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#38317 - 01/17/04 10:59 AM
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Thank you to everyone who read my posting "Frustrated" and to all that replied. Just being able to tell my story means a lot to me, I don't speak with anyone about my IBS, except my sister, whom I recently told. She has been very supportive. I live with boyfriend, and I am too embarassed to tell him. I have trying to eat both soluble and insoluble fiber. I live in NYC so I have ample amount of resources for food at my fingertips. Last night I had a sweet potato burrito with beans, rice, apples and sweet potatoes. It was delicious. I don't feel alone anymore thanks to this message board and all of you who speak your minds.
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What a nice post.
If you care a lot about this gentleman friend you live with, you should tell him. If he cares about you, he will be supportive. If he doesn't, then you want to know that -- don't you? I don't know what I would do without the support of my husband! When I have a severe attack, I can barely move -- how do you hide that kind of thing from your partner? My hubby waits on me, serving me peppermint tea in bed, and taking care of all the household chores on his own, walking the dog and feeding him -- leaving me to "sleep it off" if necessary.
Tell your partner. Give him the chance to show you how much he cares for you and wants to support you.
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Thank you for your kind words. I have read a lot of your postings, and you just have such a kind heart and fabulous attitude! I guess that I am just really embarassed to tell him. We have been together for almost 3 years, he even followed me to NYC when I moved. But I feel like I have to hide my IBS from him. I tell him when I'm not feeling good, like "my stomach is just really sensitive." I don't really let people in when it comes to my life. I have wonderful close friends, but still won't tell them in fear that they will think of me different. I'm 25, and feel like that I will be branded as the one with the bathroom problems, too gross to talk about, although my friends and I can talk about anything. For the past month, I have really stayed away from my friends, hoping that if I get my IBS under control, that things would be perfect in my life. I work in the fashion industry and people can be very cruel when you don't fit the mold. If I tell my boyfriend, that means that he will be the first one I let in to my "life" and if he isn't supportive, I don't think that I would have the courage to tell anyone else.
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Okay -- if there's anyone who is scared of telling their secrets, it's gotta be me! I have plenty to be scared about. I was 50 years old when I finally told someone my biggest, most embarrassing secret -- and you know what? They didn't think I was a freak at all, they didn't think less of me, and in fact they didn't think anything about the secret itself!
It was such a relief to me to finally "let it go." My friend (who I told) didn't like me less, she actually liked me more for sharing more of myself with her; it created a bond between us.
I hope you get to the point where you can create a bond with your partner. It's really very helpful to have someone who can take away some of your pain. Trying to find excuses for your ailment just makes the stress of IBS even worse.
Thanks for sharing with us -- see, we have a bond now! 
Bev
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