Re: Michelle
#58418 - 04/06/04 10:16 AM
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Janey
Reged: 10/25/03
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Loc: Maryland
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Michelle,
I have issues with my Mother also, like you they aren't as bad as Bevrs but still difficult to deal with. For many years I have felt anger and resentment towards my Mother and in the last year, after some therapy, have decided to distance myself from her actions and realized that it isn't my fault. My sister and I both decided a long time ago that we would not be the same kind of Mothers to our children that our Mother was to us. I have three kids and have been completely different kind of Mother for them. I have made an effort to be different and it has worked. It helps to realize that things that happened in the past help make you the person you are today and that the bad stuff is in the past. We can only make life better from this day forward.
-------------------- Janey
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Re: Bev
#58420 - 04/06/04 10:21 AM
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Janey
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Loc: Maryland
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I think you are right. The tough times makes us stronger, better people.
-------------------- Janey
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First off.....I like your new picture! So pretty. Second....I'm glad you are here to share your experiences with all of us. You are a wonderful person and you offer so much advice, support, and friendship to these boards....I thank you for that! Third....I still say you should write a book.
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Your so right about making ourlives better today and in the future. I'm just learning how to leave the past in the past, I'm sure it wll take some work but I am DETERMINED to be a better mom than my mom was. I'm not pregnant yet but sure am trying! Its great to know we can still be good moms even though our moms weren't!
-------------------- Taking it one day at a time.....
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for the most part my childhood was very happy and good. There are a few things I would change if I could go back, but I can't so that's that.
It was just me, my mom and dad, and my older (by 4 years) brother. My dad worked away from home alot and came home on weekends and my brother was involved in a local Drum and Bugle Corp. and spent summers "on the road". So a lot of my childhood was spent just my mom and I. Around junior high or so, my grandmother on my mom's side started spending summers with us so it was my mom, me and my grandmother. Had a lot of fun times....the three of us. I was very close to my grandmother....it was so hard when she passed away almost five years ago. My grandfather on my mom's side passed away when I was very young....I wish I had the chance to know him better. My grandparents on my dad's side lived a long way from us....three or four states....and didn't travel much and we didn't travel much....so I didn't see them much and thus didn't know them very well. They moved closer a couple years ago (within three hours away). My grandfather on my dad's side passed away last year but, I am getting to know my grandmother better now and was able to spend some nice times with the both of them before he passed away.
In my childhood days (and still to this day) I was painfully shy. So I didn't take part in much socializing. I wish I would have been encouraged to do more socializing. But, instead, I was always labeled as being "too shy to do that" (whatever "that" was).
For the most part, though....it was very good.
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Bevrs
#58451 - 04/06/04 11:54 AM
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jenX
Reged: 08/11/03
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Loc: Richmond, VA
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smooches, Bevvy.
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Jen
#58452 - 04/06/04 11:57 AM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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Loc: Northwest Washington State
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You are TOOO cute. I love it when you're "up." All that sleep did wonders, eh?
Smooches backatcha, Girlfriend!
-------------------- <img src="http://home.comcast.net/~letsrow/smily3481.gif">Bevvy
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how've you been? How's that new haircut? A guy I work with came to work today with his head shaved! Maybe I should try that.
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