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Well...at my house, my old bedroom still doesn't have a "real" floor, just concrete...and my mom's office was added on to our house ten years ago, and it's still not attached (Dad hasn't cut a door in the bedroom wall yet)...and once I had a friend over and Mom came in my room to say goodnight to us wearing her bathrobe THAT SHE'D FORGOTTEN TO TIE SHUT...so I guess you could say I understand. But the truth is, my boyfriend likes my family, quirks and all, and so do my good friends...even if they know better than to eat anything from the back of the refrigerator! 
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Okay. Here goes.
My mom was an alcoholic who was seldom able to do any cooking. When she did, her cigarette was always dangling out of her mouth as she stirred the pot. The ashes always fell into the pot, which she found amusing. I didn't. One of my jobs was to keep the scotch flowing on chopped ice. She never wore underwear, and when she had her period, blood would drip all over the floor under her. I couldn't stand it, so I wiped it up. She thought that was amusing also.
I was born with a very rare condition, and when I was 16, I was told I would never be able to have children. At a party in our home, full of our friends, my mother, drunk as usual, made the announcement to everyone that, thanks to me, she will never be a grandmother. Incredibly ashamed, I slithered out of the living room and up to my bedroom, hoping no one would notice me.
I could go on and on, but why? It's over. I got myself some education and OUT of the house. And I never went back. I'm a better person for having learned from it.
Bev.
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(Bevrs, what a wonderful, strong woman you are!)
In truth, none of us has perfect parents (some, of course are afflicted by imperfection more than others!); but, then, are we perfect ourselves??? No, didn't think so!
Ultimately, all we can do is worry about/take care of ourselves and accept everyone else for who/what they are (whether they're doing the best that they can, or not).
Wishing that anyone else in your life behaved differently, or acted like the person you want them to be, is futile and miserable: Imagine if the people in your life insisted you become the perfect imaginary person they would like you to be!!! No thanks.
Of course this is the ideal, and it's not always that easy, I know, but it's a nice message for Christmas.
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Don't get me wrong.....I DO realize that others have and had it worse than I, I was just stating my situation. One of the very first sentences in my original post was "I love my parents and appreciate all they have done for me." I am just wishing something better for them.
I feel for you, Bev, with all you have endured in your life and to come out of it as strong as you have. I cannot imagine going through what you have gone through.
Thank you all for your input and for sharing your experiences with me. It has opened my eyes and although I still wish for a better situation for my parents living conditions, I know I can't change them and that I need to just accept them for who they are. Thanks
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I must jump in and defend Nugget here!
I have had an incredibly terrible childhood, but I don't think that Nugget was getting at that her "life is so
tough"
I think she was just venting and don't think that she meant to offend anyone.
I could go on and on about how much my mom embarrassed me, but the fact is that my situation was
not "normal" and so I can't compare my situation to that of Nuggets.
I completely understand what you are saying Nugget and hope that everyone knows that Nugget is a wonderful
person who would never intentionally offend anyone. I think she was just trying to vent and compare.
Take care. 
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Lana_Marie
Proud Mommy to Bentley Taylor
Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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Thanks for sticking up for me, Lana. You said it perfectly! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} I definately did not have a tough life.....as a lot of people did......I was just stating some facts about my personal situation. Still love my parents and appreciate everything they did and went through for my brother and I.
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