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As much as you can, try to remember while you're going through this, while he's making your life as miserable as he can as his parting shot- that he's in a lot of pain. He wouldn't be treating you this way now if he was happy with himself, and he certainly will be doing his best to make it tough for you as you're leaving, but because he's hurting. It isn't really because he's an inherantly bad person, he's just hurting.
I suspect the best thing you can hope for is that this might be the impetus for him to do what he needs to do (get therapy?, or whatever) to get his life together.
Meanwhile, you can't keep sinking with him. But you know this.
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I too am happy to see you doing we'll with your leaving.
I think the others here know you a lot better than me, and in that have a better oppinion of your boyfriend, so my statement may just be that of objectivity and ignorance of the situation but i'd think he may try to keep you by being nice. You know promiseing therapy and all that.
Just a thought i had to post on.
I'll be reading the replies 
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Yay Tina! It sounds really nice...I'm so happy for you! Both mine and my bf's first apartments were pretty much dives, so I'm glad you were smart to look around and find something that suits you.
About the laundromat thing, I had to go to a laundromat for about two years while I lived in my old building, it had laundry but it was really gross and people stole your clothes and it was just really bad. I found a really cute laundromat not too far away, with a cafe and video games and areas to study and stuff and it was actually really nice. Sorta a change to get away for awhile...I'm sure there are places like that it your area rather than just going to those little holes in the wall that just have a few machines and maybe a pop machine
Good luck with everything, moving can be expensive but I'm sure you'll do fine
Keep us posted!
Kelly
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Hi Kelly,
I will drive as far as I need to to go to one of the kinds that ahve a cafe and sitting area. I won't go to a whole in the wall place with creepy people that want to steal my clothes.
I will you you posted! 
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Yes he might try that. But it's too late. I am moving on! And loving it.... 
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Yes Tommy I will let you guys all know what happens.
Thanks. 
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I know, you're right. I want him to be happy as well. He's not entirely happy. maybe he'll realize when I'm gone that he didn't deserve me and change himself for the next lady that comes into his life.
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yay!
#152142 - 02/20/05 10:29 AM
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alright sounds great SS! If only aparments here came painted yellow and sage Mine isso white it looks like a mental institution
Good girl for giving your BF the months notice. It is alot harder that way, but he does have to prepare to take care of himself and like you said you have been together ten years!
has the reality of all this sunk in yet?
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Ya, the place is funky and perfect for me!
The reality will only sinl in next month.
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That's so fantastic Tina! I'm really happy for you - you're so young and smart and pretty and full of vitality and deserve just tons of happiness in your life! Good luck with the move!
If b/f's hassling you, can you stay with a friend at nights and just stop by the apt for clothes and to pick up items you need?
For decorating on a budget, you could try using paints and fabrics on inexpensive furniture - like use nice sheets to make a slip cover on a mismatching sofa or chairs. Or use fabrics on mismatched tables and other furniture to bring everything together. Just some ideas ...
Anyway, best of luck to you hon, you'll do great!!
Love,
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