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well things kinda got more stressful today....my chest is really hurting too its affecting my asthma all this stress I feel like I cant breathe half the time, Ive had to dose up on the inhaylers today I hope it calms down, its not helping.

Well this morning, after another restless night, my friend had been trying to contact her boyfriend again and finally he rang. He was still not believeing that she was pregnant and demanding proof, I ended up emailing him then speaking to him on the phone and I told him he needed to come to the flat and speak to her and to stop running away from everything, but I think he felt like we'd all gang up on him and didnt want to come. So I told him there would be no ganging up its not about taking sides, its not about us, its not even about them its about them dealing with whats happening, talking about and deciding what to do. He seemed reasonable enough and then my friends schoolfriend came down for the day. We sat in the kitchen for a while discussing everything and then he rang again and said he was coming to pick her up to get another pregnancy test...cos she'd sent the other one in the post to him and so he did. Then he sed he didnt want to come in the flat, he wanted to drop her home and get her to go in the flat and do the test, then come out to the car to show him. How bludy ridiculous is that!! I was fuming by this point...so she goes off anyways and he ended up getting her to do the test in the toilets in the supermarket!! I was so upset....how the hell can anyone treat anyone like that??? So when she passed it to him when they were back in the car he burst into tears. He said he couldnt believe it, and that he really thought it wasnt true...which I found out later is cos aparently she lied about being pregnant a few months back....I was mad at her for that....but thats why he thought she wasnt telling the truth again. When he realised it is true he still wouldnt come into our flat so he drove off to his friends house and we havent seen him since.

I had a big talk with my friend and tried to suggest she go back home with her schoolfriend so she can deal with it with her family and get away from it all....would ease the pressure off me and my friends aswell, but shes decided to go next fri cos she feels her sister is going to pressurise her into getting rid of the baby as soon as possible and she's not 100% sure yet....she needs to consider all her options. I spoke to her about adoption but she says she would rather have an abortion than have it and give it away. She said shes feeling really weird at the moment and shes getting feelings that tell her she should keep it even though she knows its the worst possible time in her life for it to happen. Im staying impartial on everything and letting her see all the options and discussing all the possibilities....shes going to talk to the doctor tomorrow and then a counsellor hopefully...I can only be an ear listen to and give her as much support as I can ....ultimately she has to make that decision...and it looks like it will be without him....as he is taking no responsibility so far for his actions. I'll let you know what happens....I just hope whatever she decides, that its for the best.

Thanks so much for all your support...I am trying to think about myself too and not get too bogged down by someone elses problems...but thats just the type of person I am, I cant disconnect myself completely tho I am trying my hardest to keep working too....and will try to get to bed earlier tonight to get some rest. Will post any updates.

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Natalie

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