Please Don't Cry
#66131 - 04/29/04 06:50 PM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
Posts: 5918
Loc: Northwest Washington State
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I can't stand someone crying, especially my friends.
I do think it might be a mixed blessing if they "can help you communicate with doctors and get things moving along." That's great! If you get some help from doctors, then you can get better.
Honey, is it possible that we can get you stable? Stable enough so you don't have to take so many sick days? What can we do to help you? We've been working together for a long time, and it seems to me you're doing everything right, but maybe there's something else we can work on?
You have the Equalactin, I know that, and you have your meds. You're not cheating, right? Not even a little? You're taking your fiber, getting your exercise and drinking all your water -- you're doing everything right, yes?
If so, if you are doing everything right, then Girlfriend that's ALL YOU CAN DO. If a company wants to let their employees go, then really there's not much we can do about it. I understand you like this job, but there are other jobs out there. You really don't need the extra stress of worrying about this job. Three month trial period, eh? I hate that. Of course, it works both ways. They're on trial with you, you know; after all, you might not like THEM.
I'm really in the dark here, because I don't know what you do for a living -- but is it something you can do at home? Work out of your house, perhaps?
Let me think on this awhile and see if I can't come up with some suggestions for you..... but please don't cry. We're here for you.
Bev
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Thanks Bev
#66145 - 04/29/04 08:11 PM
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Vicam
Reged: 02/24/04
Posts: 1955
Loc: Ontario, Canada
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Hey Bev,
Thanks for your offer to help, anything you can come up with would be great 
I'd love to get stable obviously, and I'm not cheating at all. I'm ridiculously strict with what I eat, absolutely no cheating. Of course, part of the problem with me is that I still don't know 100% that it is IBS. That's the assumption, but I'm still waiting on a few more tests, so maybe it is something else and that's why all this other stuff isn't working.
I am drinking my water (I drink a lot) and I have a lot of fennel tea, I have GERD so I don't drink the peppermint very often, although I will have some if the cramps are really bad, because frankly, the heartburn is more tolerable. I'm taking my Acacia although still at a fairly low dose (about a teaspoon and a half throughout the day) but moving up slowly.
I really can't see anything in my diet that's causing it, and I don't know what else to do. I get moderate excercise, I get my rest...I don't know. I think alot of it may have to do with my having been trying to get off Paxil, and maybe my body just wasn't ready. I think I may have to suck it up and go back on an anti-depressant (I have anxiety and mild depression) because the Paxil really helped my tummy.
As for my job, I work for a bank and I work in a call centre doing telephone banking, unfortunately not something I can do from home. to be honest, I don't know if the company has anything that I might be able to do from home 
Thanks again for your encouragement, definately let me know if you come up with anything!
Kelly
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O' I just read this and I felt like I had written it!
I started to get really sick in Oct. and didn't know why...
I started with my Family Dr. and ended up at a Gastro Dr. a month later...Between Oct. and Feb. I had missed 27 days of work. Then I had the worse episode ever at the beginning of March and was at a breaking point...So, I took a medical leave and requested STD. I staied out of work until this past Monday but, with the changes I have had to make in my life...I didn't go back to the job I had previously! I found a new job working for a dear friend of mine who knows what I have gone through and knows I will have good days and bad days...How crazy is it that I was on medical leave but I was making things worse by stressing out about not being at the one place that made me the sickest!
Change is good and for that, life is better!
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There is a law that will allow you to take time off of work (without pay - bummer) to have the time and energy to gain control over your diet and symptoms...
This means, you can take off work up to 12 weeks and your job has to hold your job for you...They can not fire you!
Do you have Short Term Disability insurance?
If you don't...get it! You never know when you may not be able to work for an extended period of time and STD leave will cover up to 21 weeks with pay with a few things from your Dr...
Good luck!
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Hi...I am new here but have been reading your messages about your job!
I have advice as I am in banking too and just quit a job because of the treatment I was getting because of being out of work with my medical problems...
You can file a leave of absence for up to 12 weeks and they have to hold your job. You won't be paid but it would give you the time to go to the Dr. and sort out what is wrong.
Do you have Short Term Disability insurance?
I can tell you about that too...
I was so stressed out about the way I was treated at work because no one understand IBS or any digestive problems unless they have had them the same way we have...
The stress got to be too much that when I felt better and that I had my diet under control and have been feeling soooo much better, I quit and got a new job!
Stress is hard to deal with if you are wired at your tummy!
Hang in there...
Any questions I can answer about your job and about leave...Feel free!
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