Ex BF issues...so confusing....
#242686 - 01/30/06 08:17 AM
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karyash
Reged: 04/11/05
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Loc: Fargo, ND
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I posted last week about a bad breakup and trying to move on with my life. I went out with my friends Friday and had a great time. We also went out Saturday night. Unfortunately my ex was at the bar we went to. In hindsight, I see that I should have just left. He kept pulling me aside and telling me that he still loves me and would do anything for me. The stupid thing is that I believed him. We went out for breakfast and he came over. We got into another argument in the morning and he left. Now I am upset all over again. I was doing so well last week too! I am smarter than that! UGH! Just so frustrated and confused that he would be like that.
Kristi
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I'm sorry he has gotten you all upset again. You're right, you should have just asked your friends to go somewhere else and left. However, since you did talk to him and it doesn't sound like it went well at all, use that as your closure! Use that argument as the nail in the coffin, so to speak. He proved he is still not right for you, weather he still loves you or not, it doesn't matter! I know its hard but your strong and beautiful and you can and will move on! 
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You are right, I need to remember that I am a strong person and that I don't NEED a man to complete me. Seeing him & spending time with him again threw me for a loop though. Our argument definitely is the closure I needed - it reminded me why we aren't good together. He also had absolutely no excuse why he hadn't called me in 2 weeks and claimed that we never really broke up! UGH! Thanks for your support with this! I need to stay strong.
Kristi
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Kristi, how old is the ex-BF? He sounds very immature, and DEFINITELY unsure of what he wants. Give him some space, let him grow up -- without you. You're too mature for him. Find someone who won't be so damn wishy-washy!
Truly, you're better than this guy. Move on. We're here to support ya, Girlfriend.
Bevvy
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Hi Bev,
#242767 - 01/30/06 12:01 PM
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karyash
Reged: 04/11/05
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Loc: Fargo, ND
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He is 27, which I thought was a good age, but apparently he needs to do some growing up. He really had me fooled! I am only 25, but have been married and have children. I know what I want for my future, I just don't know how to get it. I am going to move on, but first I am going to take a little time for myself. Thanks so much for your support!! 
Kristi
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Bevvy is exactly right!
Just because you broke up doesn't mean the feelings turn off instantly. And yes, when you saw one another you felt those feelings again. Perfectly natural. I like Michele's analogy of the nail on the coffin. He's not worth it. He evidently wants the love but doesn't want to work for it. TOUGH! His loss!
Plus - you should be VERY proud that he saw you out having fun with friends - tell yourself you showed him how tough you are and that you're not sitting around at home crying over him!!!!!!!
You're stronger than you think. Hang in there.
Hugs, Alicia.
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Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.
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