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I became pregnant when I was 18 and gave birth when I was 19. I too was very very scared to tell my parents, but after the first inital shock both my in-laws and my parents were very supportive in everything. I now have a healthy 2 year old. I would defintely think about telling your parents though, they may surprise you. We are here for you if you need us!
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I'd second what everyone else said about it probably affecting your ibs in some way in that it will affect hormones - but also that you can't make this decision on the basis of your ibs. Having a child and being unstable for a period of time are VERY different.
Do you have resources around you that can help you? If you are worried about talking to your parents, please go see a school health counsellor, or is there a Planned Parenthood in your area? There is so much support out there for young women and teens having to go through this I would hate for you to feel alone or scared. And of course remember that everyone the boards is here for you!
But of course, take the test first! I've been in that situation before, and no, it is NOT easy. Luckily, my test came back negative even though I was SURE I was pregnant.
This is a good page on the Planned PArenthood website about abortion, choices, options etc --> http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/abortion/
PLEASE let us know if there is anything else we can do for you!
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If I'm not mistaken I think with most pregnancy tests even the early detection ones, you have to be about 14-21 days pregnant, or the results may not show up. Can anyone verify this information?
Don't make any rash decisions if you are pregnant, and reconsider telling your parents about it. I'm sure they will not be happy at first, but they'll probably then be very supportive of you. Let your heart make the decisions, not your fear or embarassment about the situation. Good luck.
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Re: Abortions
#240001 - 01/19/06 05:52 PM
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You are facing a tough decision. All I want to add is that I have a son who is 17 and I would want SOOOOO BAAADDD for my son to talk to me if he were in a situation like this, no matter how bad it is. No one loves you more than your parents, even if they may have a funny way of showing it sometimes. 
You know your parents best, but please at least consider giving them a chance to help you.
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i went on vacation w/my BF in 2004. the day we were flying back i was supposed to get my period--only it didnt come. and it continued to not come for 3 weeks! i was so panicked and stressed and felt awful internally b/c i was so stressed. i think i even took 5 tests *gasp* im sure it wouldve come alot sooner had i stopped worrying and it turns out flying messes w/your whole system but nonetheless, i know exactly how you feel. *hug* hang in there~
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There are Planned Parenthood clinics in Canada too though they are a bit fewer and farther between.
At any rate, these links will probably be a bit more helpful as they are Canadian based and give info on Canadian-centric options; particularly, legal and availability issues regarding abortions differ a little in Canada from the US (luckily, they tend to differ in women's favour here in Canada).
At Planned Parenthood Federation of Canada:
"Help I think I might be pregnant. What are my choices?"
Pregnancy & Options
At Childbirth by Choice (*pro-choice* organization):
Information for teens about abortion
*this is a really good document
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The "early response" tests can be taken as early as 4 days before you expect your next period. Standard tests are more like 1 or 2 days I think.
Whether or not she tells her parents I think really depends on her relationship with her parents.
If you think they will be totally supportive and helpful then it might be nice to have them supporting you while you are going through this - including the testing part. However if you are not sure that they will be supportive it might be a better idea to wait until you know for sure before springing it on them. But I really do think only you can answer that question - and ultimately of course it is your choice.
Legally, depending on where you live, the hospital or clinic may require your parents' consent because you are only 17. If you live in Ontario or BC though, you do not need that consent, however the age that hospitals considering "consenting" varies (though I'd imagine 17 would probably be ok most places). (I don't know where in Canada you live, but you could easliy find out all the necessary details from a hospital or clinci.) Additionally, some provincial health insurance plans cover the cost of an abortion or part of it while others don't, so if you don't have the money to pay for an abortion you may need to talk to someone who can help you out there. If your parents have additional health insurance through work this procedure MAY be covered under their plan(s) as well. At any rate, hospitals and clinics (as well as insurance companies) across Canada are legally obligated NOT to give out the names of women who have had abortions.
All that said, I would really encourage you to talk to this with your parents or at the very least another adult you trust. While having an abortion is a perfectly acceptable choice for a young woman to make, it is not an experience that anyone should have to go through alone or without guidance.
Edited by retrograde (01/19/06 09:43 PM)
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Lucrese, Please, please, give this a lot of thought. You are understandably scared and upset now. I dealt with a lot of girls going through this when my girl was in high school. Abortion seems the easy way out. It is not! Please tell your parents (at least the most understanding one). They will be hurt, but there is nothing more beautiful than the baby-grandparent bond. IBS is the least of your worries. Many girls who have abortions, regret them the rest of their lives. Please get help and don't do something you may regret. We love you. xo Bette
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I took a pregnancy test this morning, and it turned out to be negative, however, if I was to be pregnant, I wouldn't even of have been pregnant for 2 weeks. Probably more like 1 week and 5 days. Can I trust the test to be accurate? My period is quite late. Although I was extremely happy when I read the results, I began to linger on the possibility of false hope.
I have a doctors appointment on Wednesday, I will ask for a blood test if my period doesn't arrive. I'm not as stressed as I was before this morning, but I am still very nervous.
Thank you all so much for your support. The links, the advice, the consoling ..you are all very helpful. I am not going to mention this to anyone else, until I know the facts for sure. Thanks again.
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If your period is already late when you've taken the test, chances are it's accurate. The hormones show up as few as 4 - 5 days after conception, so the test should have shown positive if you were. Read the pamphlet in the test package. It will tell you how many days after conception it can detect a pregnancy.
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