Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Grandfather passed away....

My grandfather passed away yesterday. He was a kind man and had been sick for a few months. I wish I had known him better. He and my grandmother just recently moved closer to where we live and we were fortunate to spend some quality time with them the past few years.

I'm a little nervous about our trip to the funeral later this week. It is only three hours away (one way), but there is a big snow storm being forecast for later this week and I'm scared to travel in that kind of weather. Plus, my mom volunteered my husband and I to give my older brother a ride. Which is fine with us....until I talked with my brother last night and his attitude seemed kind of pissy.

The funeral hasn't yet been scheduled but it will possibly take place Thursday afternoon. Well, my brother asked if we would be driving back to go to work on Friday. I told him it all depended on what time the funeral took place and the weather because I don't want to just go to the funeral and turn right around and leave for home. We have family coming in that I want to visit with plus I want to spend time with my grandmother and such, too. He just kind of seemed "put out" that we wouldn't make the effort to make it back in time for work Friday. I said "don't you have vacation time?" he said rather rudly "I hope so!".

I don't get time off for a grandparent's death...only spouse, siblings, parents, or parents of a spouse. So, I'm sure my brother doesn't get time off for a grandparent's death either. I was really upset about his attitued at a time like this. He's almost 40 years old (five years older than me) and he doesn't have his life together yet. He is excited about his job one day and then ready to quit the next day. He always complains about not having enough money or not having a nice (dependable) vehicle, or a house, but yet he goes out and buys "toys"...i.e. computer, cell phone, computer games, stereo equipment, etc... He got mad at the cell phone company and cancelled his account with them. So now he doesn't even have a phone so that we can get a hold of him if we need to. He doesn't want just a "plain jane" in house inexpensive phone line....he thinks he has to have an expensive cell phone.

I told my husband that I feel like telling my brother if he wants to make it back by Friday he'll have to take his own vehicle. But, it is supposedly not "dependable". Well, if he is going to depend on us for a ride...he better be thankful for the ride and go by our schedule. You can't be picky when you are depending on someone else.

I hate to talk about my brother like this, but he needs to grow up and take some responsibility for once. He tends to get in these moods once in a while and I know he wasn't very fond of our grandfather because of some of the comments grandfather made towards my brother....and granted the comments would have been better left unsaid...but he was only speaking the truth.

Anyway...the whole situation kind of has my digestive system in turmoil. Thanks for letting me vent.

{{{hugs to you all}}}}}

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