size zero
#300390 - 02/21/07 09:38 AM
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seggy
Reged: 04/24/06
Posts: 255
Loc: North East of England, UK
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hi everyone, it's been a while since I posted hope everyone is doing well!
I'm in England and at the mo there's a huge uproar about size zero and how it's totally wrong and stuff. I'm uk size 8-10 so think I fit into that catogery (sp?)
I just feel like people need to be told, rather than what weight men find most attractive is that they are beautiful, for who they are rather than their size. Beauty will fade eventually anyway. Don't get me wrong I like to look nice and I love getting compliments as much as the next girl but it's the heart that really makes a woman beautiful.
Some people are bigger and some are smaller. Some men like women with curves and some like a petite figure. to be honest I don't think there is a 'perfect size' just try to keep healthy and be who you are. God created you and loves you just the way you are no matter if the world says you're too fat or too skinny
ok I feel better now 
xxx
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Nah, a uk 8-10 is a 4-6 us, which is still considered ideal (though far skinnier than the average American woman).
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and I HATE it!!! No one can understand that but me! I ideally would like to be a 3/4 or 5/6. You can find NOTHING in size 0 here. It's very hard and sometimes makes me resort to children's size 12 or 14  I'm almost 40 for crying out loud! I can't be buying that kinda stuff! If I get an xtra small or small skirt in Express or wherever, I sometimes have to pin the waist so I can at least wear normal clothes.
I have this fight with people all the time that they have no sympathy for me. I try to explain to them that it's just as bad as being say a plus size and not being able to find anything. I struggled all my life being "skinny" or too thin. I have accepted it but I don't like it. I don't try to be a size 0. I just am. Now those models that starve themselves to be that thin are crazy. It can't be good for you. I do think they look too thin. I'm nearly 5foot tall and weigh maybe 90lbs. Those girls are 5feet 10 or 11 and weigh 100lbs 
Anyway, sorry to rant but it's a very sore subject for me and you are right though, it shouldn't matter the size you are. It's what's inside that counts and I think people should look at that both ways.....heavy or skinny!
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Re: size zero
#300426 - 02/21/07 03:50 PM
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atomic rose
Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 7013
Loc: Maine (IBS-A stable since July '05!)
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I'm beautifully, deliciously, curvily, fabulously plus-sized, which may as well be a bad word in today's culture, but I'm healthy, I eat well, I'm as active as I'm comfortable being, and this is obviously where my body wants to be. And yeah, I have bad days here and there, but I'm loved for who I am, and lusted after for how sexy I am, and I'm happy with who I've become.
Which is the important part. Not a size, not a weight, not an arbitrary NUMBER, be it a 0 or a 10 or a 20 or whatever. Healthy and happy, and beauty from within, is the important part.
I was a size 0 once. I was anorexic and miserable. But I have a friend who's been a size 0 most of her life, and she's healthy, so whatever! We are a broad, varied, and beautiful spectrum of people. Live and let live!
(And yeah, it only took me 32 years to get to this point. I thumb my nose at every industry and cultural standard that tries to oppress women into ridiculous conformity. Bah! LOL)
*hops off the soapbox*
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Casey
#300438 - 02/21/07 04:58 PM
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Flipada
Reged: 03/02/06
Posts: 1026
Loc: West Michigan, USA
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Ahhh, I wish I could be more like you. I've never liked my body. I'm normally a size 8 but I always seem to find some flaw that I can't get past and it's just stupid. I know that in my HEAD. I'm 37. Is there any hope? I guess I care less as years go by but I'd just like to drop the insecurities. It has really hindered me in my relationships. I have a wonderful man that loves me for me and I've gotta go and be a doofus.
But Casey, you have a fabulous attitude. I'm envious.
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Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas"
**Lauren**
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The really sad part is that this attitude is all very new to me. Even just a couple months ago, I was still moping about being a size 20ish. My mother kept telling me - something somewhat newfound for her, too - to just cut the tags out of my clothes if it bothered me so much! LOL
Then my dad died. He was so young. And it still took a little while after that, but eventually it all hit me: life is TOO SHORT.
I mean, who the hell cares if I'm a size 20?
My dad? He thought I was God's gift.
My mom? She's called me the most amazing person she knows.
My friends? They all think I'm beautiful, inside and out.
My boyfriend? I'm his *forever*.
And, someday, hopefully, I'll have children, and I refuse to let it matter to them. I want to pass along the attitude I have NOW, not the one I had before.
I don't know. I'd like to think it doesn't always take some tragic life event to change someone's thinking, but I don't think it's something you can just change overnight, either. You have to work on it. I still have REALLY bad self-loathing kinds of days - I think we all do. But if you keep telling yourself that you're fabulous, eventually you're gonna believe it.
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their eyes
#300450 - 02/21/07 06:30 PM
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Flipada
Reged: 03/02/06
Posts: 1026
Loc: West Michigan, USA
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I know what you're saying. I'd just like to be able to see myself through the eyes of my children. They tell me I'm beautiful. So does my husband and others who are important to me. But I'm self-critical in every way...not just in the looks department.
I seem to get a good glimpse of my behavior most when I visit with my brother. He's a singer/actor/model and I listen to him cutting into himself after we think we've seen a great performance and I realize how I sound. And then I try not to be that way anymore. That lasts about 15 min....
Hypnosis would be nice. Wouldn't that be great if we could get self-confidence that way!?
I know I'm attractive. And I know now that since I'm having a girl, I need to change my tune so my little one doesn't pick up on her momma's bad attitude. That's more important to me than anything.
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Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas"
**Lauren**
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Re: size zero
#300480 - 02/22/07 05:27 AM
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Toady
Reged: 04/06/06
Posts: 1299
Loc: A small city, Northwestern Ontario, Canada
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Well, I'm below average sizes too, if you can trust the tags! When I got measured for my wedding dress, by a dress-maker, I was an 8 - 10. She made my dress and everything fit wonderfully, until I lost more weight just before the wedding. Now, I'm buying size 2 pants and jeans just 7 months later, and I've only lost a couple more lbs.
IMHO, the manufacturers are making the clothing labelled with smaller size numbers to make the larger sized people have a different self image. ie - my size new 2 jeans measure the same as my size 6 jeans I bought years ago. With the average population being "over weight" according to surveys, I think that the manufacturers are sending the wrong message - that even overweight you can be a 2, a 4, a 6, etc, because they have manipulated the sizing to make it so.
I have no pre-conceived idea of what body image anyone here has because I have never met any of you in person. As someone who was 172+ lbs and is now 117 lbs, I still have a terrible self image. I have to make a conscious effort to not wear the big baggy clothes I hang onto in my closet, I look like a deflated balloon! ie - today I'm wearing yoga pants, size XS, and a XL cotton sweater. I look like I'm drowning in the sweater, but it "hides" me. (my tum is distended today) And as my DH tells me, I'm a "hottie" now, don't hide in big, baggy clothes. That is much easier in the summer, when I don't have to dress in layers though too.
Anyways, irregardless of what size you are, what clothes you wear, or how you perceive yourself, you are beautiful people, and I love you all!
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Cassandra
Live like there's no tomorrow. Love like you've never loved before.
IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up!
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and the designers. I've never been able to walk in to a store and find pants that fit me.
I'm about 5'7" and over the years I've gone from about 130 lbs to my current 170 lbs. My hair has modeled every conceivable style and color from .25 inch shaved to down to my waist, from black to brown to blonde to red to some weird purple-ish kind of thing. My wardrobe has taken some dreadful turns. Every time I change BC or go off of it, my boobs change size dramatically. I think my behind is made up entirely of cellulite.
The point is no matter what point I was at in the way I looked, if I stood tall and walked proud, there was always someone who told me I was smart or beautiful. There was always someone to tell me I was a good person.
The way we look means nothing. Who we are as people means everything. You children won't care about the size of your clothing. They care about your time. Your husbands will think you are beautiful whether you put on your make-up or not. And no matter what you look like, it has no effect on your heart and soul.
Bottom line, a beautiful person is someone with a good heart.
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Your post brought tears to my eyes!!! I fully agree with everything you wrote.
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Amy
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