Gigi, I am so sad for you for so many of lines of your story touch home. My husband hasn't talked to his father or sister for over 5 years. He rarely speaks to his motherz(I have shorten the family saga). They are mean and evil and destroy everything in the path. He came to the decision after much conseling and soul searching. It is okay not to have a relationship with your mother-in-law for your health and well being. My husband does not regret the having a relationship with his father and sister he only regrets all the energy and time he wasted on trying to please them. On another note you said your mil's mind is clear as a bell and she knows what she is saying. I am not in the medical profession but it sounds to me(even if she has been a nasty person all her life)that she is in the early stages of dementia/alzhiemers or some other mental disorder. I've read/heard a few stories that sound like hers. The one thing that sticks out in my mind is the filth and dirt she lives with not only in her house but with her own person. What matters most is YOU and YOUR HEALTH so you can take care of you and your own family.
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