Dear Gigi,
I'm soo very sorry for you. You will feel better. You are strong and intelligent and sensitive and caring. Your mil sounds like a ghastly tyrant, but also like she is not fully mentally competent. However, it is no longer your problem. You are the daughter-in-law and must remember this for your own self-preservation. It sounds harsh, but it is not your problem, but your husbands and his siblings.
My mil has been an absolute ***** since I first met her. Luckily for me she lives 1000 miles away in Perth. However, she has managed to wreck so many Christmases and holidays for me until the last one when we paid for her to come over to Brisbane for a week.
I simply removed myself mentally from her and successfully ignored the jibes and actually started finding her efforts to either make me look bad or stupid etc., funny. Without me to use as her whipping boy, she turned on my daugher and husband who just started to absent themselves physically, so in the end she missed out altogether.
I know, how I know, how difficult it is to put up with an insensitive termagant who is ruthless in her methods, but it really does work if you can just put that mental distance between you. (In your case, keep away.) My psychologist tells me that I should give myself permission not to see those people who are harmful to me.) Make sure you give yourself that permission and don't feel guilty. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
You are loved by your family, so you must be lovable. You are caring and worthwhile. Your health is paramount.
I hope you feel better and better.
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