2 DAYS until the big move....
#163594 - 03/24/05 04:14 AM
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Oh boy. What a week I've had. Talk about emotional. I had a good cry this morning though and feel a bit stronger now.
This is hard stuff leaving a partner after 10 years. I have no doubts but it's still very diificult. 
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and we are hear to listen if you need to get emotional at any stage, we'll listen either on the boards or via email.
You can do this, we are all so proud of you for getting out of this relationship- you go girl!
HUGS
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S.
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Thanks Sinead. That's just what I needed to hear. 
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Have those good cries without embarassment. Leaving is never easy, even when you know beyond a doubt that it's the right decision.
Inbox is always open if you need a listening ear. You can do this! I'm proud of you for following your heart - too many people stay where they are because it's comfortable. *hugs*
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Thanks Casey. Crying did help a bit. I know there will be more of that to come.
I know your inbox is always open. Thanks so much for that!
I know this is the best thing for me.
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Ohmigod! How time's flown.
Cry your heart out sweetie. Even though you know this is the right thing to do, it's naturally to have some mourning to do...especially as you guys were together so long. We're all here for you!
And think how cool it's gonna be in your new place with all your goodies! 
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Good luck honey and big hugs!!! I will be thinking of ya!!
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Heather7476
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Thanks Linz. I do feel like I am in mourning.
I have to think of my happy new life. That will be easier after I move into my new place. What a rough week though. I had no idea if would be THIS hard. 
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Awwww...hang in there girl!! The next couple of days are going to be the hardest cuz you'll be finalizing everything. I know you're strong and you can do it!!
Once you get settled in your new apartment then I'm sure you'll feel much better and things will start to fall into place.
*HUGS*
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Good for you for having a good cry. I really feel for you. It must be SO difficult. I really admire you for having the guts to move on. You are a VERY strong individual and things will get better. ALlow yourself time to mourn. You're allowed. Take it one day at a time.
Love, Alicia.
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Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.
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Thanks Alicia. I am WAY stronger than I ever thought I was.
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Thank Kim. You're right. I will be way better once I'm in my new home sweet home.
How are you doing, girl?
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To cheer me up. They were from a girl at work that I don't know all that well. What a sweetheart! And she got me the cutest card in the shape of a shirt with a hanger on it.
VERY NICE!!! 
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Stay strong Tina, you are sooo brave to be doing this and we're all here for you....cant wait to see pics of ur flat when its all done and Im sure you'll be settled in and feeling at home in no time. It must be such a strange feeling to be ending such a big chapter in your life but I know things will turn out great for you in the end....a fresh start is just what you need!
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Natalie
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I'm not doing too bad. The past few days have been better. Thanks for asking!!
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Hey there big sis!
You are STRONG, CONFIDENT, and the BEST big sis in the world! 
Not to mention funny, sweet, lovin, and GORGEOUS!
if you EVER need a compliment....let me know 
You're such a special person...I'm SO glad you're taking care of yourself properly!
Way to go Tina!!!!!!!!!!
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Formerly known as Ruchie
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- Jennifer
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As Casey said, it is hard to leave a relationship of 10 years, even if it wasn't the best, because it was comfortable. And you did love him at one time, maybe you always will.
But think about how you would feel if you gave up this opportunity and hung around. Which scares me more? Probably the thought of living in those conditions for another 10 or more years.
You are nervous, and anyone in your shoes would be. But deep down, you know it's the best thing. And this is the roughest time. The time right before the move when everything becomes "real". But hey, even though you are moving, we are'nt!! We'll still be old and familar and comfortable.
Once you get some familiar things in your new place, and get Sara in there with you, you will feel better and at peace. Maybe not the first night, but I bet by the end of the week, things will be much brighter and you'll be wondering what all your crying was about!!
Crying is so healing and therapeutic. You are mourning the loss of a relationship. But you have a new one right around the corner. You are one of the strongest people I know, Tina. So determined to make your life happpy and the most fullfilling that you can, even when it means doing frightening things and making changes.
YOU ARE AWESOME!!! Take care and check in this weekend if you can. Otherwise, we expect a full report on Monday!
Lots of love and hugs!
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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That is so sweet...bet the ex wondered where they came from when you brought them home though! Daisies are such a cheery flower!
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S.
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yay for flowers.. and i'm sure things are gonna be great once you get out on your own! keep smiling!
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Thanks Beth.
I have no regrets as I said.
You won't be able to have a report until WEDNESDAY! I have no computer at home and only return to work then.
Thanks for all your kind words. They mean A LOT to me.
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It is the strangest feeling. Oh yes. Moving into a strange new place where everything is unknown. But I am ready and will amke it very cozy and all MINE. 
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Ah-ha. I kept them at work for that reason alone! I don't think they'll be dead by Wednesday. I sure hope not! 
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Thanks Ash. Do people call you that? My niece is Ashley and that's what i call her.
Flowers ROCK!!!
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Hang in there Kimmy!
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Ruchie, my cute little sis!
Thank you SO MUCH for the compliments. they do help when I'm feeling low. You're too kind, my dear.
Ruchie, you're the best too!
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Good luck with the move! I'm sorry that you're having a bit of a hard time right now but you seem very strong so I'm sure you'll get through it. Just remember that you know you're doing the right thing
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Thanks Kelly. I know I'm doing the right thing.
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I know this is a hard time for you and also a sad one but I'm wishing you all the luck in the world for an easy move and a smooth transition into your new life. Look at it as a new beginning not the end. I'll be thinking of you.
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Amy
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Oh, I'd think there was something wrong with you if you WEREN'T having big emotions right now.
It's gonna be an exciting time, though!
Looking forward to hearing- er, reading- what happens next.
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You're right Paula. How awful would I be if I didn't feel a thing after 10 years.
I'll give you guys all an update on Wednesday. I'll try to borrow a digital camera to take some pics if possible.
Where ahve you been? Long time no see!
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Thanks a lot Amy.
I hope you're doing well too. Hang in there.
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Sending lots of huggs and good wishes your way!
I am sure the toughest part will be when you have to leave the apt you share with your ex for the last time. But, then you can look forward and move on and never look back! I know this is a tough time for you, but remember even if you can't post for a little while we will all be where ever we are wishing you well.
REmember- you are awesome and deserve this new life that you will be starting and most DEFINATELY made the right choice.
Good luck again!
luvs
Sheri
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-Sheri
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Thanks Sheri!
Where have YOU been? What's up?
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Ah, I wound up with a new bf Didn't want one, but I also realize that you have to go with what happens, if something feels right you have to go with it. This guy is so great for me! He is such a sweetheart and is everything that I had missing in previous relationships. I am being very careful to keep my own life though, don't want to get sucked into just being 'the second half' again.
I am taking him to meet my parents on Easter *crossing fingers*
I have been busy with work and school, too. I have calmed down my party girl life alittle, it was getting to be too much for me and my IBS! I try to stick to only having late nights on the weekends now and have been feeling much better.
I have been lurking almost everyday though!
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-Sheri
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Sheri, what is LS?
Is it that same guy that you kissed that is your BF? I am so happy for you!!! YAY! I bet you're so happy that you ended things with the other guy. It led to you meeting a great new guy.
I'm glad that you've calmed down with the partying. It's good for short-term fun but very ahrd to maintain without it affecting your life. Been there before when I was your age.
I'm so happy that things are going well with you Sheri! 
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I've been
a) getting a new job
b) adopting a new cat
c) preparing for 2 concerts and a trip to Toronto, all to happen in April.
Good stress, all, but stress nonetheless. Had a little head cold in there too, but thanks to the wondrous neti pot, it proved minor.
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Paula, you have been busy. My goodness!
What's your new job? How's your new kitty? And have you ever been to Toronto before?
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Tina, sorry I have not had a chance to respond. Good luck with your move. This is all for the best. Ii am pulling for you and hope you have a wonderful life in your new place. You're a great girl and deserve the world!
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Thanks Tommy. You're so sweet.
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The new job won't start till August, but I was officially hired this week. It's the position of "director of choral activities" at a really big suburban Lutheran church outside of Milwaukee. I'll be directing the adult choir, the bell choir, and developing the children's/youth choir programs. I'm quite excited about it. It feels like a real good fit. So I've been dragging out all my church choir books and resources to begin to brush up on that stuff- I've been out of the church loop for 5 years. I was sort of forced to look for a new position because my position at the high school at which I teach has been cut because of drops in $$ and enrollment, but all's well that ends well. I think this is gonna be a good thing.
New kitty- her name is "Sunday"- is doing very well, and the entire zoo is doing pretty well in adapting to her presence. She's figured out the box, and she's slowly establishing relationships with the other cats. She epecially likes Maurice(the big grey cat in the picture).
I have been to Toronto once before, but in the same context in which I'm going this time- that's with 150 high school kids on several busses, to participate in an international music competition. We don't get too much time sightseeing; we'll be going with the kids to see "Wicked", getting to do a couple other touristy things (a mall or the Royal museum, I believe, are the kids' choices- of course, we have to keep their free time fairly structured), then doing the competition. It sounds like a trip to hell on gossamer wings, but it's really kinda fun. I like my students.
Plus two concerts. I won't bore you with those details unless you want to know more.
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hi im new to posting around these boards
my name is ashley too and i have that same quote on my desktop!! i love vangogh!! just wanted to say hi!
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VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
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Hi Tina - I'm a little bit late with this but I'm wishing you all the best of luck with your move!! I really am so very happy for you, and proud of how strong you are. It's impressive, do you know that girl??
Don't stress it, take it a day at a time, and let all that good fortune just roll in for ya' 'cause it's your time to shine! Hugs and love to you - I'll be thinking of you!
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~*Amber*~
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Thanks Amber. I am stronger than I thought I was. This is a great confidence booster! I feel like if I can do this then there isn't much that I can't do.
I will take it one day at a time. That's very good advice.
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Your new job sounds great! Sounds challenging though but challenges keep life exciting a new! I'm glad you were able to find a new job so quickly. Sorry that your position was cut.
Sunday! What a name! Hey why not! I'm glad that the others are acepting Sunday. I hope my kitty adjusts well to her new home.
You will have your hands full in Toronto. Oh my gosh! best of luck to you. I hope you'll have some assistance and it won't just be you and your students?
Take care Paula. I'll be away from the boards for a few days. Busy, busy!
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Hey Ashley! I love that name!
Welcome.
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hahaha what a coincidence! welcome to the boards.
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howdy! thanks for the welcome
it took awhile for me to like my own name haha
my mom was inspired from [watching] gone with the wind--only the name was of a boy!!!
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VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
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