Christmas Present Return?
#133030 - 12/26/04 07:56 PM
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Augie
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I need advice please. I received a Christmas gift from my mom which I don't really want to keep. But my mom puts so much energy in selecting her gifts, that I don't want to hurt her feelings by telling her that I really would rather return this gift for something else.
She didn't include a gift receipt, so I can't return it without telling her and asking for the receipt.
Should I just be a "grown up" and keep the gift? I think she bought the item because she thought I wanted it because I mentioned it about a year ago! I don't really want the item though. I know this item wasn't cheap so it makes it more difficult to keep it. If it were cheaper it wouldn't be such a big deal to keep it even though I didn't want it.
I don't know how to handle this. Any advice?
Oh, I would have to invest money to buy a stand for the gift too. So I would be spending additional money on a gift I really didn't want. But I don't want to hurt my mom. She really works hard to make Christmas special. I don't want to be an ungrateful brat. I don't know what to do?
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~ Beth
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I don't know what your relationship with your mom is like, but my mom would want me to return it and get soemthing that I really wanted. I usually am able to tell my mom what I like and what I don't like. Our family is very open that way. We even always say, I have the receipt saved if you want to return or exchange it for something else. I think the best thing is for you to tell your mom how much you appreciate her gift, but would she mind if you exchanged it for something else? I would even tell her what you have in mind that you want to get. I would not keep something that is quite expensive if you aren't going to enjoy it. Or you can just exchange it without the receipt and not tell her, unless she asks. You only need the receipt if you are returning it. Actually, they will only give you the lowest price that that product was ever sold at without the receipt, so I guess you do need the receipt. Sorry, I can't be more help, I would just be honest with your mom.
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If it cost her alot of money, you should be honest and ask for the receipt, if it is something that you would not use. It would not be fair for her to spend alot of money on a gift that would sit in a closet forever. If it is something that would be visible in your home if you used it or not, she would find out sooner or later that you do not use it , also.
I do not have this problem with my family, we are pretty open about this stuff, becuase we would rather not waste.
Good luck, this situation is never easy!
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Thanks for your prospective. My mom usually does put the gift receipt with the gift, but the last year or 2 she has stopped doing this! I thought about just returning it for store credit, but like you said, you only get the lowest price plus you only get store credit. But the bigger problem would be when my mom came over and didn't see the present sitting in my living room! But I don't want to have to invest more of my own money into a gift I really didn't even want.
My mom is so sensitive and so am I. So I'm trying to think of how I would react if she asked me for a receipt for a gift I gave her. I might be hurt. Oh, I'll have to think about this overnight!
I might take the easy way out and try and leave a message on her answering machine instead of telling her directly! But then I couldn't really explain and make her try and feel okay and get all excited about all the things I would use the exchange to get.
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~ Beth
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Thanks Shari, that's two votes for telling her! But I am such a chicken when it comes to maybe hurting my mom's feelingss at all. I just don't want to hurt her. But maybe I'm making this into a bigger deal than it really is.
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~ Beth
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My mom is so sensitive and so am I. So I'm trying to think of how I would react if she asked me for a receipt for a gift I gave her. I might be hurt.
Well, this sounds like a good time to use the Golden Rule. I have found it to be the best tool in decision making of this kind. I think that thinking it over first is a very good idea.
Terri
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how about an email? say, mom, I really liked your gift, but I need a blank really bad and could get it if I exchanged your gift. Would you be mad if I exchanged your gift? I really need the blank and it would be lk9ke it was coming from you. I would need the receipt to be able to exchange it. Again, thanks so much for all the great Christmas gifts! And tell her you love her!
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Golden Rule?
#133040 - 12/26/04 08:36 PM
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Augie
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Do you mean "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?" Are you saying you wouldn't say anything?
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~ Beth
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That's the Golden Rule and I'd sure use it in a situation like this. What would I do? Well, I'm like you; I'm a big chicken when it comes to hurting my Mom's feelings. I'm almost 50 and my mom is in her 70's, but I still go out of my way to NOT hurt her feelings at all and I've always been this way with her. I have no regrets about that whatsoever, by the way. Me? I'd keep the present and display it, but I can't say that's the right decision, honey. It's up to you.
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But thanks for the suggestion! Emails make being honest so much easier. I mean, can you even imagine talking about some of the stuff we talk about without the computer: BMs, pooping, constipation, diarrhea... I just don't know if I could be so blunt if I were actually saying these things out loud!
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~ Beth
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