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Re: Umm...about my desire for what happens...       05/18/06 01:06 PM Edit Reply Quote Yoda (formerly Hans) Reged: 01/22/03 Posts: 3682 Loc: Canada Sweetie, my counselor once explained that in marriage, the love changes. There's first the infatuation, then the head over heels love, and there's a companionship and comfort phase. It sounds like you've hit that. It's not a bad thing, it's just as you said there's not the initial fireworks that there was. At this stage of a relationship, youneed to work on it, nurture it. You need dates, romance, silliness, companionship, time together. You have to work to keep it real. At least we do. Second, this whole thing of wanting to be a bum and party is crap in my opinion. It sounds almost like a midlife crisis - which usually happens for two reasons. One - the person looks at their life to now and thinks everything is done, so what now? or TWO - the person looks at their life to now and thinks of all the things that they want to do. I think this is about a lot more than wanting to party. I think he needs serious counselling. He owes it to you - that at least to find out exactly WHY he wants out. The party thing sounds like a 2 year old. You said that you don't have a lot of time together, so I suspect it's all of these things working against you two. I strongly urge the two of you to get some counselling - regardless of the outcome so at least you both understand why and have no regrets later (as I suspect he would!!!) Love you bunches, canuk girl. We all love you and are here for you. You are an amazing woman and he is taking that for granted. Hugs and kisses, A. -------------------- Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3. Print     Remind Me     Notify Moderator

Entire thread I'm back, and in major life crisis. _Willow 05/17/06 03:09 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Janey 05/18/06 04:36 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. 05/18/06 04:28 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. lj 05/18/06 04:24 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. jen1013 05/18/06 03:56 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Sand 05/18/06 02:27 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. cailin 05/18/06 03:27 PM Shannon Sara-Sage 05/18/06 02:10 PM I think you're totally right. _Willow 05/19/06 11:06 AM Re: I think you're totally right. Sara-Sage 05/19/06 11:24 AM I'm so sorry Shannon. My heart aches for you & your daughter. I will be praying. - nt karyash 05/18/06 12:04 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. lalala 05/18/06 09:35 AM Hugs and love to you. Nothing for him. Nelly 05/18/06 09:28 AM Nelly, _Willow 05/19/06 10:58 AM Nelly Sara-Sage 05/18/06 02:13 PM No way!!! Sara-Sage 05/18/06 09:27 AM Umm...about my desire for what happens... _Willow 05/18/06 12:36 PM Re: Umm...about my desire for what happens... Yoda (formerly Hans) 05/18/06 01:06 PM Midlife crisis _Willow 05/19/06 11:13 AM Re: Umm...about my desire for what happens... nomorepooch 05/18/06 01:25 PM No words, just many prayers. I'm so sorry!! This is heartbreaking! -nt- bamagirl 05/18/06 07:53 AM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. epa_ginger 05/18/06 06:19 AM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. michele 05/18/06 07:40 AM Whoo, you have seen a lot _Willow 05/18/06 12:32 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Snorkie 05/18/06 05:21 AM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. TommyNY 05/18/06 03:15 AM Oh Shannon... Vicam 05/18/06 12:44 AM Steel Magnolias hohoyumyum 05/17/06 11:34 PM LOL my little brother last night _Willow 05/18/06 12:26 PM Sounds like a good brother. -nt hohoyumyum 05/18/06 04:12 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Dr. Spice Yamin 05/17/06 08:57 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. EvilCats 05/17/06 08:44 PM Sweetie, I'm so sorry - nt- Toady 05/17/06 07:02 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Gracie 05/17/06 06:29 PM I agree with Gracie. -nt- Double J 05/17/06 07:04 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Angela E. 05/17/06 06:00 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Snow for Sarala 05/17/06 06:13 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. JLL24 05/17/06 05:50 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. chinagrl 05/17/06 05:50 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Double J 05/17/06 05:17 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis.(long!) Flipada 05/17/06 05:12 PM I couldn't agree more atomic rose 05/17/06 05:58 PM Oh no....... ecmmbm 05/17/06 05:06 PM Oh no....... nomorepooch 05/17/06 05:09 PM Oh shannon.... Natalie1985 05/17/06 05:03 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Blondie13 05/17/06 05:00 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Shell Marr 05/17/06 04:38 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Portageegal 05/17/06 04:34 PM Re: I'm back, and what a story to tell. rn21666 05/17/06 03:28 PM

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