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Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis.(long!)       05/17/06 05:12 PM Edit Reply Quote Flipada Reged: 03/02/06 Posts: 1026 Loc: West Michigan, USA Shannon, I'm very sorry to hear that but I have been in your shoes. Divorce is always hard, whether you're leaving or being left. And it will hurt for a long time. I'm not telling you that to make you feel bad, simply to let you know that it's normal to mourn the loss of your love for quite some time. I was with my ex for 11 years...a month shy of 8 married. He was not home often, he was a partier. He was not a horrible person but a neglectful husband/father. When I started to think about my boys growing up with him as an example of what men do and how women act, I needed to leave. Although I was the one who left, I still went through a terrible mourning period. I went through a phase where I wasn't taking care of myself. I lost a lot of weight, got very depressed and drank too much on the weekends. I had a black cloud hanging over my head. I started dating and while the guys I dated were nice, I needed something else. I needed to slow down, appreciate life, my children, and my family. I needed to take care of myself for me and for my kids. Then things started getting better. Four years later, I found the true love of my life. Now, I've only been with my husband for two years, but this relationship is on such a different level. I didn't meet him until I gave up on dating. Just like they say. The point of my long story is that things will seem/feel really bad for quite some time. BUT, once you get over the loss of what you thought was so wonderful, you may just end up with something that you could never have imagined before. There is hope for you! I will be thinking about you. Take some time to yourself if you can. Lean on your friends and family when they offer a shoulder. Don't be too proud to accept help (financially things may be really tough for awhile). Don't be in a hurry to find a replacement for your lost love or a father for your daughter. This will be hard, but in the end you will discover how strong you really can be. I wish you the best. If you ever have any questions...I've been there and through a lot. I'll be here for you. Sending hugs. Lauren -------------------- Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas" **Lauren** Print     Remind Me     Notify Moderator

Entire thread I'm back, and in major life crisis. _Willow 05/17/06 03:09 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Janey 05/18/06 04:36 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. 05/18/06 04:28 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. lj 05/18/06 04:24 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. jen1013 05/18/06 03:56 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Sand 05/18/06 02:27 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. cailin 05/18/06 03:27 PM Shannon Sara-Sage 05/18/06 02:10 PM I think you're totally right. _Willow 05/19/06 11:06 AM Re: I think you're totally right. Sara-Sage 05/19/06 11:24 AM I'm so sorry Shannon. My heart aches for you & your daughter. I will be praying. - nt karyash 05/18/06 12:04 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. lalala 05/18/06 09:35 AM Hugs and love to you. Nothing for him. Nelly 05/18/06 09:28 AM Nelly, _Willow 05/19/06 10:58 AM Nelly Sara-Sage 05/18/06 02:13 PM No way!!! Sara-Sage 05/18/06 09:27 AM Umm...about my desire for what happens... _Willow 05/18/06 12:36 PM Re: Umm...about my desire for what happens... Yoda (formerly Hans) 05/18/06 01:06 PM Midlife crisis _Willow 05/19/06 11:13 AM Re: Umm...about my desire for what happens... nomorepooch 05/18/06 01:25 PM No words, just many prayers. I'm so sorry!! This is heartbreaking! -nt- bamagirl 05/18/06 07:53 AM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. epa_ginger 05/18/06 06:19 AM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. michele 05/18/06 07:40 AM Whoo, you have seen a lot _Willow 05/18/06 12:32 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Snorkie 05/18/06 05:21 AM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. TommyNY 05/18/06 03:15 AM Oh Shannon... Vicam 05/18/06 12:44 AM Steel Magnolias hohoyumyum 05/17/06 11:34 PM LOL my little brother last night _Willow 05/18/06 12:26 PM Sounds like a good brother. -nt hohoyumyum 05/18/06 04:12 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Dr. Spice Yamin 05/17/06 08:57 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. EvilCats 05/17/06 08:44 PM Sweetie, I'm so sorry - nt- Toady 05/17/06 07:02 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Gracie 05/17/06 06:29 PM I agree with Gracie. -nt- Double J 05/17/06 07:04 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Angela E. 05/17/06 06:00 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Snow for Sarala 05/17/06 06:13 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. JLL24 05/17/06 05:50 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. chinagrl 05/17/06 05:50 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Double J 05/17/06 05:17 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis.(long!) Flipada 05/17/06 05:12 PM I couldn't agree more atomic rose 05/17/06 05:58 PM Oh no....... ecmmbm 05/17/06 05:06 PM Oh no....... nomorepooch 05/17/06 05:09 PM Oh shannon.... Natalie1985 05/17/06 05:03 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Blondie13 05/17/06 05:00 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Shell Marr 05/17/06 04:38 PM Re: I'm back, and in major life crisis. Portageegal 05/17/06 04:34 PM Re: I'm back, and what a story to tell. rn21666 05/17/06 03:28 PM

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