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yes. drinks are yummy... especially on hot summer nights. I'm sure we would all have fun hanging out together.. it would be awesome if the world could grant us an all expense paid IBS trip. haha.
Anyways... its true I have plenty of time.. but I'm not gonna lie.. i'm getting bored waiting. haha. 
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Hello Ladies!
Thanks for sharing the awesome stories.. AND for the vote on confidence that I'm not a total troll at the moment. (warning I am premenstral so that may have played a role in my overall blaaness- but I dont' think it was 100% responsible).
Anyways.. I had a LOT of fun today.. which helped cheer me up. I spent the morning in a really bad mood, but later convinced my friend chris to go downtown and walk around boston commons and newbury street. (HE'S STRICTLY PLATONIC.. I can't date every boy in my program right cara hahaha.. and honestly.. we'd never date.. but he's a good friend).
It was nice to get out of the house, into the sun and in public.. which isn't something I get to do all that often. I even shopped alittle bit.. nothing extravegent.. but I got the reef flip flops I've been wanting and a pair of earrings.
Anyways on the T ride back home.. two boys ran up to me and called me a fox.. but they were wasted and hanging all over me. I lied and said Chris was my man to get them off of me, because they were NOT the kind of boys that i'd want to date. Slightly flatering.. but mostly I was preoccupied thinking about how bad I wanted to wash my hands after shaking them. (yes they were pretty bad). Anyways.. after that we went to chris and his roomated erins house and had a bbq with three of the girls in our program.. drank a bucket of margaritas and hung out. It cheered me up.. and you all cheered me up too!! THANKS A TON.
cross your fingers a boy (that is not drunk on the subway) notices me soon!
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met about 2 years ago now when we were both just finishing high school. He actually grew up on the other side of the country from me and had just come to Ontario to do his final year of high school and live with his aunt and uncle, but I hadn't met him all year. Anyway, some of my (male) friends were at my house just hanging out and they asked if they could invite over a friend of theirs (touting that he was really hot, but unfortunately straight, lol). When I first met him I totally misjudged him as this major idiot jock - he was on the basketball team, while I was (am!) a total dork who would never ever picture myself going for a jock-type! lol
Anyway despite the misjudgement, by the end of the night it was fairly obvious that there was chemistry between us... So we saw eachother a few more times and I discovered that I was very wrong about the idiot-jock judgement and that he was (is!) actually extremely intelligent and into literature (like me). By the end of the week I was head over heels, and a few months later we were making plans to move in together! See, I was going to university in a few months (in another city) and he didn't know what he was doing so he decided to come with me and do the same - he'd never really thought about going to university to study English because no one ever really encouraged him to do that, etc. (now he's more of a hard-core student than I am! well, almost... lol)
The moving in together so soon was really a financial decision more than anything - and it just kind of 'made sense' too. We both figured we were going to be together for a really long time at that point (probably forever) and honestly it didn't seem scary at all. Now my extended family are nudging me about marriage (as suddenly all my cousins are 'getting hitched')!!!  Well, not anytime soon, THAT'S for sure... lol!
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#183636 - 06/05/05 09:47 AM
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I started dating Erin last Sept-Octoberish, and it really came out of the blue. I was just back from Chicago and had a couple of days before starting classes again, when I ran into a friend of her's, Sara, at the university who I hadn't seen since I left four years prior. We ended up talking, catching up, etc., and she mentioned that I should give Erin a call because her boyfriend dumped her suddenly a couple weeks back on her birthday and she thought that I could offer some support.
The backstory to this is that I originally met Erin while I was volunteering as an organist at a church in Dartmouth. Every year they had talent shows to raise some money, and I ended up accompanying her on a couple of songs she was singing. We really got to know each other better when she was in Grade 12 and I was in my 3rd year of university, because she was interested in doing auditions for a university music programme in piano, but her current teacher didn't feel she was up to teaching the repetoire. She knew that I taught and approached me about it. For the next four to five months we worked hard on putting together a programme of pieces basically from scratch, but it was all worthwhile in the end as she was accepted to the music programme at Acadia University. During all this time though, there was no real 'spark' or anything that would have led me to believe that we would date later on.
Five years later, she had graduated with a degree in music and spent a year teaching at a studio, and I came back from Chicago where I had been working for four years. I took Sara's advice and called her up, we went out and things went (unexpectedly) very well. It turned out that she was mostly over the prior relationship, so instead of me listening to her talk about it we just chatted about a whole pile of different things, eventually closing the bar we went to. We ended up going out a few more times and eventually started dating seriously.
Completely unexpected, but that's the way it works sometimes. I wouldn't worry about not dating someone in a half-year - as the saying goes, it's better to be happy and independent than miserable in the wrong relationship. You seem to have a lot of things going for you, so it will just take that one special guy to recognize that, and the rest, as they say, will be history. 
- Vincent
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Wow, Ashley, when I read your post it was like reading my personal diary entry or something! We are so very similar....
I have been single since October, when I broke up with a boyfriend of eight months, and before that had a boyfriend of 3 years...so yeah, this has been the longest I've been single in a REALLY LONG TIME. Probably since I started dating as well...and the few dates I've managed to get, no sparks. It's really frustrating...And it doesn't help that I'm in a new place and started a new program, which is almost entirely guys, but none of whom I would want to date (tried that, ruined that friendship, and now it's so awkward between us  )...besides the last thing I want to do is end up with another chemical engineer. I agree with most people here, that dorkiness is better than being full of yourself....but try being surrounded by 20 males who are both dorky and completely arrogant! LOL. They just think that they know everything!
I think that I'm hitting "the age" where I really want to settle down...I too turn 24 soon (end of July -- I'm a leo as well!!), and my parents were married very young (20, my mom had me at 21)...so I guess I'm starting to feel old. I've always had my plans, and they were to go to college, meet someone, get married and then go to grad school. Well, so far, I'm on track, except for the marriage part :P
And it doesn't help that ALL of my close girlfriends are either engaged or married! And many have all started having kids! I REALLY want kids now. Unfortunately, I have to wait to find a guy willing to make some first  And to top it all off, my parents are teasing me about grandchildren! My dad whines about how all his other friends have grandchildren, and how it would be so cool to have some.
I'm starting to really miss all of the perks of being in a serious relationship...I'm a big time nurturer, so I love having someone to cook and clean for, and just take care of! Plus, I miss the cuddling, having someone to go out and try new things with, and having a warm body to sleep next to. And having someone love you no matter what and make you feel sexy when you are at your very lowest Sigh.
And it doesn't help that I think I am very picky...Especially now that I do want something serious. So ya, I feel your pain Ashley! I keep thinking if I don't focus on it, it will happen. But how long does a girl have to wait?!?!
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oh man we really are alot alike in this respect.
I know what you mean about dating people in the same profession... that was one issue I had with this guy i dated from my program.
and I'm alot like you too with being a nurturer and I totally eat all of that up.. when you're alone its not as fun  . We're also pretty much the same age.. I'm 24 August 13th.. so pretty close to you.
Plus.. its really true that EVERYONE around me is getting married. Four girls in my program just got engaged (all 22-23 years old) and my first roomate in college just got engaged.. as well as my roomate last year. Its ridiculous. It just makes me feel more single than ever. haha.
thanks for commiserating.. are you almost done with school.. or how have you branched out to make new friends?
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My sophomore year of college, one of my friends threw a party for a bunch of us in our dorm who weren't going home for Easter. After the party, I was helping her clean up, and while I was in her room, a guy she knew from her hometown (Houston) came by (he had also been at the party, but I didn't meet him until afterwards in her room). She introduced us, and we talked for a few minutes, and I went to my room to go to bed. Over the next two weeks, the guy (Mac) showed up more and more in my friend's room while we were all doing homework, and also showed up at the Honors program talent show another friend and I were in. One night, at the end of those two weeks, Mac showed up at my dorm room door, wouldn't come in my room, and asked me to ask him out on whatever my version of coffee was (since he knew I can't have coffee), that there was no time table, and that I knew where he lived. And then he walked away. I was freaking out! I ended up asking him to go for a walk the next night, and we hit off from there. We've been dating two years as of last month, and he's moving in with me this week!
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I met my husband when he was 15 and I was 16. I was friends with his sister in highschool and went to her house one day after track practice. She brought me upstairs to introduce me to him and he was playing with circuit boards or something (he's an engineer now). I thought "What a dork!" He liked me right away (he says) and asked me out repeatedly for a few years, to which I always said NO WAY! But we all hung out together so we were friends, I just refused to go on a date with him! When I graduated highschool he wrote me this long love letter (which I still have of course) but freshman year of college was rough and we couldn't quite get it together. (At one point he said he didn't "like" me anymore!! 
But when he got to school (lived in the same dorm as me) things sort of picked up and the rest is history. We dated for 6.5 years, were engaged for 1.5, and now we've been married for 2.5 years. We've known each other a LONG time!
I really think the good relationships come long when you least expect it.
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The M word
#183919 - 06/06/05 09:27 AM
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Hey Ashley -- don't let the whole 'everyone else is doing it' get you down. Just move at your own pace, and things will happen. Just as an aside, when I lived in the United States I noticed that people seemed to get married younger than I was used to. I just looked it up and it turns out that in Canada the average age is 28.2 for females and 30.2 for males vs around 25 and 27 in the USA nationally. Apparently the average age to marry in the US is also lower than most other developed countries, espeically Scandanavian countries, Japan, Hong Kong, and Singapore. I guess my point is that if you lived anywhere else, the pressure to get married soon would be much less.
I don't know if that helps any, but I thought it might be good to know that, at least from a more global perspective, you're still on the right track!
- Vincent
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I met Eric on a blind date.  He used to live with a friend and his friends wife, and I worked with his friends wife. She gave Eric my phone number and a picture of me, and gave me a picture of him, and after talking on the phone for about a week, we met at a sports bar.
June 12th will be 8 years since we met... my how time flies!!!!
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If life hands you lemons, make lemonade!!
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