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...and it does hurt when you think you had a friendship and the other person doesn't seem to have 5 minutes in their day to even say hello.

You are definitely not alone in this hurtful experience. I would just like to put out one idea, before you let the people go altogether. For the one person's who email you do have, maybe think about emailing her one more time and telling her exactly what you told us....how hurt you are that she doesn't contact you anymore. You don't have to beg her for her friendship...but let her know how disappointed and sad you are for the lose. For me, I would need to have this "closure" (such a psych term).

I admit, I haven't done this with a few people in my own life who have disappointed me, that I think I will.

I did the whole not emailing until she emailed me back...and guess what? One never did and the other took over a year...and had the nerve to ask me why I had stopped emailing her...if I was mad at her or something. No, I was just tired of not ever getting responses to my emails.

I don't like how these relationships just ended...so I think it's time I let these people know how sad and disappointed I am. I'm not going to beg them to email me or to become friends again, if, in fact, our time in each others lives has run it's cycle. But it just doesn't feel right to let them think I am fine or don't care or that the end of hearing from them didn't hurt me.

Sure, it may be time for us to part ways...I do believe people pass in and out of our lives ....but for me, if I really care about them, I need to let them know how sad it made me. I wouldn't do this with everyone...but I would for the people who I really felt more connected to.

Does any of this make sense? Or am I just babbling now? I guess I don't know what is the right thing to do!

Accept the fact that our time together is over and that is natural...or to confront them one more time and tell them how it effected me. I know it doesn't feel right how it is so unsettled now...and I always wonder how they could just drop me. But at the same time, I don't expect my last "reaching out to them" will matter over time. They still probably won't have time for me...and I might even feel like if I do hear from them it will be out of pity...which I don't want either.

Okay, I was trying to help you....and I'm just dizzy with confusion now! I tell ya, y'all must think I'm just one very wishy washy, indecisive, confused person.

And you guys would be right!

What a helpful post this was, huh Tina! Oy. Maybe it should be deleted! I'm just thinking out loud and maybe I should just shut up!

Whatever you decide, I agree...it is their loss. I know that doesn't make the disappointment any less...but it is so true.

Love ya

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~ Beth
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