some updates--a little long, sorry!
#178919 - 05/13/05 10:08 PM
|
|
|
|
|
|
hey everyone--
sorry i have not been posting as much  ive been really busy but had some things i wanted to update super-fast! i finally got to discuss my IBS with some DRs in depth so at least its been made relevant to them but i was too surprised with their reactions--i talked first w/my OB/GYN b/c that felt more comfortable since i needed to bring up eating issues and before she heard enough, she asked "who i was seeing for my depression" and recommended i "get help for my apparent eating disorder". my 2nd DR, who is a man, didnt really seem to grasp what i had said. last i checked, a MAJOR change in BMs, as in non-existant for a little more then a week--was a big deal. but he listened as though i was talking about plantars warts!! i brought all my IBS info and really laid down my stuff letting him know i knew what was going on but was in desperate need of another road or treatment. still he seemed spacey but gave me some miralax to try. i was more then *crushed* though by what my lady-doc said b/c im not suffering from any kind of depression--and certainly nothing that requires psychological help. my diet is very strict, to maintain my IBS AND my vegan principles. i just had hoped she, as a doctor AND a girl would understand. this is just why i never want to bring up my ibs--or try to fix it in front of people--b/c its too easy to define my coping ways as disordered eating. she kept insisting that i was sick and gaunt and all that but she's obviously just wrong! has anyone else ever felt manipulated by a doctor? and then felt ultra-crumby afterwards?? someone mourn with me--b/c i feel like poo  *hehe*
>>ALSO i was able to find those fiber bars--i think i mentioned them in a reply? theres a company called renew life that just came out with these organic/vegan/kosher/dairy free/gluten free/GMO free/EVERYTHING free fiber bars that have more then 50% of your DRA of fiber!!! i got them from this homeopathic store so you *may* need to hunt for them but theyre out there--and really good! 150-170 cals per bar and only 5 grams of fat! MAYBE thats alot but for a fiber bar with all that---its pretty damn good and im givin in  search for them!!
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
I can't believe they would do that to you at all! jeez! talk about insane.. I am so sorry they blew you off, but not everyone is like this and work with them to find the best solution or find ANOTHER doc!
--------------------
Dietetics Student (anticipating RD exam in Aug 2010)
IBS - A
Dairy Allergic
Fructose and MSG intollerant
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
Seriously, is it possible to get another MD? Nutritional counselling? You are so young, little bear!!! Don't let them blow you off. It's challenging to be assertive, sometimes. Sometimes, I just put on "my assertive" shoes (yes, literally special shoes) for when I have to be assertive with "PEOPLE."
It's a trick I learned in Drama class in University.
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
LOL
#178966 - 05/14/05 08:51 AM
|
|
|
|
|
Cyndy
Reged: 03/05/05
Posts: 1301
|
|
|
Not that little bear was "ignored", just liked how you labeled it! 
I have a doc who is the same as Little Bears and I have an appointment coming up next Thursday. I will need to remember to try and be assertive. Can I borrow your shoes?
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
Little Bear,
Im sorry to hear of all that happened at the doctor's. I dont blame you for feeling invalidated and frustrated. Honestly, you know your body and you know if things are "not right." Sometimes doctors tend to categorize people as an "easy fix," and they are not paying attention to what is being told of them! Don't feel frustrated and trust yourself and your own body-you know what you are feeling and what is right for YOU!
I hope you have a good day today. Sorry to hear about that!!!
Take care,
KRisten
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
i know right?!!! i couldnt believe my ears then!! i think im gonna search out a naturepath or an herbalist--and just go about this thru homeopathic ways b/c ive *had* it with modern meds! hehe
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
really?? i was told when i was in highschool to learn to be assertive--to help deal with friend and highschool drama---but i was only good at it thru letters and writing, never face-to-face what is your method??
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
Re: LOL
#179022 - 05/14/05 02:55 PM
|
|
|
|
|
|
hehe go in there with *all* the info you know! i shocked the socks off my doc with all my knowledge he didnt even know what acacia was!!
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
kristen--
aw thanks! that was sweet ive always felt judged in that way partially b/c im still only a kid--i look really young so i end up getting hassled alot when i try to take on adult-type situations. but seriously! im not gonna go thru all the trouble to make appts and waste my time and the docs, if im only pulling his leg! you know on all the commercials and labels that say to warn your doctor of changes in your bowel movements?? im coming to learn that is only a statement approved by the FDA to steal our tax dollars!!! im hoping for an easier solution--thanks for your reply
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
All through high school I let my mother be assertive for me. Seriously. To be assertive, to even ask questions, to get my needs/wants/demands met was my biggest challenge. I learned a trick in University drama class re: how to be assertive. It's a sort of "red shoe" exercise/technique. You know how Dorothy felt when she put on those red shoes in "The Wizard of Oz?" You know how certain shoes make you feel sexy? Sporty? Okay, so I started drawing/conjuring strength and attributes of character from shoes--roots/earth energy, etc. You physically change "levels." I guess you could think of it as "grounding." I love wearing boots some days (use your imagination).
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
hi again-
thanks for your reply, too! the "age factor" is NO EXCUSE and definitely even more frustrating, esp when you feel belittled by something completely out of your control. Furthermore, as you mentioned that you have struggled in the past with anorexia, it would be more frustrating for you now that you are trying to help your tummy by "treating it right" with good, nutritious, healing foods, that you are told to "pop an anti-depressant" because this has nothing to do with IBS!! I don't blame you for feeling ignored and invalidated, and I hope you get the answers you are looking for. Maybe try another doctor, get another opinion. I have had to get three opinions. In fact, my first doctor told me that i needed to accept that my situation would be chronic and learn that some of my symptoms were "out of my control." Mind you, my belly was (NO LIE!) the size of an 8th month pregnant woman. I later find out that I have anatomical problems that are exacerbating the swelling so trust your body and your intuition and don't let your DR discourage you!
Good luck, and take care!
Kristen
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
Re: LOL
#179047 - 05/14/05 07:07 PM
|
|
|
|
|
|
Hey, my PCP didn't know what Acacia was either!! I thought it was just me. The best doc I had was at an Urgent Care Facility, and he just happened to have IBS also. Although I only saw him once (wish I could see him again!) he honestly changed my life in that I can usually function now because of his advice. Hang in there, I've seen many docs, but eventually you'll find a good one. And if you don't, you still have everyone here.
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
oh i totally get that! thats a good idea  perhaps ill try? ive been meaning to go shoe shopping anyways hehe
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
Re: LOL
#179059 - 05/14/05 10:12 PM
|
|
|
|
|
|
aw thanks! thats good advice that i need b/c i cave so quickly with this 
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
|
|
yes, ive been to a mess of doctors too. its just a shame that they seem to care so little since their profession soley relies on their desire to heal! im sure they werent taught in med school to dismiss a patient's pain, complaints, concerns and questions, just b/c they the doctor, didnt have the answer. i just hate feeling so stupid and foolish but i understand theyre niave. this is honestly the best way to heal b/c everyone can help eachother together. talking about trial-and-errors is the best thing b/c you know what to try/avoid for yourself! ill keep you posted if anything w/me changes. talk to yah later!
--------------------
VEGAN ASHLEY~IBS/C
www.myspace.com/dutchflowers
Print
Remind Me
Notify Moderator
|
Posts
