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#110734 - 10/06/04 08:15 AM
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BL
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Thanks for your reply. I'm sure it's just a phase he's going through. But his lip? I just can't imagine why anyone would want one in their lip or nose! I can't stand it when I have an ulcer on the inside of my mouth---or a buger in my nose That drives me insane. Why something artificial in those places? Even labels on the inside of my clothes make me nuts!!!
And no, I don't think I'll be mentioning oral sex at the dinnertable!!!
And let's hope our other son (a year younger) won't get any ideas from this. Maybe it will gross him out. He's the conservative one of the family. He's going to die when he sees his brother.
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Not knowing is driving me nuts! The more information, the better. I don't like surprises.
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Haha...
#110737 - 10/06/04 08:20 AM
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atomic rose
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You'll probably luck out with your younger son. I was always the crazy rebellious one, and my two younger brothers have done NOTHING that I've ever done... so don't worry about that. 
I had my lip pierced, once upon a time (not all that long ago!). Surprisingly, it's not unsanitary, and once it heals, it's not difficult to eat, either. I forgot I had it after the first week or so. And no, it doesn't hurt. But it's a phase, no doubt. Most people I know - myself included - haven't kept their lip piercings for more than a few years.
-- Casey, the many-times-over pierced and tattooed 
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Hey BL,
I don't get it either. It's just SOOO beyond me. When my best friend (who's 15 years younger than I) came to visit me 2 years ago, she lifted up her shirt and displayed a belly-button ring. EWWWWWWW.
I tried being cool about it, but I'm infamous for "shooting from the hip," and it was all I could do to keep from screaming at her, "What the hell were you THINKING?!" Instead, what came out of me was, "Monica, sweetheart, why would you want to stick holes and dangly stuff in that beautiful body of yours?!" She didn't say anything in reply; she just kissed me on the cheek and walked away.
Me and my big mouth.
BL, trust me. DON'T SAY ANYTHING! It'll come back to haunt you. Try not to stare at it, and try to be cool. 30 years from now, he'll look back at pictures of himself with that thing on his lip and say to himself, "Self, what was I THINKING?!" Meanwhile, be grateful it's not on his tongue. I hear horror stories from my dentist about those things!
Good luck,
Bevvy
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I needed to hear that. I'm sure it won't last long---he's just going through a phase. But he's always been such a nonconformist that this surprises me. This seems like following the crowd---which he's never done.
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Bevvy
#110752 - 10/06/04 08:52 AM
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BL
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I know---this will be the hardest thing in the world for me to act like it doesn't bother me. Because, like you, I'm never one to hold back my feelings! But I know I have to ignore it because I'm sure he wants to make us mad and get a reaction out of us.
And yes, I'm glad it's not his tongue ---or a tattoo. Lord help me the day he comes home with one of those. I may kill him!
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I agree with the others, try your best to not make a huge deal out of it. My response when my 18 year old stepson got his tongue pierced was to call him by his full name & ask him WHAT THE HELL HAD HE DONE? He also swore to me that it didn't hurt. Yeah right!!! When I bite my tongue I whine like a baby. I digress. Most importantly, I want to share his fathers reaction. My husband was not happy & told him that the tongue ring did not make him happy, but he had better not get a tatoo. Well of course he had gotten a tattoo right above his ankle that he kept hidden from us for two years!!!! He kept it covered with bluejeans, socks etc. Our youngest son, who is eight years younger let the cat out of the bag. I felt like such a dumbass, but he was very good at keeping it hidden. I thought he just had a foot being covered thing.  . He was scared of his Dad finding out, because of what he had said. His Dad wouldn't have done anything, he was just all bluster. I guess what I am trying to say, if you keep it somewhat calm, he probably won't go doing a bunch of weird things. My son, the younger one (18), so far hasn't gotten anything pierced or tattooed, he had wanted to & we told him when he turned 18 & was making his own money then go for it (we didn't really mean it), so far he hasn't. He has learned from his big brother. Hang tough, it will be ok.
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Lip piercing's are not good. Placque (the white sticky stuff) can develop on the inside lip when it's pierced, just as easily, if not easier than on teeth. If it's not cleaned and taken care of properly, it can get infected. Also, the backing (or whatever it may be) that rests on the gum tissue on the inside lip, can cause the gum tissue to receed, or "wear away", exposing the sensitive roots of the teeth.
Having a pierced lip may be "cool", but in the long run, it's really not, especially when you think of the damage it can cause in the mouth.
Beaglelover, I'm not trying to freak you out or make it worse for you, I just really feel that you should be aware, and make him aware of this perspective. I hope I've helped. 
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If life hands you lemons, make lemonade!!
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I was always the conservative one. never tried drugs, never drank, etc.
A few months before I turned 21 I wanted to do somehting fun and crazy. I wanted to get my belly pierced.
I called my mom and told her. LOL She wasn't happy aboit it...and asked me what I would do when I got pregnant. She cou;dnt' say much casue I was always so good LOL
Well, I got it done at a reputable, sanitary place...it didn't hurt...and went on my way. I got it removed about 2 years later...I didn't want to be married with a belly button ring! LOL
It was a phase for me for sure. And my mom letting me know she wasn't thrilled without freaking out was def. the way to go! If she had lost it that would've egged me on more I think.
The best advcie I can give is: Let him know you're not thrilled and DROP IT! Or for shock valuie...tell him you like it and think it's cool. Tell him you're thinking of geting one too. Then he won't have the "I wanna freak my fam out" motivating factor ogoing for him anymore!
In any case...you'll get through this just fine! I have confidence in you! dEf. let us know how it goes!
*hugs*
Ruchie
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Re: Nelly
#110785 - 10/06/04 10:40 AM
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Nelly
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LOL! YES! Steak sandwiches au jus, with french bread!!
Don't worry about the dining hall, though. It's just insurance that he won't starve. It fulfills your obligation to keep him fed. Plausible deniablity.
~nelly~
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