Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Dear Terri, andanyone who may be suffering from toxic family members..

I dont see how in the world you could possibly fix this situation. I use the word fix, because it looks to me that you would do anything, if you only knew what caused the problem, to make things better. That does not look like it is going to happen any time soon. This girl is mean, insecure, hateful, and sad, to waste the life she has been given. So many of us would LOVE to have a mothing in law just like you! I know it causes you such despair to not be able to spend time with your son and grandchildren.

The only thing I can think of,maybe you should invite your son and grandchildren over more often. Maybe try it a few weeks before thier birthdays and have a special party together, so they can see your love for them. I am sure that you have probably tried to talk to him about all of this. Actually, HE is in the position to change it all.

I have a dil who is jealous, mean spirited,selfish,.....and she is raising my 2 grandsons from my sons previous marriage. Then she has her child with my son. She is constantly calling me and telling me all of his faults, about all of thier arguements, and fights. She of course "didn't do anything to deserve any of it". OH, she is the consumate liar, if the truth hit her in the face, she would never see it. THis is a very difficult situation to live with, she made a very ugly scene at my mom's on Christmas Eve, and at my mil's on Christmas Day. Right now, I would be happy if she never graced my door again. She defintely hurt my mom's feelings, my mil has no feelings. And, I am going to tell her she owes my mom an apology, it will never happen, but I wont forgive myself if I dont tell her to do it. We have had many heated discussions about the things she has the nerve to say about my son. It has done no good, I guess the next time she does it, I am going to tell her not to do it again, then I am going to hang up the phone. Then I will tell my son about it, all of it. I have gone to him so many times, only when she tells horrible mean spirited lies about him, myself and my husband. I do not want to be involved in thier personal lives, but she does everything she can think of to keep me involved. The only reason I answer the phone when she calls is my grandchildren might need me. Sorry if I have repeated things I have already told you, but hopefully if someone reads this, I might be able to help them in their pain also.

I understand how you feel Terri, I am so worried about my little boys living in her influence. Their biological mother left them when the younger one was about 3 months and I helped my son until he met this girl. UGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!!

I do not know what to do about this either, right now, I dont know if I really want to do anything about it.

Terri, just keep on keeping on. I am praying for you and your family, also that your son and mine wake up and take control of the situation before it is too late.

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