them to like each other, no matter what we did. One had to go -- it was Murphy.
I still miss Murphy, but not as much as I miss Max. Even to this day. You'll always miss your dog too, just accept the fact. BUT you can give all that wonderful love to another pet, a different pet, maybe a totally different kind, like we did, and it does not mean that you're not being true to the older beloved dog.
Please give it some thought. My heart goes out to you.
Bev
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Thank you so much to you both (and preemptively to anyone else I might forget to say it to later). We have two other dogs now-one is a pup of hers and he's about 11, but acts like a puppy, and a stray beagle that actually came around the time when Rusty was sick the first time around. So at least we have them to keep us company.
I know the feelings already. I lost a cat 4 years ago. Kitty was black cat that I had forever...she was probably 16 when she died. We havent gotten a cat since, but thats mostly from having a full enough plate already. Anyway, she got a kidney problem and we tried to hold on too much and she didnt go very peacefully, so both me and my mother promised we wouldnt do that to another of our pets if we could help it. This time we knew it was time. It was like she was already going, she just needed us to give her permission.
The thing is were actually trying to move. Ive lived at home these last few years to help collect 13 years of mostly crap and leave, but things dont always work out that way (cough*IBS*cough), so in a way, it seems that she left for us. Maybe thats selfish, but it's like she made it a bit easier to move on without worrying about her. We do wish she could have seen the snow in the winter(she loved the cold), but she'll be with us in our hearts.
My mother wants to cremate her so we can put her where we move and she'll be with us there (instead of here after we leave hopefully soon), which I agreed with.
She'll always be with us in spirit, I know, and even though it hurts a lot, she went with dignity and comfort that leaves me at least feeling content.
Thanks again to you all. All I know is I look forward to my session of hypno tomorrow just to relax a little bit more.
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I'm so sorry to hear about your dog Joseph, it's so hard to lose a pet. I still miss my dog, Samson, who passed away over five years ago.
I'll be thinking about you,
Kelly
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How terribly sad! There really are no words except to say that I hope in time your wonderful memories of your dog will always bring a smile. Feel blessed to have had such unconditional love! Feel better soon!
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OH, NO, Joseph, how awful! How sad! How heartrending. We just had to put our 15-year-old cat to sleep the end of April because her kidneys were failing. I've definitely been missing her because I'm home full time and she was my companion. I walked past the couch where she usually slept today and felt a pang in my heart.
My sympathies and total understanding. Glad you shared it over here in the Living Room. BTW have you heard of the Rainbow Bridge? Do a google on it, it's REALLY sweet.
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I understand, too, Joseph. Losing a pet is losing a member of the family. It breaks your heart. I've lost 3 dogs now - the first was stolen, the second went at 7 yrs old from lymphoma, and the 3rd died at 3 1/2 years old - accidently killed by the vet. It doesn't matter how old they are or how they went, it's so hard. I often look at our current doggie, Annie, and wonder what I would do if something happened to her. They are such a big part of a dog lover's life. It's so hard.
My heart goes out to you.
S.
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I just wanted to stop in and tell you how sorry I am. Losing a beloved pet is one of the hardest things you can ever go through, and as a huge dog lover myself, I feel your pain. I have a 3 year old black lab and he's my baby.
My thoughts go out to you. 
Kristine
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Thank you for that site. It made me cry some more, but thats good. I know I'll see her again someday.
You peeps are all great. Thank you for your kindness on this really difficult day.
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Oh sweetie...I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been there and that is not an easy thing to do. My heart goes out to you. I'll pray that he get an extra bone tonight.
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I'm so sorry about the loss of your dog. Pets are like family members. I had to do the same thing years ago when I had my dog and it really hurts even though we know it is better for the dog.
Hope when the grieving lessens you will think of giving another dog a good home, not to take the place of the dog you had but because you are the kind of person to give another dog a good home.
Best Wishes to You,
Pat
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Joseph,
I'm very sorry to hear about your pet. I grew up with a dog that had to be put to sleep because of heart problems and he had a stroke. He was 17 years old I was 20. Pets are part of your family and we all love them just like you love the rest of your family.
My family has 2 dogs now we used to have 3 but one of our little guys past away a year ago so he's in our back yard with a little headstone dedicated by our son whose is 14.
One of our dogs is 11 and the other is 7. You'll never forget about your dog I was 20 like I said when my dog I grew up with had to be put to sleep and I am now in my 40's I have never forgot him as a matter of fact our 11 year old dog found us we did not find her I say it was my dog up in doggy heaven steered her to us. I thank him for that.
Again I am sorry about your pet.
Terry
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Joseph, I'm so sorry about your doggie! Our pets really are a part of our family and it's so hard to lose them. I had to put down my beloved kitty a year ago because her kidney was failing so I know just how you must be feeling. Hang in there... with time it gets easier.
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sorry to hear about your loss. I know how it feels.
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I want to give you ALL a big hug and thank you for all your kind words, prayers, stories, and sympathies. Its still soon, so the grief is still kind of fresh, and I look around the house and remember all the stuff she did, all her little quirks and mannerisms. But then I think that the fact that I can recall all that means that she'll never truly be gone, and I know I'll see her again someday.
However, I feel a bit selfish because I worry what effect this might have on my IBS recovery. I hope that is an ok feeling to have. I missed a few sessions on my CDs (again!) and had some D this morning. I'll get over it like always. I just feel a bit bad that I worry about me at this time.
My mom is taking it a bit harder. She was with her a whole year (mostly) alone while I went to school in Orlando and she's having a hard time coping with it. And the other two dogs seem to know she's missing, too, especially her little boy. I just pray they all move on ok. I know I will.
I found a good picture of her from last Christmas that I'd like to share in her honor. I have photos and some video of her that if it ever gets a little hard to recall her best, I can easily be reminded of exactly the kind of dog she was. She was regal, dignified, danity, and curious. And no dog will ever take her place.
Again, thank you all. Im sure where she is, Rusty appreciates it, too. I have at times felt she's still around us now, watching over us and helping us move on.
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Joseph you sweetie pie! She's GORGEOUS! And of course it's okay to think about yourself and the effect on your IBS. When our cat died, we both had upset stomachs for a week. And I cried so hard I got the worst migraine I've had yet. Grief affects all the systems of the body. And while grieving is important, your health is important too. It's just a matter of finding the right balance. Rusty would want you to take care of yourself, I'm sure.
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