Old lady at Target
#143905 - 01/28/05 03:25 PM
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stevensa
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I just had a very annoying experience in line at Target. There was an elderly lady in front of me and about three people behind me. She had her cart well behind the checkout and was busy chatting to her friend, eventually the clerk came around and started to place her small items on the counter. When he began scanning, her attention diverted to the task at hand. She questioned the price of everything that he scanned "How much was that?" and made him recheck everything AFTER he scanned, bagged, and was onto the next item. ARGH!!!! Finally, he got to the last item and she really argued over the price, "that's not what the sign said" and she insisted that HE come back with her to check. Apparently she didn't notice the huge line behind her. Thank God someone came over and went with her to check the price.
I can only imagine how long it would've taken her to pay (with a check, no doubt). Thank for letting me vent! 
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I totally understand your frustration today.
The thing is, we are all going to get old....sooner than we think.
I watch my mother, her body failing her, her mind still sharp, her face still beautiful. My only hope, is that if she were to go out by herself and end up in a predicament like this, that some sweet soul would take the time to help her out.
I know, I know, she probably never saw the line of people behind her.
I see my h father in the same shape. I came across him in the grocery store one day looking for the cat food. He can't walk fast, he can't hear well, he can't see much either. That day, I also saw the people who were loosing their pateince with him. I saw myself in those people.
There was a day, he was a deacon at his church. He is a WWII veteran, a very proud marine, who can still tell stories that would make us all cry. He supported his family as a machinist. He could fix any car or truck that was broken down or getting ready to. He was also a father to me when my own dad couldn't be one. One terrible day, he saw his oldest son die, a huge part of his heart died along with him. He still tries very hard every day to be productive, he is now 83. At one time, he could build beautiful bookcases for his daughter in college. For that matter, he could take a peice of wood and turn it into a beautiful bread box, or build shutters. He built the ones on my house that have been there for about 27 years and still look new. I just change the paint on them every few years, don't have the heart to take them down and throw them out. He lived through the depression, when every penny was precious, and most days didn't have two pennies to rub together. This lady probably did too, that is why she wanted to make sure the store was not over charging her. Watching her money became part of her fabric, even in her old age, it stayed with her.
OK, I am rambling, the point is, we all have our days. Some days are great, others are hard. I hope someone helps me out when I go out and slow things down for the people behind me.
Just wanted to share a different side to the story. Don't be offended, please.
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i can realy understand how frustrating that was!! I to can get very impatiant in situations like that! I try very hard to think of my grams when things like this happen! I agree with Gayla that we are going to be old one day and I just hope somone shows kindnees towards me when I do!
With out the older generation we would not be here! It was so sad to how many people in the nursing home just wanted someone to talk to and hold their hand for a moment! We need to treat our elders and our veterans much better as indivdules and as a nation!!
Just my thoughts!!
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Gayla,
I completely see your point, my grandmother is in her 80's and it is sad to she how she's slowed down. I really shouldn't have described the woman at Target as "elderly"--she was probably in her late 60's. It was more a case of her arrogant attitude rather than of confusion. For example, when she told the cashier to come back with her & he told her that there is a line she seemed very indignant.
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I want to be patient with people like that but most of the time I'm trying to hold in a stinky fart, or feeling anxious and I just want to get through and outta there!
Heh... I probably look all sour and horrid at the checkout.. 
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I agree, old people should not be allowed to leave the house. Next time, cut in front of one and get even.
~nelly~ 
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one day that will be you! (and sooner than you think). My husband is the most impatient person in the world. He gets mad at everyone who's not on high speed like he is. Lately, I can really emphathize with the older crowd since I've been having health problems. When I see someone slowly across the parking lot, I don't sigh and roll my eyes anymore. Because I know I can't walk very fast anymore since I have back and feet problems.
One day (soon) this will be you .....
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I thought what she said was pretty funny and besides I think we all know Nelly enough that sarcasm is her forte. I should know, I have the same personality type. She meant no harm by what she said and
I think there's a difference here. A person does not have control of a physical disability. What this woman at Target was doing was rude. I would have the same reaction if I were waiting on line.
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I beg to differ. As I watch my parents get older (late 60's and early 70's) there is a decline in their mental state, they become less reasonable and for the most part they become a little self-centered. I don't think the lady at Target realized that there was a line behind her as she was focused on her prices etc.
Perhaps she was on a fixed income and has to watch her pennies. We all need to respect the "seasoned" people...if we give them a chance we will learn from them. In Asia the elderly are respected and treated very well.
One day we may be the "old man or lady at Target" and my prayer is that I not get to the point that I annoy everyone younger than myself but if I do, they will understand.
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I agree. Plus my mum (while not old at 55 and she certainly doesn't look it) is always the one getting the prices checked. They make so many mistakes now days and things are always scanning at a different price to the shelf. And who can afford to throw away good money because a computer system got it wrong? I'm sure she meant no harm but we don't know her circumstances. Maybe she has very little money where every cent counts (that's me for sure). I guess I see both sides.
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Understood. Don't get me wrong, I have a tremendous amount of respect for the eldery. My friend's dad is 82 and I seek his advice often since he has been through a hell of a lot more than I have.
I guess I see both sides of the story. I know one day I will be old as well. I didn't grow up with a lot myself. Every penny counted in my house. I'll just leave it at that. Lets just hope the little old lady at Target wasn't cheated out of her money.
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Your words express my thoughts to the tee. Thanks for putting them down so eliquently.
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I am of your mind Nelly. 
Tommy I would have been freaking out I am sure! Everytime I try to go to Target late Fridays when I am in a hurry to get home and make dinner it always ends in full on rage and irritation! People can talk like they are considerate and sweet but nine times out of ten those same people get pretty peeved if they are in a hurry and behind a really slow driver. Who here wouldn't tail and pass at the first opportunity? I think in general people will nicely help an old person across the street and into their car and then ride their tail with agression when in their car and anonymous.
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"You absolutely must eat insoluble fiber foods, and as much as safely possible, but within the IBS dietary guidelines. Treat insoluble fiber foods with suitable caution, and you'll be able to enjoy a wide variety of them, in very healthy quantities, without problem." Please eat IF foods!
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What if I said "Snobby, rich, gorgeous model at Target"?
But then again, she probably wouldn't be shopping at Target and I probably would have gone back to check on the price for her! j/k
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I think old people are selfish, making the most money in the country, but then choosing to retire and not work, instead claiming social security and medicare and becoming a drain on government resources. They have no time to be polite or courteous to others and would rather complain loudly in public restaurants and stores. They breach decency and decorum easily, talking freely and rudely about their medical problems and complaining about social progresses like voice mail and electronic media. On that subject they are threatened by any new technology that threatens their little subset of skills, preferring rather to complain than to learn. They are rude and disinterested in getting along socially with any stranger who might rub them the wrong way, and then wonder why they are shunned socially and not invited to new places. They believe they are "owed" and conduct themselves accordingly. They drive worse than teenagers and have little regard for the safety hazzard they pose others on the road. But old people don't bother me more than any other group of people, just differently.
~nelly~ Next week: Teenagers
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ten foot pole! If that is the way you realy feel, then I feel sorry for you nelly. I feel very storng on this subject so I am just going to walk away! So we can remain nice and not start a huge fight on the boards!
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Heather7476
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I wonder if you will still find it funny. or if that was your Grandparents someone was talking about.
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Heather7476
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Ii don't think she really means that. I would hope not. I thought it was funny as a joke. Heck, I certainly don't feel that way about old people. I use sarcasm all the time. Nelly, you have to be a little careful my dear. Not everyone takes sarcasm the same way as you and I do.
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I know old people in my family that would say that same thing. I hope I can laugh at myself even when I am older. Sorry if you were offened. maybe that type of humor is not for everyone on the boards. I have had a lot of people make fun of my nationality including close frieds, I don't take it to heart. I think you can tell when someone means it when someone doesn't. I don't think Nelly really means what she wrote.
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I am glad you don't realy feel that way but at the same time joking like that is not funny. I don't find Gay jokes funny or elderly jokes or fat jokes funny either! If it hurts someone or puts someone down for who and what they are it is not funny!
I love Nelly I agree she is one of the funniest people on here but I think she went to far this time on a very sensitve subject for me right now!
I watched older people sitting in thier wheelchair's in hall ways for hours with no one to care about them. WHY?? Because the had the misfourtune of getting old. I watched nurse's who hated their jobs treat them like babies and with no respect! It made me so mad!! Here I was watching my Grandaddy dying and knowing how much he would hate the fact that someone else had to wipe his own ass and then had all this rage about how we as a country have just thrown these people away.
Don't even get me started on how bad we treat are Vetrans! Maybe if I could have HEARD nelly say it, it mught not have rubbed me so wrong, it is very hard to tell how people mean things sometims on the boards.
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Heather7476
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I sincerely apologize. I definitely respect your feelings. As I said, that type of humor is not for everyone. People do obviously have different sensitivity levels. Being half Puerto RIcan I have had people call me unmentionable names to my face not only from strangers but my own flesh and blood.
Like I said, I understand how you feel and your sensitivity to the issue. I am sorry of what I said offended you in anyway.
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I think snobby, rich, gorgeous models at Target walk too slowly and smell funny. They also have weird voices and names you can't pronounce.
~nelly~ Notice I didn't go there with the seniors? Hm, I wonder why?
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Unfortunately Dh's wicked grandmother has gotten me to believe everything you just said. I earnestly await teenagers!
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