Not about food..... about dating.... HOW DO YOU DO IT?
#143052 - 01/26/05 02:05 PM
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taroh73
Reged: 12/28/04
Posts: 184
Loc: chicago, il
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Am I the only person on this board who is single? How have the rest of you been able to date normally. I can barely get out of the house to get a date, and when I do, it's almost too painful emotionally to try to explain to a stranger how your daily life is a roller coaster. I can't make dates most of the time because I have no idea how i'm going to feel when Friday night rolls around. And it is soo exhausting making it through a work week that all I want to do is collapse and relax once free time is around. (either that or find a new recipe...... plan a new attack...... go to the grocery store). Is anyone else in this boat. This has consumed my twenties.... and now i'm 32 and still single. People look at me like I am crazy b/c I am a very attractive and intelligent girl. I get a lot of "what's wrong with you... how can you still be single". Because my ass runs my life!!! LOL
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I am 24 and feel the same way as you do - I have so much gas and I need to expel it - WOW - not a good impression when you are trying to date someone - also everytime I eat I feel sick - DATING?????
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I've actually been wondering that too....how to date without telling them too much...its so frustrating
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my problem most of the time is to even be physically comfortable enough to go out and be relaxed in social situations
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hahahha
#143194 - 01/26/05 07:37 PM
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hahaha because my ass runs my life.. so classic! 
I know it sucks and its hard.. I'm slightly single (in the process of the beginnings of a potential relationship).. I just pop alot of immodium and gasx and pray that i'm safe.. it definitly suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucks though.
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How do you explain cramps, gas, pain, food intolerances, etc to a person you are interested in? Nice first impression, right?! 
And since most dates involve restaurants, that's a double whammy.
I think I'm just gonna be single for a long long time.
It amazes me how many people on this board are currently dating. Maybe the IBS came after they met and fell in love already?
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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I thought I was the only single person on the boards. Its an interesting question to ask. Thankfully for the most part I have been stable for about a year with a few exceptions here or there. What I try and do is make dates that don't involve eatin at least in the beginning. I also try and make the dates after work so usually my stomach is ok. Eventually if I meet up a couple of times and gain a comfort/trust level I can tell the girl about my IBS. I have never encountered anyone having a problem with my IBS. Maybe I have been lucky but all women I have dated were understanding. As for men, I can't speak for us but I wouldn't have a problem with a gal telling me she has IBS, but then again, I have IBS!
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Nope!
#143201 - 01/26/05 08:03 PM
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atomic rose
Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 7013
Loc: Maine (IBS-A stable since July '05!)
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Since I started having IBS symptoms when I was 12... well, I would have had to start REALLY young! Heh. But seriously, that does mean that I've had IBS my entire dating life, so....
I think people in general are a lot more understanding than you'd think they'd be - especially when it's someone who's interested in you. I've dated/married/divorced/whatever quite a few men, and I refuse to believe I've just been lucky that many times. 
First date, I always took preventative imodium and carried more with me, and made sure to eat light and safe. Or suggest something that didn't involve much in the way of food - a movie and maybe a diner for coffee afterwards, or some hiking on the weekend, or something.
If things seemed to be going well, I laid on the IBS news right on the first date - but never later than the second date. What's the point of pretending it's a non-issue, or essentially lying by covering it up? If it ends up being a serious relationship, they're going to know anyway. Besides which, I always called it my "built-in @sshole filter" - if someone's going to be a jerk about my health problems, I want to know RIGHT AWAY, before I invest any time and emotional energy in a twerp like that.
Don't lose hope... there IS life (and dating!) after IBS. Honest. 
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Casey
#143207 - 01/26/05 08:09 PM
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Augie
Reged: 10/27/04
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Loc: Illinois
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I miss you!! I feel like I haven't talked to you in a while. Gotta send you an email, my friend!
BTW, you always seem to put a positive outlook on most things. How do you do that? But I honestly cannot see how dating and IBS can go together. Maybe if I was stable, but not now when I need a heating pack on my tummy all the time.
I hope you are well and not freezing your booty off!
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~ Beth
Constipation, pain prodominent,cramps, spasms and bloat!
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I am 26 and have not really dated since IBS. I have many people tell me "you're so beautiful, you have a good job, your intelligent, strong, smart, blah, blah, blah, why don't you have a boyfriend"......I don't tell them why, i just say I have not found anyone who meets my requirements. But truly I am scared. The few dates I have been on, I had to Immodium my self so up, that then I was C for like 2 days, and I am usually D. And although my IBS is very stable, the stress of a date, always causes problems.
I tried dating. I tried explaining I have food allergies and intolerances and try to pick dates that don't involve food. But nevertheless it always leads to eating in some social situation and when i don't eat, people think I am weird or anorexic. One guy was really annoying and was like "well, what can you eat..what can you drink....what can you do", he had a bad attitude, i kicked him to the curb quick.
Anyway, you are not alone. I keep telling myself to give other guys a chance, but I am just happy right now not having to deal with it.
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