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Nelly,

I am so sorry for everything you and your BF are going through right now. I wish I had some great words of wisdom for you. Unfortunately, I think this is going to be painful, death always is. Even if you are not close to someone you mourn because the chance to ever make things better is gone. I think deep inside we hold out hope (sometimes without realizing it) that we might be able to work things out especially with a parent.

I think you are doing the right thing by just being there for BF and letting him make his own decision. You both have talked about the different scenarios and it really is up to him now to figure out how he wants this to end. It just breaks my heart for him that he was treated so badly by his mother. A mother is supposed to nurture and take care of her children. I know that doesn't always happen though.

Closure is a good thing to have but sometimes it is not possible to do that in person. You can have closure without actually seeing your father or your BF seeing his mother.

I think it is wonderful that the two of you have each other and that you can lean on each other at this difficult time.

I am sending you lots of hugs Nelly.

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Janey

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