Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Parents don't get FIBRO/chrionic illness...I feel invalidated...help guys!

Ruchie-

Lots of hugs.. sounds like my mother... she doesnt' get why I am concerned about IBS or going on this "wacky" diet because she has crohns= and I must too, and this isn't the right treatment- forget that I'm feeling better and they have tested me and I DON"T have what she does!

anyway- her life choices are very different from mine and she can't understand a house that isn't cleaned to her level of expectations every day and has things cluttering it up because we like having them around and USE them... and that because we both work wierd hours we've made a conscious choice to not waste time on things like weekly (or in her case twice weekly) grocery store trips to make sure she doesn't have to store anything, rather going more like once every 3-4 weeks since DH can live without a lot of fresh fruits and veggies and I do better without them anyway... and storign food int he house is thus a priority to us because we so rarely see each other.. she doesn't understand it at all.. but then she wanted me to stay unemployed (when we couldn't pay the bills and eat and ran up credit card debt which we hinted at byut never mentioned numbers to them for) and go back to school and get retrained rather then finally take a job in my field of expertise that paid half what I was making before but still a lot more then unemployment... and now- 18 months later we are finally out of debt even with that lower income and are looking at living out of a suitcase for awhile to come. DH had to make a therapist appt after mom and dads visit AGAIN because they were complaining about our lifestyle even more sinc ethis time they were helping get the house set up...

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Dietetics Student (anticipating RD exam in Aug 2010)
IBS - A
Dairy Allergic
Fructose and MSG intollerant

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