My Daughter
#126832 - 12/01/04 08:22 PM
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Lefty1
Reged: 08/09/04
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A hard night:
She has just put together for herself that her favorite teacher. A teacher that she considers "her very own" has breast cancer.
My daughter and I talked and cried for a long time. I just put her to bed, gave her a kiss and held her tight.
Please say a prayer for this very special person who has touched my daughter's life.
My daughter's teachers name is Ellen. She has an aggressive form of breast cancer. She has had a single mastectomy and is currently going through chemo. She has three children around college age. She is a lovely person.
There is of course so much more to say but...it would fill pages.
Thanks
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I can totally identify with this. My favorite high school teacher (who I had for three hours a day) and I now work with every summer as an adult had breast cancer. I didn't find out until far after her treatment and luckily she survived. But it made me very upset, as this is someone I love. I'm sure your daughter will make sure her teacher knows how much she cares about her and how much it means to have her as a teacher. As a teacher myself and someone who's experienced this with their own teacher- I know that makes a huge difference! My thoughts will be with you all.
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I know how this one is...
I loved my third gradeteacher. SO much. I was one of her favorites, but she loved all of us in her class, and always tried to teach us important life lessons, whcih probably didn't sink in til years later.
Three years after I left her class I visited that elementary school I went to and saw her. I really wanted to say hi, but I was really shy then and thought she wouldn't remember me. It was two or three, I can't really remember, years later I found out she had died. She had cancer.
It really upsets me that I couldn't say how much she meant to me. She told us a story once in class that she never said the words "I love you" to her dad and now regrets it. He died suddenly of a heart attack. I wish I would have understood more then, she must have known to be talking to us about such things like that, it is so sad... I am glad I can still remember her words of wisdom, and her praise, she was the first person to make ME realize how intelligent I really was...
I am so sad now! But it is good in a way.
I hope everything turns out ok for this woman, some teachers really can be angels!
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-Sheri
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Well my thoughts and prayers are definitely going out to you and your daughter and her favorite teacher. That is so tough - and definitely for a young girl to try and deal with. My mom told me last night that my principal from elementary school who we've kept in close touch with all that time just told everyone yesterday and she has breast cancer and it's in her lymphnodes which I know is not good. It seems like all I hear lately is cancer stories!
But I think it's good that you can cry with your daughter and help her through this - maybe you can help her make a big card that she can get her classmates to sign - I bet it would make her feel good to do something instead of feel helpless.
Best of luck and I'll keep you all in my prayers! And give us any updates.
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Oh, I'm so sorry. I don't have any experience with any thing like this but wanted to offer my support. You will be in my thoughts and prayers! Hugs.
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Taking it one day at a time.....
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Wow that is so tough! I had a favorite teacher die when I was in 3rd grades. SHe was my 1st grade teacher and I loved her. I can tell you that being a teacher myself the greatest thing in the world is to hear how much you have touched a child's life. A card from you and your daughter would probably mean so much to her right now. My prayers are with her and your famly as well!
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Re: My Daughter
#127018 - 12/02/04 10:45 AM
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Nelly
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Sometimes people get better. Keep up the hope, and think of the good times. Your daughter is lucky to be touched by this special person, and you are doing a fantastic job helping her through this tough time. It's good you both can cry about this. Keep on keeping on, and I'm sending good thoughts your way.
Peace,
~nelly~
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Hi!
It is so sad to hear what your daughter's beloved teacher is going through! But I wanted to tell you my thoughts on this. During my senior year in college my father was diagnosed with agressive melanoma cancer and months later (while my father was still receiving aggressive and poisonous chemo) my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and underwent a lumpectamy and months of radiation theropy. It was a terribly stressful time for the whole family, but I will tell you about one significant thing that helped to get through it - while cancer is a HORRIBLE disease, there is SO MUCH research going on and because of this there is HOPE and it is important for us to be a part of that hope. When your daughter comes home from school today, take her to the grocery store and find yoplait yoghurts with pink lids, buy a bunch as send them in for their Susan G. Komen Foundation collection. Sign up on the Susan G. Komen website and they will tell you about other opportunities in your area to help raise more money and work closer to find a cure!! There are tons of walks, marathons, bake sales, you name it that she could get involved in. I remember that when I did these things I felt like I was doing something about it and it also connects you to a great community of people who care. There is hope and this a great opportunity to see how you and your daughter can become a part of it.
Your daughter and her teacher will be in my prayers.
Min
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Hello,
I really appreciate the time you took to share your feelings and for some recalling a very difficult personal experience with me.
It is true we can make this sad event into a positive one and many of you have offered wonderful suggestions. Human nature tells us to give, to close our arms around this person and let them know that we are there. So after crying my daughter can now put her energy into this new direction. Unfortunately we have done this before.
I have had a nephew struggle and win the battle with leukemia, I have also lost a nephew just after his second birthday he would have been seven this Christmas. So, my children have seen death and the struggle for life within their own family - their cousins. They have, as many others have, had to deal with the curves life can throw at a young age. Much younger then myself that is for sure.
I think that what is most difficult in this case, for the school community specifically. About two years ago in the same school another teacher, a simply fantastic teacher (also very close to my daughter) died from breast cancer. These kids loved Mrs. M. now this same group of children are afraid of losing Ellen - because it has happened to them before.
Lefty
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