Re: new job
#17269 - 08/14/03 10:39 AM
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Josie
Reged: 03/28/03
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Loc: Boston
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Wow!! A year paid materity leave is incredible!! I have never worked at a place that offers that. (I have worked in 3 different states in New England.) Most places will give you 3 months off, but not with pay (unless you have accrued sick/vacation time that you can use.) Canada seems to take much better care of its citizen's in terms of health care and things like that than the US does! Maybe I should move up there! 
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MISS JOSIE COME ON DOWN!!! LOL
Canada is very good like that....it is wonderful and helpful.
I just got married last year and our goal was to wait to have children until we can afford it, but the truth is we can afford a 2002 Blazer, we can afford a house in the city and a beach house, we can afford a boat etc etc so what are we waiting.
My advice to you Josie...if you wanna have kids don't wait until you are financially ready because you never have alot of extra money just lying around. We are always spending it on things all the time anyways. Not that it's a bad thing, but a person will never set aside cash for kids. Just remember that.
We discovered that this year after we bought the new vehicle. That we were supposed to be saving for kids. LOL
Good luck with your nursing degree - it sounds like an excellent job. Very rewarding!
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Lana_Marie
Proud Mommy to Bentley Taylor
Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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Lana I totally understand what you are saying about how some people don't have a choice. I do see people around me who have to live on two incomes to pay for their $200,000 house, their two new cars sitting in the drive way and they have to have the brand new furniture.
I have friends who are single parents and have no choice but to work full time. I do understand both parents have to work at times to pay the bills. I can't help think there would be less children in Daycare if the divorce rate wasn't so high. Is the divorce rate high in Canada?
I also feel we have a responibility to keep ourselves out of debt and maybe more moms or dads can stay home with their kids. The only debt my husband and I ever had has been our house. We had one car the first five years of our marriage, because my husband refuses to take out a car loan.
What bothers me is when I see parents put their wants in front of the needs of their children.
Like Josie wrote America doesn't offer great benefits to new moms. At least a woman can not lose her job anymore.
Lana Maria you have only been married for a year - enjoy your husband before the kids come. Kids are wonderful, but they take a lot of your free time away. My husband and I waited 31/2 years before we had kids and I'm really glad we waited. Than we had three boys in less than four years. I do not advise having children that close in age.
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Barbara!
I understand your point as well. The families who have both mom and dad work just to keep their "stuff" is not right to either. I apologize because I thought you meant in general moms should be a stay at home mom.
I agree! If one can afford a $200,000 home, new vehicles etc. you should put your children first and stay with them, play with them and teach them all you can before they go to school.
It's scary to me what parenting has turned into. Life is turning into keeping up with the Jones' and buying and "toys and stuff" instead of building a loving and caring home.
Although, right now I have to admit we have alot of "stuff", my husband and I both agree that when we have children sacrifices have to made to nurture you children.
Honestly, I think the divorce rate is high everywhere. It's scary how quickly people give up on their marriages, commit adultery and how fast you can get a divorce pushed through. And they wonder why people don't try so hard at their marriages.
My parents were divorced about 5 years ago.
Anyways - I see your point - we were on the same pages. I was just a few lines down I guess LOL
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Lana_Marie
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Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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Lana I wasn't offended by what you wrote. After I read your post I thought I should be more clear about my very general statement. No need to apologize.
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Barbara!
If we aren't careful Heather will rename this forum "Debate Room" LOL
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Lana_Marie
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Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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