Life sucks!
#168499 - 04/09/05 11:06 AM
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Linz
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Si is so depressed atm b/c he's fed up of working ALL the time and still being broke...it all boils down to me not having had a proper job for quite a while  . I'm looking, but there are so many jobs (inc. the ones I'm most qualified for) that I can't do b/c of my Fibro. 
We've got a group of friends round and everyone's ordering Chinese takeaway...but we just can't afford it. 
I'm so fed up of this. I can't evn get our Jobseekers Benefit as they said I HAD to apply for jobs that I couldn't do b/c of my Fibro as they were the ones I was most qualified for. I'm considering going for disability, but even if I got that, it wouldn't be enough.
I've applied for a Vet. Nurse Job and for a paid Student Placement on a Horticulture course (that starts in September) and if I don't get either we are so screwed.
I can't even afford to buy more painkillers or supplements for my Fibro.
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...that if I haven't got a job by the end of the week then I'll have to sell my car or we can't afford to MOT, tax and insure his which he uses to get to work.
That'll mean that I really can't get a job (so we'll then be selling the house) and I'll be housebound on all but my really good days.
What the heck do I do? 
PS. I've just remembered that I'm out of Celexa and was going to fill a script which we can't afford to do...so I guess I'm coming off it cold turkey.
Edited by Linz (04/09/05 11:48 AM)
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Linz, have you thought about doing daycare for children? Are there working mothers in your neighborhood who need daycare? I always thought that was a nice thing -- to take in children, especially if you don't have any of your own and love children. I wasn't able to have any, as you know, and I adore them....
Whatchathimk?
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HUGS!!!!! Oh honey! I know just how ya feel! They are cutting all of Rich's ot and we are going to hurting here real soon!!!! I hate to say it and I HATE doing it even more but could your bum some money form your mom and dad or Si's parents.
Or what bev said start taking in Kids. That is what I did when we were in the navy. I cahrged 80$ a week for the first kid and if they had siblings it was 125 for the week.
Good Luck Honey and BIG HUGS!!!!!
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Linz,
I know it's hard to be out of work, and I know what it's like to be in a relationship where only one of you is working. Money sucks! And life can sure turn out to be craptastic at times! I hope you're finding ways to manage all that stress so that you don't get sick. It's hard being positive when you feel stuck, isn't it? At least, you don't have any children to worry about.
Do you have any friends or family who would be able to help out (or would you be willing to ask them for help)? I don't know how disability works in the UK, but do you have the option of short-term disability? Would you be able to supplement it with part-time work?
I really hope you get one of those jobs you applied for. Linz, you're well-educated and so smart--I'm sure you have a long list of qualifications--I can't imagine that they wouldn't hire you!  When do you expect to hear from them?
Best wishes,
Maria
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Thanks for the thoughts guys. Daycare over here is so strict...I couldn't just do it properly w/out any qualifications! I've put up ads for babysitting/childminding and the only person who responded stood me up!  AND I've put up ads for dog-walking etc with no responses. I'm not old enough to work for a pet-sitting agency and most of the child nurseries that need staff either want you to be qualified or they only want you part-time at a pittance.
I'm terrified of coming off my Celexa when I feel like this ON it, but I have no choice. I guess maybe I could use my Elavil stocks during the day for the time being.
Sorry guys I'm just a useless ball of tears atm
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that really sucks.. I have no good ideas unfortunately because i'm not from england. Here a great way to make loads of money is waitressing a few days a week like I do. But I also know they don't tip you in england (haha all my english costumers leave me NOTHING.. haha makes me angry)
Anyways.. I really hope you figure something out soon! i'll keep my fingers crossed.
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Oh Linz,
Sorry that you're having such a tough time Try and cheer up...things will eventually get better.
About your Celexa, I'm sure you're aware it's not good to come off those drugs cold turkey, but I don't know how it works in England so I'm just going to make a few suggestions. Do you have any sort of programs that will pay for drugs if you cant' afford them? Could you work something out with the pharmacy to pay them later and/or in installments just this once? Or is it possible you could get a few samples from your doctor or a local hospital just to tide you over?
As for the jobs, I don't really have any suggestions there...is it mainly the fibro that causes you problems? Do you think you could do something at a call center? I work in one and it's tough work (a lot of people can't stand being chained to a phone like that all day and they're very micro-managed environments) but, you do get to sit all day long and pretty much just talk, so it's been good for some people I know who have health problems (obviously depending on the problem). Plus, over here at least, they tend to pay pretty well even for part-time, because the turnover rate is so high.
Hope some of the ideas help  Take care of yourself!
Kelly
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OH MY, Linz
#168547 - 04/09/05 01:57 PM
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barbie
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So sorry you are having such a tough time of it.
My hubby is on Celexa and has just gotten the generic one called Citalopram. It is much less expensive. You might check it out. If you get the pills what about taking 1/2 the dose for awhile. You shouldn't just get off of it cold turkey.
Another idea. I don't know if they have this in England but here we have Patient Assistance Programs from the drug companies. I got my sister on the one for Lilly for her Prozac and she gets it free. You have to be low income and fill out some paperwork and get your doc to send it in. If you need more info I could get it for you.
Also some docs have samples to give away free. You might check that out. Check with your doc and tell him you have no money to get your pills and see if he can help you. He surely won't want you going cold turkey.
Good Luck
Barbie
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You should consider mystery shopping has a form of income. You can do telephone assignments from your home without investing much money (you will need your computer and internet connection). England has many companies that do them. Write "mystery shopping companies England" on google and began the application process. Some companies pay weekly, others monthly. I have fibro and do this for supplemental income. No specific education or experience is required. You must be reliable.
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Take care,
Michelle
...the greatest of these is LOVE. (I Cor 13)
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I'm feeling a bit better now after some wine, some UFOs and a couple of hours of messing about with friends and purposely not thinking about it all.
Unfortunately, even tho we can't really afford our little house, Si actually earns too much for me to get any low-income assistance. We're just so broke atm (waiting for a load of cheques from the pet insurance isn't helping! ) so the £6.40 it costs to fill a prescription (or the £4 for my painkillers) isn't an option straight away...and I'm totally out of Citalopram (I already get the generic, not actually Celexa - we don't have that here) so no stringing the doses out. Ah well.
Kelly...with my Fibro, I can't do anything that invloves staying in one position or doing repetitive work. So unfortunately I can't do any job which means I'm stuck at a desk...and I also can't do any job that involves being on my feet all the time (like waitressing). Which is the main reason why I'm stuck with so little options...I can't believe no-one wants to employ me tho! What is so negative about being over qualified, anyway?
I'm praying that the temp agency will get me a little work this week to tide us over...and I'm going to call the place I sent an application off to by the end of the week if they don't call. Fingers crossed, eh?
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Thanks a million...as always.
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DON'T GIVE UP!
#168580 - 04/09/05 05:23 PM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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Loc: Northwest Washington State
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Linz, what about cleaning houses? How are you at hard labor? It's damn hard work, I know, but you can make some good money at it. My girlfriend used to clean houses twice a week. She said it was hard at first, very VERY tiring, but she got into shape real fast, and it got easier for her. Pretty soon she was able to clean two houses in one day. She said it made her more money than her full-time job at the law firm!
She said the trick is: put on a sweat band and your workout clothes, all your cleaning supplies in a tool belt, and then you just haul a** from room-to-room, until bingo bango you're done. As I recall, she got $50 per house, and two houses in one day is (uh.... lets see....??)
Check it out! Meanwhile, I'll keep thinking.....
Bevvy
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Sorry for your situation Linz. You've been spending so much time trying to help me and so many others, and here you have such worries and you never even said a word! You need support too, superwoman!! I think Heather should put you on the payroll for all the work you do here on the boards! 
Not sure how to advice you on the job situation, as I am a bit of a financial mess myself. It's not fear that money decides who gets houses, food, medicine, health care, etc. These should be available to every human being.
I too have a college degree, yet I am either told I am overqualified, or underqualified. What should they care if you are willing to take a job that you are overqualified for. They should consider themselves lucky.
About the Celexa, can you ask your doctor for samples? I've been on lexapro for about 6 months now, and have yet had to buy them on my own. My psych gives them to me for free as he gets so many free samples. I suppose if you are getting them from another type of doctor they wouldn't have samples though. And it would cost money to see a psych for this drug if insurance doesn't cover it. Does Si have insurance from his job that covers you? Wouldn't his insurance cover the Celexa, pain meds, and a visit to the psych to get Celexa samples?
I will try and think of some solutions for you overnight. Will get my mind off my own state of affairs for a while.
Hugs and hope for you, Linz.
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I know where you're coming from all too well. Adam lost his job a month ago and had to take a call center job at a huge paycut because it was all he could find. With such a big loss of monthly income, we had to take our truck off the road... which means we only have one vehicle... which he has to use... which means I'm limited to whatever I can get to within walking distance. Which is fine and lovely for day-to-day living, but basically means I have no way of holding a job - and that means living on one small income. Life DOES suck, dammit. I don't think there's been a single day in the past month that I haven't said that.
Selling things on ebay is how I'm scraping together enough to pay bills - maybe that's an option for you too? I don't know how much of a packrat you are but you'd be amazed at what people will buy. I'd be more than happy that give you ideas and pointers and whatnot - or even if you just want someone to commiserate with! - my email's atomicrose@gmail.com.
*hugs*
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The main part of DH's decision to go into the army is for this reason. He works 80 hours a week atm and we still can hardly afford to live! We already have sold our 2nd car (a few years ago now)and all the rest of it. It's hard to share a car and housebound is awful. My heart goes out to you and your DH, money issues are no fun at all. I don't really have any advice but just wanted to offer a shoulder for you if you need it. Hope something comes up for you soon.
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Oh Linz!!!
#168635 - 04/10/05 01:07 AM
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Stephie
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Hi Linz,
***loads and loads of hugs to you***
You poor thing, this is all so much for you to be dealing with right now.. I wish I could just come by and help, you deserve so good hugs and support! You were always such a great support for me while I was over there, know that you can always eMail me or anything any time you want!! I can't do a whole lot, but I can at least be here for you!!
As for the jobs, could you do a job from home like typing and stuff? Or ironing? I noticed lots of posts for people that iron stuff from there own house...
Or is there a police station near you? If so, the job that I did was EASY and even though it was a sitting at a desk job for the most part, there were lots of people in my office who worked part time. Some only worked a couple of hours each day, and some only worked one or two days a week... Could you do a job like that if it's only part time?
My boyfriend's sister was on Job Seekers, and she would apply for jobs and get the money and just turn down or not return calls from possible employers.. so could you just apply for a while? At least long enough to get a prescription for your meds!
Is there ANY way you can get the 7 pounds for your prescription? Can you go to your doctor and see if he has any options for you? Maybe borrow from a friend or a family member? I just think you have enough to worry about without putting cutting off your anti-depressant cold turkey! If I was still there, I would post you some money for your prescription! I wish I was there for you!
Don't give up hope Linz, things WILL get better!! We are all here for you if you need us!!
**some more hugs for good measure**
--Steph
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Hi Linz,
Okay, been thinking about you over over the night. For some fast money for your celexa, how about a "garage sale"? Do you have those in England? Where you gather clothes, books, appliances, nicknacks, well... anything you don't need anymore and hold a sale. Some places they are called "tag sales" etc. Like a one house flea market.
Also, if you get your celexa from a General Practioner, maybe you could explain the situation to him and he might have a "colleage" who is a psychiatrist who may be willing to give your doctor some samples of Celexa. That way you wouldn't need to spend the money to see a psychiatrist in order to get the samples.
As far as jobs, now that it is getting warmer, a lot of places hire "seasonal help". Places that might interest you in particular are "nurseries" that do more business now that it is getting warmer and people are starting to buy their plants and fertilizers now. I know you have and interest in horticulture. You could either work right at the nursery caring for the flowers and plants or going to businesses and caring for their plants. I know the college I work at has a contract with "SIDS" (an American Nursery) and we have one lady who comes in once a week to water all the plants/flowers on the campus. She does this for other companies and uses the companies van. She loves it.
Other place that do more business in the warmer months are probably in hiring modes right now too. Working at the gift shops at the zoos, working with the baby animals at the kiddy zoo. Or nature centers and parks and lakes, again in the gift shops or caring for the plants and wildlife. It could get you through the summer at least. And nurseries are open all year.
I was going to suggest working at a HFS, as you are very knowledgeable, but that would be on your feet all day.
I know these jobs do not match the intelligence and education that you have, and you may not even want to do them long term, but for now, until you do get something that might pay better, it may be better than nothing.
Or, if you tried an office job, just make sure you got up and walked around every hour so that you aren't sitting all the time. I must do this at my desk job or the tummy pain is too much! It's not good for anyone to sit for that long, so nobody ever thinks anything of it, or assumes it is because I have tummy problems. And even if they did, there are laws that say an employer must make reasonable accomodations for anyone with a "disability" or who requires such options.
I will keep thinking for you! How are you doing today?
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Re: So sorry
#168692 - 04/10/05 10:03 AM
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CathUK
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I wish I could give you some advice, but to be honest I too am completely stony broke. I managed to get a part time job at the local kennels, but to be honest it is such hard work I don't think you could do it with fibro. Go for disability - at least it would be something.
Good luck - and I sympathise on the takeaway issues. Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair, particularly when all your friends are making mega bucks.
Remeber though that money isn't everything (although it does really help!). Your health and happyness are nmore important, so try not to get too stressed.
Fingers crossed - the vet nurse thing sounds great.
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Linz
#168705 - 04/10/05 12:16 PM
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cailin
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Linz, you poor honey, my heart really goes out to you right now. Is there anything you can forego to get that scrip, coming off it is the last thing that you need right now.
Everyone has sent really good suggestions, afraid I have none really....although my Mum used to do part time typing for a local priest. She also teaches people how to use computers in our houseand doesn't have a qualification. Both are very short hours and while involve sitting at a desk you could decide the length of lessons etc...A card in a shop window could be a start.
wishing you so much luck right now..hugs
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Oh Lintz, I'm so sorry. I would definetely call your dr and ask them for some samples of the Celexa to get you through. There is no harm or shame is asking, thats why the drug reps give them to the drs for!!
I know you can't run a daycare without qualifications and stuff but are there any childern in the neighborhood that you might be able to watch? I know that Cara was watching a few kids from around her neighborhood for some extra money. Maybe you could print off some fliers from the computer and put them in peoples mailboxes? I know this isn't a long term solution but it might help get things back on track. Lots of love and hugs!
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Oh Linz, your post made me sad. I am so sorry that you are having a rough time.
Do you qualify for an kind of disability? Can your parents help you guys out a little bit?
Again, I'm so sorry Linz.
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Linz
#168867 - 04/11/05 08:40 AM
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BL
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Big hugs to you. I know how it is to want to work and not be able to. There are so many things I cannot do now because of my back problems! It is depressing and can get you down, but please don't let it.
I don't know what to tell you to do, but I just wanted to say I understand and I hope things get better for you. I will pray for you, ok?
((((big hugs))))
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Linz so sorry to hear you are having troubles. I am afraid I can't be of much advice since hubby and I are struggling too. It seems we aren't to thrifty at budgeting. But think about Casey's suggestion about Ebay. That is actually what is keeping us afloat right now. People will buy the strangest things. What I view as junk someone else views as treasure. I post several things a week to try and keep some income going. And mean time I am also cleaning out the house.
Hope things start looking up for you.
Christie
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