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Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,,
      #104694 - 09/09/04 06:33 AM
gigi

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Remember back a few months ago when I was having so many problems with my in-laws and thier behavior? Every one of you were so loving and supportive. I was told that it was time for me to move on, take better care of myself, and spend more time with my mom and sis!

Guess what? Thats exactly what I have done, the three of us have been busy all summer going and doing, hitting lots of sales the last few weeks and having a blast. We laugh and giggle all of the time, I tell you all, I could not have recieved better advice, and I actually followed it to the letter.

We are going a cruise the three of us, leaving Saturday. Yayayayayayya!!! My step dad gave it to us as a gift, how sweet is that ?

I now understand why my mom was not feeling well, no energy, very tired and depressed through all of this. I also understand the gift of the cruise.

My mom is very ill, she does not know that we (me and sis) know about it. She wanted to keep it quiet until after the trip, but my step dad leaked it to my son......I am heartbroken that she thinks we will be better off not knowing. Through much discussion,tears, and prayers, we have decided to talk to her about it tonight. There is no need for her to keep this heavy weight on her heart and deal with it on her own. We are going to bring it out into the open, tell her we are going to take care of her, be by her side...the whole nine yards. We want to go on this cruise without a black cloud lingering over our heads, and acting like nothing is wrong when it is. I truly think she will be so relieved, and feel so loved. She has Leukemia, we need to know what point she is at in her progression and treatment. I am the oldest, so, this is the first time I have had to step into a leadership role, I am going to need lots of prayer and support. Iknow there are so many great things happening with Leukemia today, and she could live a long time. I pray it is so. We are going to have a great time and eat good food. I just hope I can behave and not have an attack.

Regarding the chemical release, I went to the Dr. with chest pain last week, diagnosed with Costrochondritis (inflamation of the cartilege surrounding the ribs) it is very very painful. The treatment did not last, I called the Dr. back yesterday, told me to see an internest before the end of the day yesterday,well, that was notgoing to happen. I did get an appointment today at 10:15, I begged them to work me in as a new patient, they were great about it. Now, I am so afraid I may be suffering the after effects of inhaling this gas, it came into my house, we smelled it in the kitchen. I have dead grass in the front of my yard, and lost landscaping plants due to the fall out. The company came out and took soil and grass andplant samples. they called me yesterday and told me they had just shipped them off to the lab. Results in 2 weeks. The EPA are involved and the Texas Air Quality Control Board. I doubt anything will be done. Thats how they all operate.

I am also afraid this could be my heart, and if they decide to send me to Houston today because of that, I may not get to go on the cruise. Being my mom is in the condition she is in, I am NOT going to miss this boat. I intend on being there, I pray this problem can wait util I get home. IF it is my heart, they won't wait to treat it period. Crap.

Please be thinking of me, I need prayers, love, and support. I do not know how I am going to get through this. My mom is a sweet, patient, kind, loving woman, who tends to be a little bossy!!

Time for me to get dressed and off on my day. Iwon't be home until late. I cannot tell you all how much your love and support mean to me. Through all of this, I have been suffering from cramps, and I have gone from C back to A.
Oh well, I will survive for tomorrow is another day. Thanks for being there, I love you all!!!!! or, (ya'll).

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      #104697 - 09/09/04 06:41 AM
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Oy... when it rains, it really pours, huh? {{{{{{{{{{Gayla}}}}}}}}}}} My thoughts and prayers are with you for ALL of this... and especially for having to talk to your mom, I'm the oldest as well and I know about the leadership thing... urgh. Keep us posted on everything, as best you can!!

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Oh my, Gayla.... new
      #104698 - 09/09/04 06:51 AM
barbie

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Hi Gayla,

Sweetie, you are just going through more right now than any person should. I will certainly have you in my thoughts and prayers. I know how you feel about your mom. I am very close with my mom, too. She is 85 and so far in good health but I know that there are probably problems ahead.

I agree that you should tell your mom that you know about her condition. My mom is just like yours and wouldn't want us to worry. I think you will enjoy the cruise more if everyone is out in the open. I feel sure that her condition is treatable and she will be OK.

Gayla, I really don't think you have a heart problem. Costo can mimic heart trouble and lot of people that have it think it is their heart. Please let me know what the doc says.

I had a crisis yesterday, too. My mentally ill niece (33 yrs old) caught her room on fire (she lives with my sister) and they took her to the psycho ward. I went to my sister's house yesterday to help her clean up. Thankfully most of the damage was confined to one area of the room. But, there is a fine film of soot all over the furniture, etc. While I was there, I got a headache and raspy throat from the left over smoke. I am OK today.

Sending bunches of hugs to you
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Re: Oh my, Gayla.... new
      #104702 - 09/09/04 07:34 AM
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Thanks Sweet Barbie,

I can only make it through today by the Grace of God.

I am actually feelin better today, but I am going on ahead to see this new Dr., I am sure he will tell me the same thing.

Hate to hear of your sisters troubles, she is blessed to have you for a sis.

gayla

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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104703 - 09/09/04 07:36 AM
gigi

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Casey,

Thanks, I will be back home late this evening, it is an hour to my moms.

Hard being the first born, but, I will come back to the boards before I go off to bed, could be around 10-11pm my time. Right now it is 9:35 here.

Have a great day !

gayla

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Our prayers are with you and your family. Keep us posted. -nt- new
      #104714 - 09/09/04 08:09 AM
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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104725 - 09/09/04 08:46 AM
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You have my prayers and my best wishes. I almost lost my mom two years ago to blood clots that had traveled to her lungs and heart. I know how hard it can be to face that loss. I hope you are able to make that boat. I hope your Doc can help you. I think it is wonderfull the way you are going to be there for your mom and sis and step dad. You also need to rember to take of yourself through all of this.

Good luck and BIG HUGS
I will be praying.


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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104727 - 09/09/04 08:52 AM
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Gayla,
I'm so sorry to hear about all of your troubles. Your Mom is lucky to have you for a daughter and I know you're lucky to have her, too. My Mom has a lot of physical troubles, and I know how hard it is.

You're right about the oldest being the leader, but in these kind of situations, the other siblings often step in and help. You can always delegate things to someone else, when you need to.

I hate to hear of your physical suffering. What a burden to have to bear! I know that God will get you through all of this.

I'm kind of at a loss for words. Just know that I am thinking of you often and praying for you, too. I feel sad with you.

Terri


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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104738 - 09/09/04 09:50 AM
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Oh Gayla- when it rains it pours, huh?
I am worried about you, but I am sure that you can handle taking care of yourself and of mom.I am sure that you will pull through all of this and be a stronger person because of it.
Good luck with everything.
::hugg hugg::

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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104766 - 09/09/04 12:04 PM
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Gayla,

You are VERY SPECIAL and your mom is so lucky to have you for a daughter! It's beautiful how much you and your fam care about one another!

Let us know when you can how EVERYTHING goes! And good for you in making the decision to talk to your mom...she won't have to be alone anymore in her battle against the disease! Now you can go through it is as a team...and you can get through it together.......and you WILL!

Take care of yourself for now and the rest will come. We're all here for you...so let us know when we're of need!

Sending love your way,

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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104807 - 09/09/04 02:22 PM
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Oh Gayla honey..... that really is an update...wow....

Our thoughts and prayers are with both you and your family during EVERYTHING you are all going to be dealing with.

Your family is so lucky to have you.... you are such a caring soul.

How sweet of your step father.... that has got to be hard on him too..but he understands the bond that you hold with your Mom & Sis...and that is wonderful that he is giving you that gift to be together like that....he too is a great man.

You keep us posted on what the Dr say.....

{{HUGS}}

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Re: Update on my life, and the Chemical Release over my home,, new
      #104857 - 09/09/04 05:49 PM
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Dear Gayla,

Just read your post. I am so very, very sorry. Like everyone else, I'll be praying for you.

Bev

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you and yours are in our prayers and thoughts new
      #104894 - 09/10/04 03:54 AM
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and you are doign the right thing telling your mother... because then you can help support her.

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Re: Update #2, Mom's @#$&@ Dr. is a Quack !!! new
      #104977 - 09/10/04 11:49 AM
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I cannot begin to tell you the anger I felt yesterday when I saw my MOM, and she told me this story!

The "Oncologist" as he calls himself, told her she had Leukemia, she asked him to write it down for her so she could remember the exact name of it. He did. She and stepdad went back last week for a follow up, he told her he had never told her she had Cancer, she explained the first visit to him, he repeated that HE had never told her that.

Now, what kind of stupid idiot is this?? To put her through all of the worrying, depression, and everything else that goes along with digesting this diagnonsis. I felt so bad for her. She is making an appointment today at MD Anderson Cancer Hospital in Houston. I told her she had to call today, when we return home from the cruise, we are taking her. She seemed so relieved that she does not have to carry this on her own. Its going to be ok, because I am going to see to it that it is !!!!! After about 10 min. we were laughing and giggling and carrying on about our trip.

I am so appreciative of everyones outpouring of Love and Support, I cannot tell you how much you all mean to me. I hope I can be as supportive and loving to ya'll.

As for my Dr. appt., I love this new Dr., he is so attentive, thorough, and kind. I even forgot to tell him I had IBS until he started to examine me. He started spurting out IBS info right and left, I didn't tell him I already knew all of it, I was just so appreciative and shocked that he knew so much. The chest pain IS the Costrochondritis hanging on, its just going to take a while for it to work its way out, . At least I know what it is. HE is also sending me for blood work, and testing for everything imagineable. After all of these years, I have not been tested for Celiac. That was the first thing he mentioned.
I have to tell you, I am in awe. I love this guy!!! How blessed could I be?

As for the cruise, it has not been canceled because of the hurricane. I hear we will probably go on a cruise to nowhere, I guess that means we will go out far enough so the passengers can't see land and go around in big circles?!?! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA, and thats good enough for us. We just want to have fun !!

Gods Blessings to you all, I will update when we know more.

Thank ya'll again !

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Re: Update #2, Mom's @#$&@ Dr. is a Quack !!! new
      #104982 - 09/10/04 12:11 PM
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OMG..... I can't beleive the nerve of that guy!! WOW!! Your Mommy is so lucky to have you.... you will see to it that everything is taken care of.

I'm so happy that you found such a wonderful new doctor yourself. That is such a great feeling when that finally happens.

Enjoy your cruise to nowhere! LOL

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Oy, Gayla! new
      #104989 - 09/10/04 12:36 PM
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Hi Gayla,

Boy, you sure have had a time of it, haven'tcha!? Wow!

I have not read any of the responses you got to your post, which are numerous (I imagine you've gotten a LOT of terrific support), so I apologize if I am just repeating what everyone else has said.

I'm blown away that a doctor could make such an error as they did with your mom. I know they're human, but come on! That's quite a boo-boo! Wow. I hope her visit to the new medical center brings better, more reliable, news.

On the other hand, I have to say your mom is very fortunate to have you guys. You're awesome, you and your sis.

When is the cruise? Is there any way you could change it, or change the date? Maybe cruise somewhere else besides hurricade country? (The inland passage is supposed to be gorgeous.) Wouldn't it be better to cruise AFTER you get your medical situation under control? Kinda like a celebration of life? Just a thought...

Just remember, Gayla, the Lord does not overbuden us beyond our capacity to cope. Damn, that sure sounds trite, doesn't it?! Sorry.

I'd sue that chemical company.

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Gayla, What????? new
      #105048 - 09/10/04 05:18 PM
barbie

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Hi Gayla,

Does this mean that your mom doesn't have Leukemia? My mom has a lady in her senior citizens club that was
mis-diagnosed with uterine cancer and she didn't have it after all.

I certainly hope this will be good news for your mom. I am outraged at the doc that mislead her? I could just spit nails for what he put her through. MD Anderson is a great hospital and I'm sure she will get the best of care there.

On a good note....so happy you like your doc! I told you it was probably costo. Now you don't have to worry. Just get better.

Have a great time on the cruise. You deserve it.

Barbie



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      #105083 - 09/10/04 09:15 PM
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I can't believe that! new
      #105110 - 09/11/04 04:42 AM

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I couldn't imagine going through all of the upset of coming to terms with being diagnosed with leukemia to later be told that you actually don't. One of my very close friends was just diagnosed with leukemia last week and she's only 24. I know how much that has effected all of us and I couldn't fathom then being told that wasn't true. Well I happy for her that she doesn't have it, but I hope she startes feeling better soon. Have fun on your cruise too! I hope the hurricane doesn't effect you too much--it's headed straight over the coast of where I live so we're keeping our fingers crossed! I won't complain about the couple days of school they've already tancelled though-I've needed a break! Well best of luck to you and your family!

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Hi Shelby new
      #105130 - 09/11/04 08:27 AM
barbie

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It's good to hear from you. Sorry you seem to be having so many problems. Hope everything will get better.

Thanks for being concerned about me. My niece is in a psychiatriac hospital for now. Don't know how long. She is getting therapy. My sister is getting lots of help from friends, family and neighbors.

Hugs to you
Barbie

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