Thanks for your thoughts on the matter. I appreciate hearing input from someone younger and someone who has gone thru' this as a teen.
It's almost comical that you would suggest that my daughter verbalize her feelings on this . . . She would prefer to never discuss the matter EVER with anyone other than me, and would prefer that no one EVER discuss IBS in her presence. It's all entirely mortifying to her. However, she DOES tell ME about her feelings regarding it all the time. When she starts going down that path of negative thoughts, she looks for me or waits for me to be available as the one person she feels safe dumping all her negativity on. I am finding that much of the time, the best thing I can do for her then is to encourage her to be as brief as she can to make her point(s), but then STOP talking. At those negative times, the more she talks about the negativity, the more negative she feels . . . and then the worse the spasms and pain get. It's very hard for her to be brief, though, because she doesn't really know where she wants the conversation to go - she just wants/needs to dump. I'd love to hear what people's experience with this scenario is . . . What works better? Let it out (and potentially suffer physically for it) or distract yourself and calm down (and potentially let the negativity build)?
kem (mom of 12 yr old w/ibs-d)
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