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Tolerance is a door that should swing both ways       06/03/06 08:26 AM Edit Reply Quote Sand Reged: 12/13/04 Posts: 4490 Loc: West Orange, NJ (IBS-D) If we tolerate people asking graphic questions about oral sex, we also need to tolerate other people saying they find those questions offensive. Both sides of the issue should be handled appropriately (no name-calling, no admonitions to leave) and I think this post has been pretty good on that score, although not totally satisfactory on either side. Oral sex is an uncomfortable issue for many people and failing to be understanding of that fact is just as intolerant as considering any discussion of it to be beyond the pale. Someone who is quite comfortable discussing sex and IBS issues in general way (what position is best, for example, or even "try oral sex if you're bloated") may be quite uncomfortable with a more technical and graphic discussion of oral sex - or of any sex. To refer to people who are uncomfortable with graphic sexual discussions as prejudiced, intolerant, and inflammatory is no more helpful than referring to people who are comfortable with them as sick and sensationalistic. In case you're wondering which side I come down on (no pun(s) intended), I thought the original question was appropriate - the subject line clearly referred to sex - although it could have been phrased more delicately and the subject line could have carried a more emphatic warning. I thought the follow-up posts were unnecessarily graphic and technical. But of course, as Heather pointed out, I didn't have to keep reading. In a purely academic way, I am interested in watching this topic get pushed further. Since this thread is considered appropriate, there will eventually be another thread that pushes the discussion further into even more uncomfortable territory, probably - as already presaged - anal sex. Heather did a good job with this one; I don't envy her the future ones. -------------------- [Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton] Print     Remind Me     Notify Moderator

Entire thread ..Sex question Alli 05/31/06 07:21 PM Re: Conclusion! Alli 06/02/06 11:19 AM Alli hohoyumyum 06/02/06 10:38 AM Re: Alli Alli 06/02/06 11:11 AM Folks, if you are offended by sexual questions that relate to IBS... Heather 06/02/06 09:41 AM Re: Folks, if you are offended by sexual questions that relate to IBS... jules 06/02/06 10:01 AM Heather *DELETED* Sara-Sage 06/02/06 08:04 AM You can email me about this Heather 06/02/06 09:37 AM I agree! bamagirl 06/02/06 08:35 AM Re: no, no Alli 06/02/06 08:54 AM Re: In my defense.... Alli 06/02/06 08:23 AM Alli Sara-Sage 06/02/06 08:35 AM Re: ..Sex question Sara-Sage 06/02/06 06:10 AM Alli, what a mature and valid question to ask! lorien 06/01/06 11:38 PM WHAAAAAT????!!!! Bevvy 06/01/06 09:03 PM I'm letting this thread stand as is... Heather 06/01/06 09:44 AM Re: I'm letting this thread stand as is... Strixowl 06/02/06 03:00 PM Re: I'm letting this thread stand as is... hohoyumyum 06/02/06 04:13 PM Re: I'm letting this thread stand as is... Dajara 06/03/06 09:56 PM My mom did the same thing. *nt hohoyumyum 06/04/06 08:12 PM Good call, Heather! atomic rose 06/01/06 07:58 PM Re: Ditto Blondie13 06/02/06 02:59 AM Re: Ditto Alli 06/02/06 07:10 AM Re: I'm letting this thread stand as is... Alli 06/01/06 09:52 AM Re: I'm letting this thread stand as is... Shell Marr 06/01/06 10:03 AM Heather and Shell, I support your response to Alli's question lorien 06/01/06 11:46 PM Re: I'm letting this thread stand as is... Alli 06/01/06 10:20 AM This is very interesting... cailin 06/01/06 10:15 AM Re: This is very interesting... Alli 06/01/06 10:24 AM Re: Wow ...Okay... Alli 06/01/06 09:39 AM Re: Wow ...Okay... gigi 06/01/06 07:28 PM Re: Wow ...Okay... Jennifer Rose 06/02/06 08:32 AM Re: Wow ...Okay... Alli 06/01/06 08:05 PM Re: Wow ...Okay... gigi 06/01/06 09:30 PM My goodness.... Shell Marr 06/01/06 09:49 PM Re: Really, it's not ok... gigi 06/01/06 09:45 PM Re: Really, it's not ok... Alli 06/02/06 07:07 AM Re: Really, it's not all that bad... Dajara 06/02/06 10:12 AM Re: Really, it's not all that bad... hohoyumyum 06/02/06 11:06 AM Re: ..Sex question Kim2884 06/01/06 06:55 AM Re: ..Sex question Sassi0619 06/01/06 06:12 AM Re: ..Sex question Shell Marr 05/31/06 10:00 PM Re: ..Look Alli gigi 05/31/06 07:52 PM Re: ..Look Alli Gracie 05/31/06 09:51 PM Re: ..Look Alli MamaCat 06/03/06 07:06 AM Tolerance is a door that should swing both ways Sand 06/03/06 08:26 AM Thanks, Sand. I don't envy it either. -nt- Heather 06/03/06 01:22 PM Re: ..Look Alli gigi 05/31/06 07:54 PM Re: ..Look Alli *DELETED* Jeano 05/31/06 08:18 PM Considering we do have teens and pre-teens here... nomorepooch 06/01/06 06:10 AM Re: Considering we do have teens and pre-teens here... LostCode 06/01/06 08:31 PM We have a twelve year old on the boards..~nt~ nomorepooch 06/01/06 08:41 PM Mature topics area? MamaCat 06/04/06 07:20 PM Re: Mature topics area? Shell Marr 06/04/06 07:25 PM

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