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Need to vent big time! watch for expletives!
      #236691 - 01/08/06 01:52 PM
Little Minnie

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Posts: 4987
Loc: Minnesota

I had to go over to the in laws for lunch today. Keep in mind that I also had to work at 3:30 this morning a full shift. Ok so m.i.l. never understands what I can eat so she sent me this email a while ago (it is in reverse order):
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ok. thanks

----- Original Message -----
From: Tamara Hanson
Sent: Wednesday, December 07, 2005 9:22 AM
To: jennifer hanson
Subject: Re:

Low fat, no red meat, no raw vegetables on an empty stomach and absolutely no cheese In fact I am doing very poorly right now and need to be extremely careful. Spices do not bother me, but I detest cilantro and have to be careful with beans. I usually make rice along with my Mexican food as a nice buffer. I often make enchiladas with a soy cream cheese based sauce that are very good. I can eat chips and salsa if the chips are baked or are Garden of Eatin.
Here is an example of something I can eat:
Chicken Enchiladas with Spinach Cream Sauce

Conlan garnishes these enchiladas with a dollop of low-fat sour cream and fresh chives. He serves them with a side of black beans.


2 poblano chiles
Cooking spray
1 1/2 cups vertically sliced onion, divided
2 cups shredded ready-to-eat roasted skinned, boned chicken breasts (about 2 breasts)
6 cups fresh spinach leaves
1/4 cup chopped green onions
1 teaspoon ground cumin
2 garlic cloves, minced
1 1/2 tablespoons masa harina or all-purpose flour
1 1/4 cups fat-free, less-sodium chicken broth
1/3 cup chopped fresh cilantro or basil
3 ounces soy cream cheese (about 1/3 cup)
1/8 teaspoon salt
4 (8-inch) corn tortillas or flour tortillas- lowest in fat you can find

Preheat broiler. Place chiles on a foil-lined baking sheet; broil 10 minutes or until blackened, turning occasionally. Place in a zip-top plastic bag; seal. Let stand 15 minutes. Peel chiles; cut in half lengthwise. Discard seeds and membranes; slice into strips to measure 2/3 cup.
Place a large skillet coated with cooking spray over medium heat until hot. Add 1 cup sliced onion; cook 10 minutes or until golden brown, stirring frequently. Stir in chicken and 1/3 cup chiles; spoon chicken mixture into a bowl.

Steam spinach leaves, covered, 5 minutes or until wilted. Place spinach in a colander, pressing with the back of a spoon until barely moist.

Preheat oven to 350°.

Wipe skillet with paper towels, and recoat with cooking spray. Place over medium-high heat. Add 1/2 cup sliced onion and chopped green onions, and saute 3 minutes. Stir in ground cumin and minced garlic, and saute 30 seconds. Combine masa harina and broth. Add masa mixture, chopped cilantro, cream cheese, and salt to pan, and bring to a boil. Reduce heat, and simmer 5 minutes or until cheese melts, stirring constantly. Place the cheese mixture, 1/3 cup chiles, and spinach ina food processor, and process until smooth. Strain spinach mixture through a colander into a bowl, and discard solids.

Divide the chicken mixture evenly among tortillas, and roll up. Pour 1/2 cup spinach sauce in bottom of an 8-inch square baking dish coated with cooking spray. Arrange the filled tortillas on top of spinach sauce. Pour the remaining spinach sauce over tortillas. Cover and bake at 350° for 10 minutes or until enchiladas are thoroughly heated.

Yield: 4 servings (serving size: 1 enchilada with sauce)

CALORIES 265 (27% from fat); FAT 7.9g (satfat 3.8g, monofat 2.2g, polyfat 1g); PROTEIN 22.1g; CARBOHYDRATE 30g; FIBER 6.8g; CHOLESTEROL 51mg; IRON 4.2mg; SODIUM 723mg; CALCIUM 205mg;
The fat content is the most crucial. I screwed up on that this weekend and am still paying for it very severely, so I don't mean to be a poop, but I can't veer at all and not regret it. Thanks for asking!
----- Original Message -----
From: jennifer hanson
To: Tamara Hanson
Sent: Tuesday, December 06, 2005 4:55 PM


What can you eat in the way of Mexican food?







So what do you think she decided to make for me?
CHICKEN ALFREDO!
She couldn't have picked a worse thing to make for me. Alfredo sauce is the number one worst food for me and she thought because it had chicken instead of beef I could eat it! I mean how retarded is she? No that example is cruel to mentally challenged people. Then the worst part was she wasn't sorry or sympathetic at all. I had bare noodles with salt and pepper and she didn't feel at all bad! How self-centered! I swear I am never going there ever again! I cried and swore all the way home. I felt so insulted to not care one bit about trying even a little bit to make me comfortable. She even said she had started to try to think of something I could eat and then gave up. I wish I had gone apesh*t on her for once. That might teach her to think of how others feel. I can see if she had 50 people over, or even 20, she might not be able to accomodate me, but when she is having us over special because my husband gave the talk at church she should try to make something I can eat. I mean alfredo sauce!? I have to try not to think about it. But I am never going there again!!!

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"You absolutely must eat insoluble fiber foods, and as much as safely possible, but within the IBS dietary guidelines. Treat insoluble fiber foods with suitable caution, and you'll be able to enjoy a wide variety of them, in very healthy quantities, without problem." Please eat IF foods!

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Re: Need to vent big time! watch for expletives! new
      #236694 - 01/08/06 02:05 PM
Snorkie

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Posts: 1999
Loc: Northern Illinois, USA

Oh, man!!! That absolutely sucks big flinty boulders!! I would be beyond steamed, too.
What part of NO DAIRY is so hard to understand!? I'm sorry your mother in law is that way.

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Re: Need to vent big time! watch for expletives! new
      #236704 - 01/08/06 02:22 PM
meep

Reged: 06/06/05
Posts: 163
Loc: Texas

So sorry that she wasn't willing to make something you could eat. Some people in our lives will just never get it no matter what we do or say.

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Don't Get Mad, Get Even new
      #236706 - 01/08/06 02:33 PM
Bevvy

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Posts: 5918
Loc: Northwest Washington State

I can't believe she did this to you. How TERRIBLY inconsiderate! I'm glad you didn't eat the Alfredo. It would have killed me.

If it were me, I'd very politely invite her over to dinner, and ask if there is anything she can't eat or doesn't like. Then I'd make that item, and as I'm serving it, I'd flash her a big smile!

Bev

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Oooh, Bev! new
      #236709 - 01/08/06 02:47 PM
Snorkie

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Loc: Northern Illinois, USA

You are WICKED! I might think to do something like that, but I wouldn't have the nerve to carry through. Well, not with a whole meal. Side dishes or desserts, I could have the nerve to do that.

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I love the way you think Bev! new
      #236716 - 01/08/06 03:09 PM
*Melissa*

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I can't believe they did that. How rude!

I like Bev's idea though. Or hit her up with lots of tofu/soy, especially if she's not used to it, so she'll be extra gassy!

OK, maybe not, but it's fun to imagine.

In future, if you ABSOLUTELY MUST go, maybe just bring your own food. At least you'll know it'll be good and safe, and if she's insulted, oh well.

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Oooooh! Better YET..... new
      #236720 - 01/08/06 03:17 PM
Bevvy

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Posts: 5918
Loc: Northwest Washington State

I'd serve her my new Weight Watcher Tomato Spinach soup! THAT'S IT! If you want the recipe, just scream; I'll give it to ya.

I just made it, and hubby loved it. However, it had an IMMEDIATE effect on him -- he's STILL on the pot with "D"!

Maybe it'd get your MIL running......!

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Re: Need to vent big time! watch for expletives! new
      #236730 - 01/08/06 04:11 PM
Sand

Reged: 12/13/04
Posts: 4490
Loc: West Orange, NJ (IBS-D)

Oh, Tamara, I'm so sorry! I will never understand people like that. It would have been bad enough if she just hadn't paid attention and then apologized for screwing up, but to actually admit she just didn't bother to make a sincere effort! And you're right, it's especially bad since this was a special meal for you and your husband.

I like your idea of never going there again, but if you must (families being what they are), definitely bring your own food. Make something really yummy and don't share - or share with everyone except MIL.

And someone should tell her that Chicken Alfredo isn't Mexican food. Humph!

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Re: Where is hubby in all this? new
      #236740 - 01/08/06 04:45 PM
amo616

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Posts: 236
Loc: Ontario, Canada

My sister is allergic to nuts and when she was younger her friends used to try to trick her into eating nuts. And there are so many parents that are totally unsympathetic to the idea of peanut free schools. Your mother in law is cut from the same cloth. Deep down she thinks you are a drama queen and that your food issues aren't that big a deal.

Your mistake is engaging her. YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS TO BE THE POINT MAN FOR YOUR FAMILY'S RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR MOTHER IN LAW. HE NEEDS STEP IN, SIT YOUR MOTHER IN LAW DOWN, AND HAVE A SERIOUS TALK WITH HER. He can start by describing in graphic detail what your IBS attacks do to you. Then he can tell her that she MUST take your food issues seriously because IBS is a serious condition, he loves you, and she should respect you.

You taking on your mother in law is like a step mother trying to be the main disciplinarian with her husband's kids. Your husband should be taking the lead.

Been through it~!

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Re: Need to vent big time! watch for expletives! new
      #236754 - 01/08/06 05:10 PM
AmandaM

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Posts: 488


Geeeeeeeez! I am so sad to hear that! Minnie, you are a FAR nicer, better gal than me cuz I can assure you, if that were my MIL, my husband would have to drag me kicking and screaming from the house as I assaulted her with every nasty thought I'd harbored about her ill treatment of me!

I agree with another post - make your husband talk to her. Do not ask her to be more respectful of your problems, but demand it of her! There's no excuse for such blatant rudeness. If that doesn't work, then I'd go toe to toe with her myself, but that's just me. I thrive on constructive confrontation

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