Yet another comment about what I am wearing here at work.....
#76207 - 06/04/04 09:22 AM
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Nugget
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.....well, I forced myself to come to work today even though I didn't feel good enough to go. I decided to kind of "dress up" today for a change. So I wore a very nice (new) sweater that I've never worn yet because it wasn't warm enought (it has short sleeves). It is black on the right side with a tan sleeve and tan on the left side with a black sleeve. It has embroidered loose graphic drawings of cats streching, laying down and standing on both sides and a little sillouhette of a red mouse....on the back it has a cat drawing embroidered on the left shoulder and one on the lower right side. It buttons down the front and the buttons look like pewter cat faces. I thought it was very cute! I love cats! I bought it at Christoper & Banks (I love that store). I have a sleeveless white shirt on underneat that you can see with the upper button undone. I wore it with my black jeans and my leather slip on shoes.
Well, I get to work and the older gal who gave me a hard time about my shoes the other day (the younger gal took today off) said as she looked me up and down..."you look nice.....why?" I just shrugged my shoulders and she said "you just wanted to wear cats on your breasts?" They don't even come anywhere near my breasts! Besides my breasts are so small anyway! Then I said I just wanted to wear it and she said "Oh, hummm...it looks nice." ArrrgggHHH. She is really getting on my nerves. She thinks she is being funny I guess, but right now I don't need it....ya know....it would do me more good right now to hear "you look very nice today" ....rather than "why do you look nice today"
Am I being unreasonable?
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some people are stupid.
that's all i have to say on the matter.
(oh, except: YOU GO AHEAD AND WEAR WHATEVER YOU WANT! WHO THE HELL EVER HEARD OF INSULTING SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY LOOKED NICE!? YOU WORK WITH A MORON! I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF SOMETHING THAT ABSURD IN MY LIFE AND I HAVE HEARD A LOT OF REALLY STUPID THINGS! I SWEAR, IF IT WERE UP TO ME I'D MARCH IN THERE AND REALLY TELL THAT LADY OFF! WHAT A MORON. "WHY DO YOU LOOK NICE?" WHAT ON EARTH DOES THAT MEAN!? WHY WOULD YOU EVEN WASTE YOUR BREATH ON SAYING SOMETHING THAT STUPID!? DID I MENTION? SHE'S A MORON! WHAT A RIDICULOUS THING TO SAY............ )
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this gal has said a lot of stupid things to me.....like the time i showed her a photo in a magazine of the wedding dress I was ordering when I got married (six years ago).....she said "It doesn't look like you." But she was nice enough to have a bridal shower for me at her place....she can be nice and then turn around and say stupid things. I don't understand. A real friend wouldn't do that.
I wish I worked with you, Jen.....I wish we allllll worked together....then everybody would understand when we had a rough day. Ya know?
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OK... not really... but this is what I would do..... tell those cats that your are "wearing on your boobs" to scratch her eyes out!! LOL  Did I really say that? hehehe
I agree with Jen.... you wear what you want.
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you know what I think it is Nugget? It's jealously. She's envious that YOU have the confidence to wear WHATEVER you love and feel comfortable in, REGARDLESS of anyone says to you or may think. She is ENVIOUS because she knows she wouldn't be able to do the same because she is too worried about what other people may think of her and will judge her...and instead of ADMIRING your self-confidence she defends it through her nasty commments -- just PURE SPITE! Ugh 
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There's a lot I'd like to tell these kitties on my t(well it rhymes with kitties) to do to her. Ha!
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.....you are exactly right. Thank you!
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Laura
Keep it simple!
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Why don't you put her on the spot and call her on it? Ask her why she is being so ugly to you. Ask her how come she can be nice sometimes and then so hateful other times? And today would eb a good day to do it- since her partner in evil isnt there to back her up. It would put her in the hot seat for a change!
Hope your day gets better! ((hugs))
jill
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....that's a good idea, but I'm not sure if it would do any good. She just says what she wants no matter what. She doesn't think it's wrong.
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Laura
Keep it simple!
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Yeah, sometimes it's better to just ignore it.
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Laura
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I guess it is. Its just that I am more of the in your face kind of person! Sometimes I forget that it can make things worse instead of better.
I still say I can come and beat her up for you, if you like!
Jill
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.....when I could say plenty about how she looks (or her buddy), but I don't. Like when she gets her hair dyed and it's too dark, or when she wears crop pants and they don't look right on her, etc. I just keep my mouth shut.
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Hey Nugget,
What's up with these two "hussies"??? Have they just started acting like jerks or has this been going on for some time?
Your sweater sounds really cute. I used to work with a lady that wore cats on everything because she loved cats, too. I thought it was cool.
Maybe a good answer when she said "you look nice....why?" you could have said, "thanks, I've already gotten several compliments on this sweater so I'm glad you noticed".
I know it is hard but just try and ignore the (doesn't know what cool fashion is) dummy.! 
Anyway, I feel like going over there and kicking her butt!!
When you get home give those beautiful dogs a hug and you will feel better. 
Barbie
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.....I can't wait to get home to my husband and my dogs....and it is FRIDAY!!!! Funny thing is...when she says these things, she acts like nothing is wrong....she doesn't know how ignorant some of the things she says is. Ya know?
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Nugget, I feel so bad because I have said stuff like that to people. I start out meaning to say something nice but then I want to be funny too, so I throw something really off-the-wall in before I even think about what I'm saying. I know I've offended lots of people. I try to carefully evaluate everything I say before I say it but then people think I'm developmentally disabled because conversation with me becomes so stilted. I even once asked a woman I really liked if she was pregnant. She wasn't. I KNEW BETTER! She later went on to become my boss and we seemed to get along great. She was a champion and never held it against me. I was so afraid of saying anything to her that it took me months to get up the nerve to apologize.
Anyway, please don't hate people like me. In my case I only say stupid stuff because I like you and want you to know that I noticed your new outfit and think it's cute. It's not because I'm a scheming psychopath intent on ruining your day.
If it's any consolation, I will beat myself up for hours afterward, "Oh - why did I say that, why did I say that, why did I say that?" all the while hoping you took it in the spirit I meant it, not in the way it sounded.
When you see me coming, put on your armadillo cloak and try to let my idiotic words bounce off you.
On the other hand, maybe your colleague is just a b***h, in which case forget what I've just said. You can always tell their true colors by what they say about other people behind their backs.
sperry_twiggins
P.S. I love cats too and probably really would love your sweater.
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Oh Nugget, that's just awful! I'm so sorry that you have to go through that.
I know it's hard, but try your best to ignore it, she's just being stupid and immature and you shouldn't let it bother you. For the longest time I was so concerned about what other people thought about me and what I wore, that I wouldn't wear some of my favorite clothes because of what people like that would say.
And it was lousy, because they were stopping me from being myself and being happy and everything.
Eventually I just decided it didn't make sense to let them dicate how I was going to feel about myself, and hard as it was, I just started not caring and wearing whatever I wanted. Eventually I even started getting genuine compliments from other people and then the nasty comments just stopped.
Please try not to let it get you down Wear your cats proud!
Kelly
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Some people are just joy stealers and negative about everything. It must be a bad vibes thing. Deep breath and just smile like you have a secret. I love cats and wish I had a sweater like that. Congratulations again on being confident and when you dress so you think you look good you do look good and you feel good too.
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Tammy
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