Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Extreme emotions, dealing with the evil MOTHER IN LAW., Prime example of the effects of stress on IBS.-long post.-

I'm sorry that you are having such problems with your MIL. But it sounds like you are doing the right thing. I can't understand how a person can be that self centered and obnoxious to people who are only trying to help. You have a wonderful, giving heart and have done more than most people would do. God bless you, honey, you sound like a compassionate woman with a heart of gold. Take care of yourself, you need to make sure you are ok so that you can continue to nurture your own family who care about and love you. I'm glad that your husband stands up for you and understands what you are going thru, and I agree, I don't know how a man like your husband could come from a woman like that.

My husband is an angel as well and my MIL is self centered too, although not nearly to the extent that yours is. For the last couple of years we have been pulling their butts out of the financial choas they have created for themselves, I won't get into the ugly story, but they owe us nearly $10,000 and have yet to talk to us to work out a way to pay us back (plus we actually own their house, we had to buy it to keep them from getting foreclosed on). My MIL doesn't drive so whenever she wants to go somewhere she calls me to take her, we live about 15 mins away. I work at home and so she thinks I am at her beck and call to taxi her whenever and wherever she wants, without ever bothering to ask if I'm busy or offering to pay for gas. But after reading your story, I don't feel so bad about the way she acts.

Keep your chin up, and know that things will get better. I hope your FIL gets better, you didn't mention if he was going to or not. Your MIL may be really scared about being alone, she has had your FIL to wait on her her whole life and perhaps the prospect of being alone is terrifying to her. Although you say her mind is totally clear, I would wonder about that - anyone that would let the cats use the house as their litterbox and not clean doesn't sound like they are completely here. I had an old cat once who did that, she couldn't help it, but we cleaned up after her the best that we could and finally put her out of her misery (maybe her cats are sick as well and she hasn't taken them to the vet??). I can just imagine the smell in the house, you'll never get it completely out unless you replace all the carpet, padding, and furniture.

Anyway, take care of yourself and try to remain calm. I know how hard that is, my MIL and mother both make me crazy and I get terrible stomach aches from dealing with them. (((HUGS))) to you, hope things get better and let us know how you are, we care.

Shari

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