Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | OKay ladies and gents...my update, here it is.....

hi everyone.
I thought I should give you a little more info, so you're not too suspicious.

We have spent over ten hours on the phone together, talking about our lives, our pasts, why our marriages failed etc. His wife left him for the same general reasons that Trevor left me; she wanted to be promiscuous again, sex never happened, and they just became friends and nothing more. She wasn't affectionate, she was very selfish. in fact, i guess the two of them would make a good couple. She is a psychologist, oddly enough, and though Jason had a tough childhood, he's worked through it all, likely with her.

They were married eight years and it was on the rocks before their daughter came around.Speaking of daughters,don't you all worry-I'm not bringing my daughter into this until, and only until its been a long while. I don't want to mess her up at all, and I'm spending a ton of time with her, and doing fun things with her a lot, except this week, where I've been sick.

He is separated from his ex and they live in different places- I've been to his place, met his roommate, and seen his daughter. This is all legitimate. He's even shown me where she goes to daycare.He has his daughter 50% of the time. I saw him yesterday and he told me he missed her, even though he saw her 2 days ago. Sounds like a pretty dedicated dad.

They aren't divorced because here you can just be separated and don't NEED divorce to do anything but legally marry again.They get along well, too. I don't care about a divorce from Trevor either-we get along OK, and if
he's doing what he has to and I'm doing the same, we don't need to pay $3000 to have someone tell us what to do.

Now this isn't to say that I should give him all i am and trust him completely yet, but we've been talking for three weeks now and have had some very in depth, very honest and very serious converastions. He's a talker, too. Usually I don't date talkers.

The nicest thing is that he does know I'm still healing, so he is being patient and kind with me. We are getting along
exceptionally well, on a mental, spiritual and emotional level though. He's strong in his Catholic faith.

And the weirdest thing is, I feel so at peace walking past
Trevor's place, even when his girlfriend is over. I KNOW our split was for the best. I do heal fast, but I agree fully that I want to heal thoroughly.

Let me tell ya, that therapist sure has helped!So has God.

Thank you all for your concern! I am playing it smart, really I am. It may seem fast, but when you've been emotionally sseparate since practically the very beginning(since we got married five years ago) then there's not a HUGE tie to sever, especially when you never see them more than 6 hours a week.

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Keep on keepin' on...

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