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I have lived on my own for 7 years, but it seems like just yesterday that I was living at home....and let me tell you ladies, you have explained my room to a "T."
The worst part was that my apartment was much the same until I went to a few of my friends places and they were so clean - now I can't imagine living in the mess I had then.
Just rest assured - if you taught them how to clean and cook they will remember when their parents aren't there.
They say god blesses you with a children twice as bad as you were. Well, I wasn't a bad child (never skipped curfew etc) But hopefully they aren't twice as messy as me!!! YIKES!!! I will not be able to find my kids.
Good luck Ladies LOL 
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You are so right! When I complain to my Mom, she just smiles with great satisfaction. What goes around comes around. I can't wait for grandchildren. artist
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#17949 - 08/21/03 07:52 AM
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My parents just happened to be here visiting from out of town when school started for my boys. While they were here, it seemed like all I did was argue with my boys over every little thing. As my oldest stormed upstairs saying, "Only 174 more days and I'm outta here!" I held my breath just waiting for my parents' reaction.
My Dad shook his head and said, "Don't be so hard on 'em. All teens go through this. He'll be away soon and you'll wish you had him home." It kind of made me sad because I remember what a hard time I gave them in high school. I must have made their lives hell, and yet, they still loved me.
I told my son once, "You are being so stubborn!" and my mother just shook her head, smiled, and said, "I wonder where he gets that from?" It IS payback time!
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YIKES!!! I am so in for it then!!! LOL
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Re: Pay Back
#17957 - 08/21/03 08:19 AM
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My sister has an 8-year-old son and an 11-year-old daughter. My husband and I had to shake our heads and laugh recently when she said, "Oh, I don't think we will have to worry about having problems with Jessica when she gets to be a teenager. She's always been so sweet." Yikes! She has no idea these sweet kids turn into little demons when they get to the pre-teen age!
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why are you scaring me already about teen years?lol
I know we need lots of prayers starting now. I was at my children's school today paying those unwanted school fees and I ran into their principal and asked her if she is ready to have all three of my boys in school this year. She said oh sure I am. I raised three boys and know how to put them in their place.
On a more serious note I am very strict with my boys. I feel I have to be. My husband and I don't let them watch the tv shows their friends get to watch, they don't have to pokemon cards, and the Play Station stuff. Neither of us grew up with it and we are fine (probably better off than most people).
I let my kids play the computer while I showered a year ago and they were playing games on Disney. When I got out of the shower they were laughing and saying look at those butts. I walked in the room and someone hacked into Disney with cartoon porn. Can you believe people do that?! 
Now the rule is an adult has to be in the room with them.
Raising kids today is a challenge, but I wouldn't give back my boys.
To answer your question BL about saving money for College. We have not started, because we don't have the money to do it. My husband hasn't had steady work for two years. We had to sell stock this week to pay our bills.
Today was my first day of classes and I am going back to school to become a RN. I already know I have to work full time when my boys start High School just to pay the food bills!  lol Hopefully our money situation will get better in the next few years so we can start saving.
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#18125 - 08/22/03 06:22 AM
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Oh, Barbara, forgive me! I didn't mean to get you worried about the teenage years. I was just joking around, just like people kid about the "terrible two's." Sometimes it just helps parents of teens to vent about the crazy things their teens do.
After all that kidding about my boys, I must say they are great kids. They both are honor roll students---my oldest is very gifted in the areas of computer/arts/photography; my youngest is a wonderful golfer. It amazes me that they have these gifts. I certainly don't have any of these talents! All kidding aside, it has been a joy watching them develop as individuals. My boys are total opposites in looks, personality and interests; no one can believe they are brothers, but that is what makes parenting them so interesting (and sometimes so challenging.)
It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job of raising your three boys. I know people say this to you all the time, but just enjoy them now, because once they get that driver's license (or start riding with other teens that do), you really don't have that much "control" over what they do. Once they have this independence, you just have to pray that you have guided them in their younger years and that they will make wise decisions on their own when you are not around. It's a scary thing sometimes, but, as my husband says, you just have to trust that they will do the right thing.
I think it's great that you are stablishing rules for the computer, PlayStation and tv. Many parents don't monitor this at all, and that's where the problems come in.
I also admire you for going back to school. I know that can't be easy while raising a family. Congratulations and good luck to you in your classes as you pursue a nursing career.
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I totally agree with beaglelover. Parents in general just need to vent. Any complaining I do is really good natured. I could not be prouder of my kids; they are the absolute joy of my life. Both children are honor students and play in the school orchestra. My daughter is Freshman class president. Neither has given us an ounce of trouble. If all I can complain about is messy rooms, memory lapses, and a house full of unruly friends, believe me I count my blessings! Do not be afraid to have teenagers. If you do a good job from the time they are little you won't have any problems. Even if a difficult situation comes up when they are teens, you have built a good relationship and will be able to handle it. Parenting is the most difficult job in the world to do right, but the rewards are without measure. artist
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Meike is worse now than at two. Now she mouths back and she knows what she is doing when she does something wrong. Thank God they are cute at this age. Yesterday we were using crayola WASHABLE paints and I went in the other room to get more construction paper. I said "Don't touch this till I get back" Meike came in the room and said "Mommy don't look at my paper" I knew what that meant. I came out and there was a big glob of green paint on her paper. At least it didn't go anywhere else. We had a discussion on how important it is to listen to mommy and daddy. I guess we just have to work on that. I am content right now with this age. Even if they keep me on my toes. It is amazing how different kids can be.
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Torbetta,
I remember the terrible threes! Who ever came up the phrase, "the terrible twos", must have been drinking at the time. My boys were much worse at three and believe me they grow out of the threes.
I love their ages now (5,7 and 8). We can go outside now and play softball, soccer and basketball and actually keep score. Right now they are all outside catching bugs to have as pets.  My 8 year old just came and asked me what can he feed his fly. I told him I don't know. He keeps pursing the subject and asked what is your guess what a fly eats. I told him smaller bugs. Now he is looking for smaller bugs.
I've found every year my kids get older - it becomes more fun. Enloy those little ones.
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