i'm moving tommorrow!
#74816 - 05/30/04 05:58 PM
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Hi Guys!
the week, sadly is over, and I'm moving out!! I'm really sad about this because I've lived in Amherst for FIVE YEARS.. four to finish school and this last one to stay close to the man and relax before graduate school. It is really strange to be leaving. Plus I haven't had much quality time with the boy because mostly we've spent our time repairing holes and and cleaning up house.  Not exactly fun, especially since I won't see him much this summer.
Anyways, we're kicked out as of tomorrow and then I'm gonna stay at my aunts in connecticut because I want to wait until the labor day traffic is over and leave on tuesday. So if I'm MIA for the next few days.. that is why.
Cross your fingers, this will be my first attempt driving from here, home to DC alone. I'm pretty nervous about it, and definitly have NEVER driven more than three hours at one time. haha my sister also went to umass so we would usually carpool.. she however, is staying here for the summer because she's actually still in school. Any tips for a first time long distance driver would be much appreciated!
Talk to you guys in a few days!
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Yaay, Ashley!
#74821 - 05/30/04 07:15 PM
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It's the right thing to do, Ashley!
I did that trip by myself once, only in reverse. It was 1964. I was working in McLean, VA, and wanted to visit my daddy in Maine. Friday after work I just jumped in my MG and drove north. Stopped off for an overnight stay at Cape Cod. It was a lot of fun.
Take your cell phone (they didn't have them back in those olden days) and of course all your emergency meds.
One last thing: when you say good-bye to the BF, leave him something GREAT to remember you by -- NO tears, just a killer smile and a magnificent kiss good-bye. Save the tears for when you're alone. You want that guy to remember what he's foolishly left behind.....
Have a safe trip.
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haha thanks for the reply bevrs!
I actually live in reston virginia.. do you know where that is? I'm only nervous because I HATE driving, I don't mind riding, but driving to me is hell. I start getting leg cramps and getting irritable after 3 hrs. haha i'm a wimp in that respect.
I'll try not to cry when I leave the bf. I don't know how not to though.. so give me your pointers. I never EVER used to cry.. then I turned 21 and since then sad commericals make me cry. I don't know what happened. I'll try though..
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I find driving long distances isn't too bad just as long as you stop every once and a while. Some rest stops are pretty nice, stop, take a walk, use the washroom. Then back in the car and listen to some good music and sing along at the top of your lungs.
Have a good trip!
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Good luck with the move!!
I do the singing thing even when I'm just going down the street! But I think that THE most important thing of all is to know exactly where you're going! You should definitley know which exits your taking and where to get off at and everything. And if you can, find out where the gas stations and things are for quick bathroom breaks! 
Anyways, enjoy your trip!! Good luck, Ashley! 
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thanks for the suggestions guys.. I printed out my directions.. and will spend a great majority of my trip on the new jersey turnpike.. home of millions of tolls and rest areas.. thank god. although not totally in thanks, because new jersey seems like it will NEVER EVER end.
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Oh yeah, printing out directions is good! I highly reccommend randmcnally.com just because Mapquest hardly ever updates! Ooooooo DC sounds fun right now! I only went there once and it was a blast!
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good luck with the drive, ashley! I usually take a book on tape when I drive from Ithaca to my aunt's in Springfield, Va (yep, I know where Reston is  ) I guess I'm lucky though, since I can drive through PA and avoid the whole NJ thing...let us know how it goes. And don't cry too much. If it makes you feel any better, I cry all the time too now--it must be something about turning 21 (I'm 24).
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Hey Tuxedocat!
I was actually looking to take a book on tape to listen too, except they were all about 30 bucks and I can't afford that right now. I can't hit up the library either cause i'm moving.
I have actually driven home with my sister through pennsylvania, however, it takes a little bit longer and the roads are usually dead. Not exactly great considering I'm gonna be driving alone. I'd prefer not to get stuck somewhere in my middle of pennsylvania on my own. But we usually go that way at christmas and thanksgiving when the new jersey turnpike is mobbed.
I hope I dont' cry too much, I already have been for about two weeks now, just thinking about it. Its so strange.. when I was in college I wouldnt cry at ANYTHING.. it was almost bad, my friends called me the ice queen when we'd watch sad movies and I wouldn't shed a tear. NOW, I can't control myself, I went from one extreme to the other. I'm almost 23 so I can totally relate.. maybe its the age?!?
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RESTON?!
#74870 - 05/30/04 09:36 PM
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Ashley, I can't believe it. Oh yeah, do I ever know Reston!
In 1964, after the horrible job I had in McLean, I went to work for a real estate developer named Rober E. Simon. He was building an entire city in the country. Everyone thought he was crazy. He had a big plan to build little shops with condos over them, around a man-made lake, and to have townhouses there. My job was as Secretary to the Director of Townhouse Sales. We built brand new townhouses, and our office was in a temporary mobile home. There was only a two-lane road in and out of the new town he named after his initials: R-E-S TON.
Oh yeah, I know Reston. One summer I swam in Queen Anne Lake (it's not very deep you know), and one winter I ice skated on it. Is it still there?
My mother and father sold the home we were born in in Arlington and bought a townhouse in Reston, where my daddy died. My mother still lives there.
Oh yeah, I know Reston. It was all farmland when I used to commute to that little mobile home in the middle of nowhere, before Reston was built. One winter, the snow was so bad, I had just arrived in my little MG, got out of the car and fell into a snow bank and couldn't swim my way out; I was there by myself forever....
Oh yeah, I know Reston.
Ashley, I'm a crier also. It gets worse as you get older, especially when you're a quart low on estrogen. I know it's tough, but you DON'T want the BF to have that as the last memory of you. Otherwise, he'll always think, yeah, I did the right thing to leave her. Make your exit a quick one, and be up-beat, peppy, happy, cheerful, and plant a real good one on him, just as you cheerfully walk out the door and say, "Bye, Handsome!" Then, after you're out of sight, you can break down.
You'll never regret it.
You can do this, Ashley. That which you survive only makes you stronger.
Have a safe trip -- and let us know when you get to Reston.
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Good luck Ash! Take loads of music and easy, safe snacks! I always get the munchies when I drive - it's the boredom.
I'm a bawler too! It's not pretty. And guys just HATE it. Do your best honey - Bev's given you some great exits to try out! You want him to be missing you as soon as you turn round!
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small world ehh?!? you probably built my parents home! haha. Its a lot different there now from how you describe it.. tons of roads, shops etc. I haven't been there too much so I'm not incredibly familiar with it. I went to high school in pittsburgh pa, and my parents moved to reston after me, my brother, and my sister started college (they wanted to downsize since it was just the two of them), so 2months at a time is the longest i've ever been there, but I'm sure i'll enjoy it.
I'll definitly let you know when I get there! thanks!
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Hey - I just want to say good luck to you. I know how hard it is. My husband was done with school when I was still in college - but he lived in Alaska and me in Indiana. It's a one WEEK drive. I probably cried enough to fill an ocean with the amount of times we had to leave eachother, and just times when I missed him so much. But you know what - that COMPLETELY made us stronger. I think you're going to have an awesome summer. I think it'll take a week or so to adjust, but you will love it.
And I know it's so hard not to cry. I'm a total cry baby. My mom and sister are too. We were all in a hotel room once and a stupid hallmark commercial was on and I was crying - I was kinda embarrassed until I look at the rest of my family. My husband doesn't hate it though! He laughs and thinks it's cute.
Good luck on the drive. Bring lots of candy!  That's what I do.
Take care.
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To tell you the truth... books on tape put me to sleep! I definitely third the suggestion to play loud music and sing along!!!
As for the other suggestions... can you hold it together long enough to get out of the drive way and a couple of blocks away and then stop and cry? That way you don't have to be iron woman but you still get to APPEAR to be iron woman.
Drive safely and enjoy the trip!!
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#74918 - 05/31/04 07:09 AM
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Oh Lord - I never meant to suggest you DIDN'T cry. That'd be impossible in my book. Just not in front of HIM!
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Hey Cara-
#74966 - 05/31/04 10:00 AM
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You said that you met your husband through work? Did you guys go to college together and then he moved back after graduation? It's great that you guys stayed together! It's great inspiration to everyone who says that long distance relationships never work!
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Hey! No we didn't go to college together, he is 3 years older than me. He was full time when I met him at work, and I was an intern. So I went back to Indiana for school (Purdue), and he moved around a lot. His dad is a preacher (he married us!), and they move ALL the time, Justin (my husband) moved with them a lot. He's lived in so many different states, but before he met me he mainly lived in Alaska.
We were long distance for lots of our relationship. When he was in Illinois working (where we met), he drove to Indiana every single weekend the whole time I was in school. Put a lot of miles on his car Finally after I graduated we moved to Chicago and lived with my parents for awhile before we got married.
Confused yet? We're together now - that's what matters. And we're planning a trip to Alaska asap to see his little brother who still lives there. It's the most beautiful state EVER!
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Re: Hey Cara-
#74980 - 05/31/04 10:58 AM
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That's so sweet!! I was thinking about going to Purdue as well. Or possibly their rival! I don't know what I'm doing for college. I want to go out of state, but I can't afford it at all. I want to study to be a pediatrician, and that right there will take up a big chunk of money!!
Alaska does sound really pretty. I've always wanted to go there and to Hawaii. That's amazing that he drove all that way every weekend to see you! That's so romantic! I agree, that be a lot of miles and gas. I'm so glad everything worked otu so well!
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Just wondering if I feel worse than everyone else because I don't think I could move far away and deal with all my sickly feelings away from home. It's hard enough just going to work every day. I'm starting to think I don't have IBS because you guys are talking about eating candy and stuff...I can't eat anything lately. I bought some digestive enzymes though and I'm beginning to eat some at home, but not at work or at anyone else's house.....so is it just me?
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No, Little One, you're not alone. It's not just you. BELIEVE me, it's not just you.
Are you new on the Boards? Have you been officially diagnosed with IBS? Do you have Heather's "The First Year"? Are you following it? How long have you been on the program? Do you take a Soluble Fiber Supplement?
Have you been in the IBS Diet Board? You'll see there LOTS of us who have all sorts of digestive issues. This is the Living Room, where we talk about silly stuff and fun stuff -- so that's probably why you got the impression we're just a bunch of wild and crazy kids (well, we are, but that's another story).
We'd all love to hear your story; why not post a "Hi, I'm a Newbie" post in the IBS Diet Board and let us know a little about your story -- you'll get all sorts of responses, and some excellent suggestions. Don't hesitate to ask any questions, no matter how embarrassing -- we've heard it all.
Again, welcome to the Boards!
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Hello!
It's not just you! There are varying degrees of IBS and it really depends on how severe yours is and whether or not it's under control.
I for one can barely eat anything, candy? Forget it! I live off bread, potatoes and the occasional boiled chicken breat, real exciting.
Have you been able to get stable yet? Because once you're stable and following the diet you should gradually start to feel better. Do you have an official IBS diagnosis?
I can totally understand what you mean about moving away, I honestly don't feel like I could live on my own right now, and going to work is a daily battle. But, I'm confident it'll eventually improve, for you and me!
BTW, I'm in London as well...do you go to school here?
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No is not you, sometimes I feel exactly the same way, that I can't eat anything, but anything, not even water. Try lots of peppermint tea, aloe vera gel-papaya juice mix, and try some antidepressants, valeriana or St. John Wort's plant, it could help. I was there before, don't worry.
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Aloe vera
#75011 - 05/31/04 01:23 PM
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Please read Heather's recent post in the Research Library before you take any aloe vera products. Scary stuff!
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I think most of us have been there at some time. Eventually, you'll learn more about your IBS and how to help yourself. Once you've stabilised, you can play around at a bit more with food - and try out what candy you can eat! Hang in there.
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Go to Purdue! I LOVED it there. Justin wishes he would have went there. He went to Valpo. I know Purdue is in state for you and all, but I just love that school, and the campus is beautiful. It was between that and Uof Illinois for me, but I loved Purdue's campus a lot more. I still go there to football games to meet my old roommates. I miss it!
I went for engineering, and yeah - it's expensive, but I was out of state too. It's good that you know what you want to do - I went through 4.5 years of engineering, studied my butt off and worked SO hard - I only got one B! And now I really just don't like it. I want to work with kids! I just feel SO bad that I spent so much to study something that I don't think I'll do my whole life. SO- bottom line - it's really awesome if you know for sure what you want to do.
I know a couple people from your area - I'm sure it's too big to know them - but I'll run the names by you - Jake Fetters, Jason Lougheed, Jon White....
Take care!
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I'm actually outside of London. I went to Fanshawe for a semester (back when I could eat, and not worry.) Right now I work full time in a factory. I was also working part time at a race track, but I just couldn't do it anymore. Every day almost when I start to feel really bad...usually around 8:30am-9am, I think I'm going to tell my boss I quit because I'm not sure if I'll get through the day. So far I've made it through. I go out to my car and get some chewable pepto-bismol tablets. Half hour later I'm ok, but my stomach ache never goes away. I feel like this is the dumbest diagnosis ever! I don't want IBS, I think it's retarded and I'm so angry. There has to be a better way to fix it, and Doctors know nothing about it. They tell me to read up on it. Thanks allot eh! I'm sorry, but I am so frustrated with this. I don't want to work anymore, but I can't live without the money, I just want to die.
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Thanks for the info. A doctor at the Hospital told me I had IBS. I had blood tests done and an ultra sound, all was normal. I know there are a few other tests I could do, but my Doctor thinks I'm too young to have colon cancer so there is no need for that sort of test. It started one day after supper, I was feeling fine, but right after I ate I had "D" as you call it, and didn't know why. I ended up with a severe stomach ache a few days later and couldn't eat or leave the house for a few days. The stomach ache lessoned but I started having this gas pressure inside my stomach. I still couldn't eat much because food would give me almost like "D" cramps as soon as I swallowed it. I got really weak from not eating and always had this dull ache in my belly, so I went to the hosptial. They said I might have an ulcer and prescribed meds. for that. Well I didn;t have an ulcer and those meds. are expensive. Finally I had a couple tests done and the Doc said I probably had IBS. I've been changing my eating habits to mostly what is reccommended on this site. My mother buys the groceries and makes dinner, so it's hard to avoid every "trigger" food. It doesn't seem to matter what I eat though....everything does it to me. I am mostly "C" have only had "D" 2 times in 2 months since I've been diagnosed, but I'm worried that it's only the beginning. My BMs are always different anymore. The most worrysome part is that I feel like I have "D" coming, but either I stop it with the pepto I take or, it's just a regular feeling now when I eat. Digestive enzymes are the only way I can eat anything right now. I'm miserable with this full-achey-belly I'm lugging around all day. It always hurting or gassy or gurgling and crampy 24-7.
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Hey Everyone!
I got to reston yesterday and am adjusting to staying with the parents for an entire summer.
Anyways, I did you all proud. I managed to avoid crying in front of him when we left. I did however, cry before I left. But for another reason. I was carrying a paint can out to the trash.. somehow dropped it and it fell open and splattered ALL over my favorite pants before we left. I was already emotional from not crying all morning that I just cried.. my fave pants were ruined. But when it came down to goodbye, I sucked itup said bye, i love you, and took off. however, the tears came within seconds of turning my back to get to the car.. but I dont' think he noticed?!?
Anyways, thanks for all of the advice! I miss him loads though..
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Yaay Ashley!
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Hey Sweetie,
I was thinking of you all day yesterday, wondering how you were doing on the road. Did you enjoy the trip? Was it fun, just "chillin'" by yourself? (Well, except, of course, for being terribly depressed...)
Honey, you done good. REAL good. What was the BF's reaction to your very adult good-bye? I'll bet he was surprised. AND I'll bet he's thinking about you right now!
You really DID make us proud. Now it's time to enjoy your summer. Don't forget: absence makes the heart grow fonder!
Welcome home -- glad you made it safe and sound. (Sorry about those paint pants.)
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Yay!
#75448 - 06/02/04 07:06 AM
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Oh you did GOOD, girl! Wowee! Ya made us proud.
What kind of paint was it - emulsion or gloss? If it was emulsion, then it's water based, so scrub it out with a wet sponge and soap and then stick them in the wash. Having a house to decorate is making me good at paint and clothes! 
Well done, honey. Bet he's missing you like crazy too.
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Hi Ashley,
Glad to see you had a safe trip. Sorry about your "paint pants". I know how you feel. I had a pair of pants that had become a part of me they were so comfy and then they got ruined and I never could find another pair like them.
Just want you to know it is OK to cry when you leave someone you love. You will get back into the groove soon.
Hopefully, you can still talk on the phone and e-mail each other.
Good luck
Barbie
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Ashley-
You can rent a book on tape at a truck stop on the way and return it at the same chain of truck stops closer to Reston. Its the coolest thing.
Too bad you are already home- but for anyone else driving long distances - its good to know!
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Yay for you! Boo for the pants. I know the feeling. One time I had just gotten this brand new pair of cream wool pants as a gift that were awesome. Well, even though I pointed out they were dry clean only, Eric washed them. Goodbye pants!!!
Any hope you can replace them?
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Good job! I agree that it's ok to cry when you leave someone you love, of course. I hope you have a great summer, I know you will. It'll be the hardest these next few days.
I'm sorry about your pants! My husband decided to be sweet one day and do my laundry, and he dryed 2 of my favorite shirts and totally shrunk them! I tried so hard not to cry becasue he was just trying to be nice. He felt so bad that he went and bought me 2 new ones that were similar, but just not the same! I feel for ya.... maybe you can find some better ones!
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That's so funny/sad. My sister-in-law is much taller than I am, longer arms and stuff, and she always gives me her shrunken hand-me-downs. One time I asked her why she always shrinks so many of her clothes, and she said, "Because your brother is VERY helpful." I thought that was hilarious. Lucky for me she has good taste!
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See, that works if it's not wool. Washed wool just looks like a loofah.
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Yay, you did it! I BET he misses you loads and you're just cool as a cucumber (so he thinks!). Glad the drive went well. As for the pants, well, you know what that means--you get to go shopping!
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I don't know what kinda paint it was but they are ruined.. I threw them right in the shower and scrubbed away, but they were covered. stupid me.
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Hi, Thanks for all of your kind thoughts!  The trip was alright. At the last minute my grandmother actually decided to join me, and then fly back later on in the for a visit. So, I wasn't actually alone, and didn't have time to think about being depressed.
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YEAH!! You did it.... you did make us proud! Enjoy your time with family..... and buy yourself a new pair of pants too!! hehehe
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