Sinead
#137120 - 01/11/05 05:11 AM
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See I felt as I was typing that about the Bridesmaid dress that you all didn't do it the same way we did. Well at least you can buy yourself a little something special. And give a nice stare-down as she comes down the aisle just to make her a little uncomfortable  You could always trip a bridesmaid too and then after the wedding point out to her how agile you are...you never would have tripped 
Thanks for the good day wishes I hope classes go well today and they aren't as hard as I think they'll be. The first week of school is always annoying because you get so overwhelmed when you're being shown ALL the projects and everything you'll have to do in the next 15 weeks, plus everyone is just unenthusiastic and it makes it hard to be motivated.
Maybe I should ask for diamonds for my birthday. I have French CD's and workbooks but I think it'd be so much easier or make more sense if I was being taught by a real person. I don't know. I speak some Spanish from high school but I wish it was better. I think it's amazing when people have a general knowledge enough to communicate in several languages. I want to be like that!
You should definitely start using that foot spa. What a great present! You're right, nail places are EVERYWHERE here. Most of them are run by asians. They are very good at it, but sometimes kinda rough. Otherwise every hair salon and spa does nail treatments too. I've got a deal with a lady at my mom's hair salon because I let her daughter "rent" my piccolo from me that I used to play, and in return she'll give me free pedicures each month since that what she does.
Alright I must be off! Have a great day!
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Man you guys got it easy.  No showers?
I understand what you mean. That is tough and I wish you all the best! At least you have time to prepare yourself. I can't think of anything to say. Oh I know, sleep with the groom! LOL.
Seriously though I am thinking of you. 
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IBS-A for 20 years with terrible bloating and gas. On the diet since April 2004. Remember this from Heather's information pages:
"You absolutely must eat insoluble fiber foods, and as much as safely possible, but within the IBS dietary guidelines. Treat insoluble fiber foods with suitable caution, and you'll be able to enjoy a wide variety of them, in very healthy quantities, without problem." Please eat IF foods!
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LOL Tommy!
#137131 - 01/11/05 06:18 AM
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cailin
Reged: 08/12/04
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Sorry you are still feeling awful, thanks for the post, and the compliment!
I agree that I was disrespect, written off even. Ah well, if I go to the wedding I will have a lot less stressful day!
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Re: Tamara
#137132 - 01/11/05 06:20 AM
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cailin
Reged: 08/12/04
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Loc: Dublin, Ireland
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No showers but our hen nights are quite an ordeal! We don't do baby showers either.
BF may not be impressed by your other suggestion 
You mentioned in your other post about writing a novel...and I saw novelist in your profile too, what have you written and what kind of stuff do you write?
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Ugh. Some people just don't understand. I'm sorry she disrespected you like that. At least you'll save money....go buy yourself some new clothes!
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Sinead
#137143 - 01/11/05 06:51 AM
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Augie
Reged: 10/27/04
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Forgot you were leaving us for a while! Will you be able to have access to a computer in Paris, not that you won't have other exciting things to be doing with your time!
I hate when people go away. I truly miss people when they are gone!
But this trip is exactly what you need after all the recent happenings in your life. Heck it's always a good time to go to Paris or anywhere! I would love to go to Ireland. My mom has been dreaming of a trip to Ireland since I was a little girl. We are Irish and she has tons of picture books and Irish trinckets all over the house. I always told her I would take her there when I grew up. Well, so far money has prevented that. If I could give her one thing, it would be a trip to Ireland. She has wanted this for so long. If your like me, you try and make up for how lousy she was/is treated by my father and all the abuse he put(s) her through!
There I go off on another tangent. If you haven't noticed, I tend to do that in middle of threads that have nothing to do with what I'm rambling about. Sorry! 
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Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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Sinéad - I am sorry that you are feeling rejected by your friend. Weddings can be a very sticky business and feelings get hurt quite often.
Part of me wants to believe that she meant well, but that she doesn't understand IBS. If we say yes to doing something, we feel like we can handle it. It feels good to be included in events and to have our company valued.
But, who knows the real reason. We cannot read people's minds (as much as I'd like to sometimes) and playing a guessing game will only make you crazy.
My suggestion is to go do something nice for yourself and think of the free time you'll have not being tied up in wedding events. Now you'll be able to attend the wedding as a guest - come and go as you want. There is some freedom in that
I have had my feelings very deeply hurt over wedding choices/bridesmaids. My bridesmaids were horrible - they complained about the dresses, the alterations, the shoes, the location of the wedding, the accomodations.....they made my life miserable. They hogged the mirror in the dressing room and I barely had enough time to get my makeup on! Before the wedding they called me and asked if they had to give me a shower because it was a lot of trouble!  I was so upset and hurt...I told them that if it was that much of a bother to please not do it. (Who wants to force someone to throw you a party?) My mother is an alcoholic, and she was drunk all day at my wedding. She griped and moaned and got in my face about my stepmother wearing a corsage too. Like I needed that too on my stressful day along with griping bridesmaids, a mean wedding coordinator, a late florist, and the videographer arguing with the photographer. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! When we reached the hotel that night, I sat on the bed and cried and cried while my poor husband hugged me.
Another time, a friend got married and chose to have a very small ceremony. (She was one of my bridesmaids.) She asked another friend to be her sole attendant - another one of my bridesmaids. That's great - I had no problem with that. What bothered me was that she never told me that she made this decision, as if she thought I'd be mad and couldn't handle it. How dumb. So, I go to her very small wedding and see my other friend come in as her bridesmaid before her in the ceremony. I was so surprised - I felt hurt that she didn't tell me. They kept it this huge secret and I felt like an idiot standing there in a very tiny crowd. Then they avoided me almost the whole dinner reception. Whatever! It was like they were afraid to talk to me! I couldn't believe how immature and insensitive they were - but then again I wasn't that shocked given their behavior at my wedding. I was glad to leave.
On the way home, my husband said, "Honey, why didn't you tell me that X was going to be Y's bridesmaid?" And I told him that I was as clueless as he was. He thought it was very strange and bizarre. He asked if I was mad or hurt, and I told him I was upset that they felt like they couldn't talk to me about it. Its her wedding - she can run it how she wants. I don't care about that. But keeping secrets is so ridiculous and insulting!
I have come to the conclusion that if you have less than supportive people in your wedding party or family, you should highly consider doing a wedding-moon at one of the Sandals resorts! If they can't behave or be nice, then they don't get to come!  And you save a lot of money. 
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Sinead!
#137175 - 01/11/05 08:40 AM
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Sheri01
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This is why I hate weddings! people get too out of control , and it just seems like an antiquated ceremony to me! My dream wedding is eloping to Vegas. the bridemaid situation gets too tricky, when my Father's sister got married, he was in the wedding, but since my Uncle- to - be had so many sisters, my mom wasn't in it, and it made her feel left out and weird to go to a wedding by herself, since her date was at the wedding party table!
I think she was also insulted that my sister and I weren't asked to be flower girls, since he (uncle to be) had so many nieces, too. My Dad has only two sisters, and one was married before we were born, so that upset her.
have you ever heard of the woman that ditch bridesmaids of thiers cause they gain weight? I heard it on a radio show that this woman wanted to get rid of her bridesmaid, since she was gaining weight "And not trying to do anything about it, she will ruin my pictures!" Horrible, just horrible!
Your friend did stab you in the back, by pretending to be nice to you and take you out for dinner. What a jerk. And her wedding will suck cause she will be too bothered with the little things that don't matter. It probably has to do with you growing apart, and who knows, your mam may not be far from the truth!
Chin up and don't let it bother you! And if you need an excuse, say you are going to NYC for the weekend (you don't have to go for real though!)
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Odd this came up, I have been wanting to ask you about Irish weddings!
My cousin has just been formally engaged and is getting married in September. SHe says she wanted a 'tradtional irish wedding' and found info online. She said they wear light blue gowns, and there are fairies instead of flower girls. My Grandmom told my sister and I this on Christmas, and my sister, being a smart a@$, says, "Oh, where is she going to find a fairy?" I am trying not to laugh, knowing that she means, like fairies don't exist, how will that happen? And my grandmother (not very bright) replies, "Oh, she already ordered wings for Rebecca and Autumn!" 'And she wants to make sure that nothing else is going on at around the same time, cause she wants it to be special."
This girl is just screaming for attention! She expects to contro lthe whole world, and when things happen to make her wedding special? I think I might elope the day before or after just to be a brat (j/k). If you knew her personality growing up you would get how absurd this is.
is this for real? Is that really the traditional irish wedding? I think she is going too far and only looking for attention. I am definately not one to stick to tradition, but she is. Our family (on my dad's side) is Irish, but it is not like we have strong roots, not like we have close relatives still there, or like she has ever visited! I am not sure, but I don't her mother's family is Irish. My grandmom always is blabbing her mouth about being Irish, but it is not like she was raised there, or even born there. I think they are all going through an identity crisis. 
What do you think? I also want to make it clear that I would not have a problem with this wedding if it was true to her personality and life style.
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Wow! That is pretty shocking! All I can add to this is that brides to be tend to lose their minds when planning weddings and maybe she's just not thinking clearly. I remember breaking down and crying in front of all my friends when a pair of scissors wouldn't work for me. It was 3 weeks before the wedding. I am sure they thought I was nuts! LOL
Anyways hang in there! I have been in only two (family) weddings in my life and I have lots of friends. I just figure hey less money you have to spend!
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