FRUSTRATED
#41277 - 01/27/04 01:09 PM
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This is so unnerving. I am just tired of my stomach hurting. It has been cramping all day. All i have eaten is one slice of heather's banana bread recipe and tea and water. I just cant figure out what the problem is. and i really really want to stop focusing life on my stomach and food!!!!! besides which i do not feel like i am eating healthy anymore. I admit my stomaach is (was) doing better on the diet but i really need more fruits and veggies...if i could only get it under control!!!! does anyone else just want to scream?????
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel better. Give it a try.
Somedays no matter what you do it seems wrong. Myself, I am not giving up because the good days are that much more enjoyable. Hang in there and Feel Better Soon
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I want to scream too!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRGH$%^&!!
I understand how you feel...I have been following the diet, drinking soo much water that I pee every 10 minutes and still have C ....focusing your life and plans on your stomach is not fun, but I believe it will get better. You must have hope...
Hang in there and try to keep your spirits up! 
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Re: FRUSTRATED
#41285 - 01/27/04 02:05 PM
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Bevvy
Reged: 11/04/03
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You have every right to be frustrated -- frustrated and
ANGRY. Every right. Go ahead, scream, yell -- we're all behind you, we're all screaming and yelling with you.
It sucks. You were dealt a raw deal. You don't deserve it. WE were dealt a raw deal -- none of us deserve it. Oftentimes I wonder, "why me? What did I do to piss Him off so?" But then I come on these boards and read everyone's story, and it calms me down a little. I realize that I'm NOT in this alone, there are so many others out there in the same boat with me. If I pissed HE off, then all these others pissed him off too. WE have this horrible thing we all share -- and knowing that absolutely makes it a lot more bearable for me. I never felt this way until I came on the boards, just two months ago.
So, Girlfriend, you go ahead and scream -- we're screaming with you. But also go into the recipe index and just read it. Print it out and peruse each item. I challenge you to not be able to find something that interests you. Go to that recipe, get the ingredients, and whip it up. Then savor it. I guarantee you, it will help you feel better. There's a lot in there that's absolutely delicious. It may not be raw broccoli dipped in onion dip with lots of dairy sour cream, and it may not be a fresh fruit salad of strawberries, pineapple and blueberries (ooooh), but you might find a yummy smoothie with those fruits pureed with some soy milk, banana and protein powder. Yum.
We're with you, Girl! Scream any time you want.
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thanks guys...that makes my head feel better at least....i will just wait out the belly....
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Re: FRUSTRATED
#41306 - 01/27/04 03:08 PM
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Kree
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Yes, I feel the same way sometimes... pretty often, actually! This screaming looks therapeutic, so I think I'll join in.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey, that does feel good. Angel, I hope you get things under control soon. I know how frustrating this all can be, because it takes a lot of time to get this all figured out. I'm also not eating all the fruits and veggies I should, so I understand that too. Just hang in there and try to de-stress! We're all here for you!
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Good advice from the others. Scream, take a deep breath, be patient. You'll get there.
A few suggestions - your stomach may be cramping more because there was nothing in it. Try very small amounts of food throughout the day. When I was pregnant, I munched on soda crackers all day long. Otherwise, an empty stomach made me nauseous.
Drink lots of peppermint tea - that should ease the cramping AND the pain. web page This page lists what to eat when you can't eat anything. I consider it a foundation. Get these foods in your tummy then build your way up to cooked mashed fruits and veggies. Sweet potatoes, mashed carrots, squash are all good options to start with - anything that can be well cooked and mashed. Applesauce is another staple. You will be able to get your fruits and veggies back - let's get you feeling better first though. If you can, take a day off and just rest. Relax, drink your tea and feel better.
You WILL get better - it just takes time.
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Up until 3 years ago, when I found Heather's book, out of desperation, as nothing was helping me, her book turned me around. You really do need to focus on the list in her book of what you can eat when you can't eat anything. Stay on it for a while, and just take good care of yourself. Do you have a heating pad?? I sleep with mine sometimes, when I don't feel well. I know when I am in pain, with my stomach all inflamed feeling, my spirits go down the toilet!! I get so emotional and depressed, but somehow we do all start to feel better, there is a turning point. Make some potatoes cooked in chicken broth, or rice. Oatmeal is my favorite meal when I feel lousy. I eat it every morning now, and it makes me feel healthy. Just try to be strong, but if you have to cry, make it a good CRY!! 
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%*$#$%!!!!!
#41359 - 01/27/04 06:50 PM
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Debby
Reged: 11/05/03
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I also need to SCRREEEEEEEAMMMMMM AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!%&$#@!!!!!!
Okay much better. I have had 3 days of my own stomach ups and downs with lots of gas and can't quite figure out what I ate that was doing it to me. Tonight I am finally feeling better and proud of myself I did not take any Immodium. I try to only take that if I absolutely have to b/c then I get C for the whole next 2 days.
Sometimes it seems like it's so difficult for people with "normal" stomachs to comprehend what it is we go through on a daily basis. How physically and sometimes mentally tiring it can be to always have your stomach on your mind. And trying to plan your day or your life around what your body can and can't handle. Then trying to make the people who care about you understand that things aren't the way they used to be and I can't go bar-hopping and I can't go out from work and stay out really late. "well you used to be able to do that". It's so depressing sometimes! I'm so glad to have found other people going through the same things and I even realize how grateful I am to be able to have a full life and a great job and the ability to do most of the things I want to in spite of my stomach.
Okay now I am done venting!!!!!! See big happy faces now....
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Venting
#41367 - 01/27/04 07:29 PM
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Bevvy
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That was a good vent. You're real good at it, Girlfriend! You said it perfectly. It's all right on.
I hate that I've lost friends over my IBS. It still hurts, even though I know they want to have fun -- I understand that. I'm not a drinker any more, no more Jack for me. What fun is a tea-toteler? Yeah, the designated driver who has to stop at bathrooms along the way.
So, Debby, you can vent any time you want. You're very good at it, and it expresses my feelings perfectly.
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Debby, I know just what you mean about that "you used to be able to do it" mentality! My friends have actually all been really great about my limitations, but it's actually me who feels frustrated about things sometimes. For example, a friend invited me out on Friday night, and my first thought was panic that she was going to say we were going to a bar! Luckily she knows me well and suggested going out after dinner, not for dinner, and just hanging out at the mall. But sometimes I just wish I could do the things I used to be able to do. Anyway, I'm the one venting now, but I just feel like I've been forced to get old before my time. But you're right, it's a good thing we have each other! You guys are all wonderful.
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I think she was kidding?  But it is confusing. People need to remember that we IBS suffers can be short tempered sometimes because we don't feel well, and that what we think are jokes don't always translate across the internet. This is why we have all of the little faces to help out!
I'm still going to assume she's kidding because who could possibly get offended at punctuation? 
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Re: Louise
#41419 - 01/28/04 06:17 AM
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Bevvy
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Maybe it's a language barrier thing.
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Re: venting
#41427 - 01/28/04 07:21 AM
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michele
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AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok, so that is a little helpful! I am having a hard time staying positive. My husband made the comment this morning, well your tummy wasn't this bad when we got married! Is that to mean he wouldn't have married me if it was?? The last year as been a bad tummy year. I follow the diet, exercise, drink a ton of water, take my fiber, blah, blah, blah...
Am I ever going to feel better? I actually have blisters on my tumme from sleeping with the heating pad everynight!! I'm tired of my clothes not fitting, tired of being STINKY! Just plian sick and tired...
Ok, enough. I have a cruise to look forward to next month 
It does help hearing your stories, I wish NONE of us had to suffer this, nut at least we can suffer together! THANKS!
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Re: venting
#41435 - 01/28/04 07:48 AM
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Debby
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Hi Michele,
My husband just said the same thing to me the other day. It really hurts to hear that! Like it's something we can control or maybe it's just all in our head. It's a struggle every day to be positive and deal with the emotional effects it has on our family.
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Hello Bev and Chinagrl, Gosh maybe she was kidding???? Okay so if she was kidding I take it all back and apologize profusely about what I said before - if she wasn't kidding well then I should be the bigger person and not be so harsh even if she is sometimes. Ugh moving on now....
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Michele I haven't been replying too often, but I know what you are going through.
My husband hasn't a problem admitting that I have IBS and GERD's, because he saw the pictures of my insides. He doesn't buy into the diet changes as much as me. He like everything to go back to the way it was and it never will.
He is getting better about my diet and trying to fix dinner knowing I can't eat certain things. He doesn't give me a hard time anymore about not eating the pizza he ordered or not eating one of his famous hamaburgers.
The funny thing is he still doesn't know I made biscuits over the weekend using soy and all my muffins are made with soy milk.  What he doesn't know won't hurt him!!!
Hang in there with your husband. He needs more time to accept your condition and I'm sure there are concerns with you trying to have a baby soon. I doubt very much he wouldn't have married you if your stomach problems were worse before marriage.
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hI angelkitty; i know what you mean,I seem to be always thinking about my stomach I bore myself to deatrh not to mention those around me. So, I try to keep it to myself more these days unless I am having a particularly bad day, in which case I can't help but talk about it.
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Yeah, I know he loves me, it just hurt my feeling and I don't think he even realized it! I have had IBS since I was 15, I'm 33 now. The last year has been just awful no matter what I do. His mother died of breast cancer was he was 11 and he watched her suffer for 3 years before she finally died. I think thats why he has such a hard time.
He gets so mad when I tell him the doctors can't do anything for it. He sees how my belly swells up so he knows I'm not making it up or anything. He is the kind of person who if he doesn't poop by 9am if thinks he is constipated!
I went and had a CT Scan done last night but it will take a week for the results so as long as that comes back ok than we have the green light to try and get pregnant!
Thanks for the support!
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