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Just peeked in to see this and I am so glad to hear that everything is going well. I am sorry you are so sick but take comfort in the fact that is a good sign! Take care of yourself! 
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Re:Testing
#222992 - 11/03/05 10:45 AM
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michele
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Actually, they consider you AMA or Advance Maternal Age at 35. The high risk obgyns that I'm going to consider you AMA at 34!!! Crazy!! Anyways, since I've had 3 unexplained miscarriages which may have been caused by genectic issues, they just don't know and I AM 35, will be just shy of 36 when I deliver actually! I guess the deal is at age 35 your chance of having a Downs Syndrome baby is 1 in 277. The chance for amnio causing miscariage is about the same. Amnio is really the only DEFINITVE test for Downs. There is what they call the three marker test, they do 2 different blood draws to check for proteins and certian levels and then a high definition ultrasound to measure the space or amount of fluid behind the baby's neck. The more space or fluid there, the higher the risk for Downs. This 3 marker test is the one that has a high probably of false positives. Something like one in 250 of these tests will come back positive but only a very small fraction actually have babys with Downs. If the 3 markers test comes out positive, then they want to do the amnio to be for sure. You can skip the 3 marker test and go right to amnio if you want but the 3 marker test doesn't hurt the baby or you at all and Amnio isn't any fun and can cause miscarriage. So, its all very hard to know what to do!
Persoanlly, I'm not sure I could terminate my pregnancy unless they tell me my kids have three heads or something not compatable with life. Although my husband has a different view. Luckily, neither one of us have any genectic issues in the family tree. I'm still not sure how much testing I'm going to do but thats why I made the appt with the genectic counsler. I need to find out if they work indepently from the labs doing the testing though. I'd hate to get biased advise from someone who can profit from the testing that they are suggesting! I'll let you know what the counsler says!
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Sorry I'm not responding to everyone but I have to limit my computer time as looking at the screen makes me more dizzy and sick. I really appriciate everyones kind words, prayers and good thoughts. I'm feeling mighty green most of the time now and just trying to make it through my day at work. I'm not complaining as I know it means my babies are growing well. It seems to come in waves. When its supper bad, I just try to sit still and ride it out and when I'm feeling a bit better, I do what I have to do and rest. Will has been great and my boss has been understanding so its working out ok!
I wish you all lived closer though so I could take you up on the babysitting offers!! I'm a little freaked out by the fact that I don't have any family close by and none of my friends have kids! Again, I'm sure it'll all work out! Its weird, I have this funny sense of calm and acceptance about me right now. I really feel that I will carry these babies and they will be just fine and that everything is going to work out ok!! Am I dreaming? If so, don't wake me!! LOL!!
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My husband and I are both 42 and were God to bless us with a pregnancy we would be thrilled. Terrified in once sense but happy in another.
I think due to our fertility issues "doing something permanent" isn't something we are led to do. I have the oddest feeling that I will be pregnant at 44 years of age...I have always said that God has a sense of humor!
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Have a blessed day!...Rachel
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I have IBS but it doesn't have me!
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I didn't mean to stur up so much interest/conflict 
I just got nervous that I was getting old or something...that I wouldn't be able to have kids healthily...but I am SO encouraged and inspired here by all of you!!!
Plus, I just remembered.....my friend was born when her mom was in her early 50's! And she is PERFECTLY HEALTHY thank G-d!
So...I suppose I have nothing to worry about in that department 
Now we just have to get me to a stage where I am healthy enough to have kids!!!! I'll keep praying for it!
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I think posts like this are fun and informative. I have had the same OB-GYN for 10 years and he laughs when I tell him that I am not ready to go on the pill or anything like that. He is a Christian and believes like I do that forcing/tempting God's hand in providing us a miracle is not necessary and if God provides us with a baby then He will give us the strength and stamina to raise him.
He did say that I stand a better chance of having multiples which would be fine. He told me that he delivers babies to women well into their 40's. I have a friend who just had a baby and she is 47 years old! Wow....I can't imagine.
My husband and I are "young" 40-somethings so though we both feel our family is complete right now, another baby would be more than welcome.
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Have a blessed day!...Rachel
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I have IBS but it doesn't have me!
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and I'm around I'd be happy to be there for you... my sister in law rarely brings the boys up here, and my sister lives in NY, so I won't be seeing much of Charlie either... I love babies, but know I can't have my own...
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I had my son at 41, my daughter at 46. They are normal. (My husband says, "Are you sure?" I never had an amnio or a sonogram, which you can now-a-days. Put your faith in God and think positive. xx
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